Heavy_Handz
Superstar
Only people who are married & miserable are those who are in it for the wrong reasons and/or don’t want to put in the hard work it takes to make a marriage work & last 
Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?
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this gonna sound crazy; but I really think the fact these youngings don't dance has a lot 2 do with it 2.
They don't party no more.
The new kids don't ever seem like they have genuine fun.
They really don't party like that.
They stuck in a digital matrix that trapped their soul like a horror flick
Pardon this is long but I was thinking about this when wondering if if I could marry my ex:
One part is our fault. The other is theirs
1. It can physically hurt to not chase p*ssy
I’m not even married and when I see married couples i get filled with dread. Bc that shyt looks BOOO-RIIING
That’s if you know, and other women know, you are still physically attractive. Still in shape, hairline in tact, etc. But that doesnt apply to most brehs. The majority of unhappy brehs fall into this category:
2. Women are batshyt crazy. Full stop. And they have all, and I mean all, of society in their favor to make their shortcomings cute (Ie indecisiveness, aww she said she wasn’t hungry but now she’s hungry), or an expected cost of dealing with women (ie nagging), or somehow a man’s fault (ie if a woman is insecure, that means you’re not making her feel secure.)
Now all of that doesn’t immediately make a man unhappy. When it officially happens is if she wears you down to where you have no voice and it’s not equal. So you have to sit by and ignore her bullshyt, while you get blamed for shyt. That’s when a ngga soul dies. Dealing with women period the onus is on a man to lead, correct, coddle, etc all with the right balance of masculinity and softness, be understanding yet demonstrative. give but take etc If you give up trying or if she somehow can’t be controlled, it’s over breh. You’re now with a lifetime micromanaging boss. Go hang them towels up the right way bytch 
One part is our fault. The other is theirs
1. It can physically hurt to not chase p*ssy
I’m not even married and when I see married couples i get filled with dread. Bc that shyt looks BOOO-RIIING That’s if you know, and other women know, you are still physically attractive. Still in shape, hairline in tact, etc. But that doesnt apply to most brehs. The majority of unhappy brehs fall into this category:
2. Women are batshyt crazy. Full stop. And they have all, and I mean all, of society in their favor to make their shortcomings cute (Ie indecisiveness, aww she said she wasn’t hungry but now she’s hungry), or an expected cost of dealing with women (ie nagging), or somehow a man’s fault (ie if a woman is insecure, that means you’re not making her feel secure.)
Now all of that doesn’t immediately make a man unhappy. When it officially happens is if she wears you down to where you have no voice and it’s not equal. So you have to sit by and ignore her bullshyt, while you get blamed for shyt. That’s when a ngga soul dies. Dealing with women period the onus is on a man to lead, correct, coddle, etc all with the right balance of masculinity and softness, be understanding yet demonstrative. give but take etc
If you give up trying or if she somehow can’t be controlled, it’s over breh. You’re now with a lifetime micromanaging boss. Go hang them towels up the right way bytch 
I got a theory on this. Everyone is afraid of getting memed. They don’t want to look bad so they don’t get on the dance floor. Until society gets out of the place where we’re all hoping to catch someone slipping up so we can score invisible internet points this is how it’s going to be.this gonna sound crazy; but I really think the fact these youngings don't dance has a lot 2 do with it 2.
They don't party no more.
The new kids don't ever seem like they have genuine fun.
They really don't party like that.
They stuck in a digital matrix that trapped their soul like a horror flick
I believe finances is the socially presentable reason leading divorce, not necessarily the "true" cause.
Ever go for a walk and feel like you're about to conquer the world or you can go anywhere you can do anything then within all these World conquering feelings you come home and within 10 minutes you back to feeling that same mundaneous, well that's what comes from comfort
It dulls the effect of stimulu
It dulls the effect of stimulu
ThrobbingHood
Breh&Breh Associates™
Should’ve been a BasedHusband first Breh. But at least you’re honest. Thinking and making permanent decisions with your dikk and now you’re dealing with consequences.Currently going through this. Got a 2 year old with my chick. She keeps begging to get married but I’m just not feeling it. Sex definitely blinded me. Mentally detached at this point and contemplating leaving…
Stick it out for your child.
ThrobbingHood
Breh&Breh Associates™
I haven’t read the whole thread but the simple fact is, and I truly believe this, a lot of men really don’t like women. Now I believe all straight men love p*ssy but not the woman attached to it.
Now women aren’t much different because many of them love what a man can do for them first and foremost but when they do genuinely love a man, it’s less conditional and more emotionally based.
Too many guys as we’ve seen in this thread, get blind sided by good sex and forget that there’s 24 hours in the day and you can’t spend all of it sleeping/fukking.
So many guys I know (not my friends) have contempt for their wives that it’s actually scary. It’s easy to see why the femicide rate is so high.
A woman hates her husband, she’ll clear out his accounts. A man hates his wife, she’ll more than likely lose her life.
Now women aren’t much different because many of them love what a man can do for them first and foremost but when they do genuinely love a man, it’s less conditional and more emotionally based.
Too many guys as we’ve seen in this thread, get blind sided by good sex and forget that there’s 24 hours in the day and you can’t spend all of it sleeping/fukking.
So many guys I know (not my friends) have contempt for their wives that it’s actually scary. It’s easy to see why the femicide rate is so high.
A woman hates her husband, she’ll clear out his accounts. A man hates his wife, she’ll more than likely lose her life.
ThrobbingHood
Breh&Breh Associates™
Imagine buying a car you can only drive when it’s in the mood, but it would cost more to sell it?
ThrobbingHood
Breh&Breh Associates™
Crazy I made my post about men not liking women before I read this post.
This thread shows why 
Some of these dudes realize that when their wives settle, they are much more spiteful about it
I guess their wives genuinely think they're doing their husbands a favor by agreeing to marry them. Like as if they deserved a high value man
So she probably treats him like shyt out of resentment, hence the guy being miserable
Some of these dudes realize that when their wives settle, they are much more spiteful about it
I guess their wives genuinely think they're doing their husbands a favor by agreeing to marry them. Like as if they deserved a high value man
So she probably treats him like shyt out of resentment, hence the guy being miserable
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
This is my main fear, I feel like most married men have very little time for themselves and they have to do things like work in the office or work until they drop dead just to get out of the house without question.Married for 5 years been together 11 years.
I struggle with this. My wife and I are both still very good looking and youthful despite 2 kids so it's not the physical attraction. Our intimacy is better than it's ever been so it's not sex. Sometimes, you just realize there was so much more you wanted to accomplish or try to accomplish before settling down and starting a family; atleast in my case. And the realization sets in that you no longer have the time or resources to devote to those former goals you had prior to marriage. And by the time you get that time, after the kids have grown and started their lives, you may be too old or uninterested.
Marriage is a rollercoaster. It has its many ups, downs, loops, twists and turns. But ultimately, it's a beautiful thing when both people are crazy in love. I think, despite my regrets, my family thrives because we got married for the right reasons and were very mature about it.
I have a lot of things I still want to get done and I don’t want to have to give up on all of them just to be happily married.
What I’m saying is people need to find a woman that understands that both of y’all need to have hobbies or things y’all do y’all own. And if she doesn’t have a hobby (most don’t) she needs to find one.
I think people give their wives kids just so they can give them something to do
End rant.
I just got married by the way
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IsThatBrothaMouzone?
Superstar
Real talk...
Your relationship has to be grounded in friendship. The sexual chemistry needs to be good but....ideally the friend component is A+ while the sex is at least a solid B.
What usually happens is people marry the person where the sexual attraction/chemistry is A+ but your compatibility OUTSIDE of sex is like a C-
If you can't sit on the couch, eat pizza and watch Netflix or sports and just enjoy each other's company.....shyt won't last. A lot of folks be in lust instead of in love and can't separate the two. When you are truly with The One, you don't enjoy being without them for more than a few days. Life just doesn't feel as fun if they're not with you.
Big thing is couples should date longer and get past the honeymoon phase BEFORE marriage. Get the lusty, wanting to smash 7x/day shyt out the way. When you get down to smashing 1x or 2x/day or 5x/week etc., then you get a clear picture of what's real. Dated a lot of broads where we'd basically Netflix and Fukk from 7pm until 2am but I'd be happy when they left. With wifey, I wanted her to stay. That's the difference.
Your relationship has to be grounded in friendship. The sexual chemistry needs to be good but....ideally the friend component is A+ while the sex is at least a solid B.
What usually happens is people marry the person where the sexual attraction/chemistry is A+ but your compatibility OUTSIDE of sex is like a C-
If you can't sit on the couch, eat pizza and watch Netflix or sports and just enjoy each other's company.....shyt won't last. A lot of folks be in lust instead of in love and can't separate the two. When you are truly with The One, you don't enjoy being without them for more than a few days. Life just doesn't feel as fun if they're not with you.
Big thing is couples should date longer and get past the honeymoon phase BEFORE marriage. Get the lusty, wanting to smash 7x/day shyt out the way. When you get down to smashing 1x or 2x/day or 5x/week etc., then you get a clear picture of what's real. Dated a lot of broads where we'd basically Netflix and Fukk from 7pm until 2am but I'd be happy when they left. With wifey, I wanted her to stay. That's the difference.
Richard Glidewell
Superstar
I can recognize the look now, they say women have the resting bytch face........father's have that keeping the family safe and thriving face..........it's not even so much as misery in most cases, it's the lack of down time posters ha e pointed out and maybe even a lack of a person to truly bend an ear with. Don't get me wrong, there truly are miserable people and it mostly be them fake smiling happy wife happy life bytches, but most times what I see is a dad deep in his thoughts and feelings just keeping life moving
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