man. if you really really talk to a lot of married men these days...you realize its a bit of a scam.
its not a decision to make or take lightly
just yesterday i was coming back home from a networking event at my alma mater, and was speaking to a colleague i had met for the first time (he's in a different department). and eventually on the train ride we started talking about life, marriage and all that. upon finding out i was single he basically told me i was lucky to have my freedom and how he was pressured from his family to get married and have kids. hes a chinese fellow with a wife and a 2 year old. i broke up with my ex maybe 4 months ago and upon explaining some of the reasons he was really sympathetic cause he goes through similar shyt. he said having a child and watching them grow and stuff is interesting, but i can tell that for the most part he wishes he wasnt married.
overall there are pros and cons to both singledom and relationships though. a lot of dudes out here are being castrated and beat down by women who are entitled, unappreciative, petulant and nitpicky these days. modern women are often not worth it man. i would advise most men to be very careful and selective with who they choose to marry.
and to add on to that married to the wrong person. People be ignoring incompatibility for love far too often.
