Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?

[Ohene]

A loooooot of married men cheat on their wives as well. That is all I am going to say. Women really pushing these dudes away

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

It’s funny how if a woman walks away from a marriage because things are hard, she gets blamed because women are the ones who always initiate the end and leave, etc, but if a man wants to walk away from a babymomma because it’s hard, everyone

 

[FTBS]

just had a kid with my wife.

feel sorry for miserable marriages.

Wishing your young family health and happiness breh

 

[FTBS]

Thing is that nowadays, the average attractive woman is such a headache that as a man you get tired of juggling them. I find the issue is one or a mix of these usually:

• Garbage ass communication skills - ignoring messages, not initiating contact, taking long to respond, being passive aggressive, boring conversations
• Poor conflict resolution - Being passive aggressive, tryna manipulate you with their emotions, silent treatment, running at the first sight of conflict
• Entitlement - Having crazy expectations (i.e., i'm too good for the cheesecake factory, pay my bills, send me flowers etc., guy has to pay for everything)
• Trauma Responses/Baggage - daddy issues, been raped, been beaten, been cheated on, using all these psychological terms their therapists taught them and it affects their ability to just be in a regular relationship with you. They fear for their safety, dont trust you and generally have attachment issues.

And they are only getting worse. You will meet and talk to a woman and it feels like youre watching a tiktok or IG reel with all the nonsense they regurgitate. As a result, it's more efficient and peaceful a lot of the time to just have one solid chick and hold it down. On the flip side, women be knowing and switch up once you decide to hold em down

dudes is stuck between a rock and a hard place right now.

There is truth here. But we cant actlike its a walk in the park for women. Especially when you talking about the women that have been traumatized. You got plenty of dudes with trauma too. And if a dude got trauma there is at least one woman being traumatized as a result. Plenty of dudes that just aint bout shyt.

Its easy to point fingers and take sides but the reality is we all contribute to the bullshyt. We buy into this fairy tale fantasy bullshyt rather than approaching marriage for what it truly is. We lie to ourselves and others. Most of us straight up dont really know or understand what we want.

 

[feelosofer]

Marriages are backbone of any community. No marriage is perfect. All I can say is try and find the right woman. But I been with my wife over 25 years would not change that for the world.

 

[PHamm]

It’s funny how if a woman walks away from a marriage because things are hard, she gets blamed because women are the ones who always initiate the end and leave, etc, but if a man wants to walk away from a babymomma because it’s hard, everyone understands.

This is pure

 

[KingTut]

It’s funny how if a woman walks away from a marriage because things are hard, she gets blamed because women are the ones who always initiate the end and leave, etc, but if a man wants to walk away from a babymomma because it’s hard, everyone understands.

I have literally never seen this, ever. Men are usually blamed when a woman files for divorce because “he didn’t do ____” or “he stopped doing ___” whether or not people get both sides of the story. And men walking away from their baby mamas are always chastised regardless of the reason.

 

[WesCrook]

Females spend too much

It's really bad in this stunting era we are currently in.

 

[ShackZilla89]

My homie just got a divorce, ninja was hella happy afterward...

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

I have literally never seen this, ever. Men are usually blamed when a woman files for divorce because “he didn’t do ____” or “he stopped doing ___” whether or not people get both sides of the story. And men walking away from their baby mamas are always chastised regardless of the reason.

These female posters maaan..

 

[010101]

WAR WAR WAR..........*

 

[threattonature]

and to add on to that married to the wrong person. People be ignoring incompatibility for love far too often.

I think this is it. I know so many people that are with a partner that they think is just ok or they're with someone because they've dealt with nothing but bytches/a$$holes in the past so the fact that their current partner doesn't mistreat them is enough for them. They don't put in the work to find somebody they're truly compatible with or that they genuinely like.

Add in women's biological clocks and some get desperate to be with anybody they can tolerate. I got a close friend who just got her money up big time. Moved to a new city, met a dude she admits she doesn't find attractive at all. They don't have much in common. But she has a timeline in her head of wanting kids and buying a house so she's planning to marry dude because she doesn't want to start over with dating because it won't leave enough time to hit the life goals she has in mind. I tried telling her she's setting herself up for misery long term.

 

[KING WILL]

I think a lot of dudes marry the 1st, or 2nd chick that gives them a lot of sex.

Then 3-5 years in, the sex becomes less often and/or less exciting, they realize they don't really like this chick he married, he just enjoy sex, cuz he rarely got any.

Now he's with a chick he doesn't really like and the 1 thing he did like about her he doesn't get anymore AND throw bills and kids on top that.


That mfer hates his life.

 

[cyndaquil]

I think this is it. I know so many people that are with a partner that they think is just ok or they're with someone because they've dealt with nothing but bytches/a$$holes in the past so the fact that their current partner doesn't mistreat them is enough for them. They don't put in the work to find somebody they're truly compatible with or that they genuinely like.

Add in women's biological clocks and some get desperate to be with anybody they can tolerate. I got a close friend who just got her money up big time. Moved to a new city, met a dude she admits she doesn't find attractive at all. They don't have much in common. But she has a timeline in her head of wanting kids and buying a house so she's planning to marry dude because she doesn't want to start over with dating because it won't leave enough time to hit the life goals she has in mind. I tried telling her she's setting herself up for misery long term.

The timelines and expectations are killing people's happiness. Life isn't a checklist where if you check off all these boxes then you win. Not everyone should get married. Not everyone should have kids. And that's OK. Comparison is the thief of joy.

My ex was my best friend. We had a lot in common we were close to getting married but differences became apparent. Our timelines for marriage and kids didnt match up. She became highly religious. I am not. She began attempting to push it on me and I grew resentful. She was not frugal, I was. Her family was trashy, came with a lot of drama, and not necessarily my cup of tea. She had lots of issues regarding mental health and past traumas she was still working through. Had I ignored all that and married her I would've lived the rest of my life unhappy or divorced her in a few years and be looking in an even smaller dating pool.

It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make. Even though I ended the relationship sometimes I still miss her but I know it was the best decision for the both of us. I think some people get comfortable and too afraid of change that they don't make the decision to end it when dealbreakers are presented. It's not easy. But it's worth it.

 

[Mowgli]

bytch ass nikkas