Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?

[WaveMolecules]

I feel like people do a disservice by not being specific. What WORK do you mean. Help the brehs. I hate when people just ambiguously say ‘marriage is hard work’



You most got a good one bc I ain’t never seen that percentage in my life. Women’s insecurities are far more than 5% and typically it increases exponentially when you’re committed and she’s fallen for you

Yeah this isn’t my first relationship. Having a partner isn’t easy but the good outweighs the bad. Honestly feeling “true love” or having a “soulmate” is something that I wish everyone could experience. It gives life a different meaning. The sad thing is that a lot won’t experience it. It’s something that takes compassion PATIENCE and a lot of work but its worth it. We don’t even have kids so it’s not like I’m stuck. It’s a beautiful feeling.

 

[Ashley Banks]

The main reasons I’ve seen are:

He’s just a miserable person all around, would be miserable single, in a relationship, married. He’s just unhappy.

Loved the wife initially when she was child free and not stressed out now that she has children, job, home etc she’s not as fun to be around.

He just doesn’t want to be married.

He doesn’t want to be with her anymore.

He didn’t want kids or didn’t want as many kids as they have and now he hates life.

His wife is cheating and he’s scared to leave because of money.

Miserable because of work/family/children, the marriage has nothing to do with it.

 

[Ohene]

man. if you really really talk to a lot of married men these days...you realize its a bit of a scam.
its not a decision to make or take lightly

just yesterday i was coming back home from a networking event at my alma mater, and was speaking to a colleague i had met for the first time (he's in a different department). and eventually on the train ride we started talking about life, marriage and all that. upon finding out i was single he basically told me i was lucky to have my freedom and how he was pressured from his family to get married and have kids. hes a chinese fellow with a wife and a 2 year old. i broke up with my ex maybe 4 months ago and upon explaining some of the reasons he was really sympathetic cause he goes through similar shyt. he said having a child and watching them grow and stuff is interesting, but i can tell that for the most part he wishes he wasnt married.

overall there are pros and cons to both singledom and relationships though. a lot of dudes out here are being castrated and beat down by women who are entitled, unappreciative, petulant and nitpicky these days. modern women are often not worth it man. i would advise most men to be very careful and selective with who they choose to marry.

 

[ba'al]

Loved the wife initially when she was child free and not stressed out now that she has children, job, home etc she’s not as fun to be around.

This is why I got a vasectomy. I'm not dealing with post partum vagina!

 

[Ohene]

I love being married and I love my life. I like and love my Wife and kids. Been together for 20 years and Married for 14.

Amazing

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Look.
I've been married TWICE. and DIVORCED TWICE.

This is my advice. Do with it what you will.

Take love and all that nonsense out of it. Let women make decisions like that. As a man you can not afford to.

Ask yourself is this woman really compatible with me? Can I stand to talk to her when she's not nekkid? Does she have anything beyond gossip and tv shows to talk about? What does she want out of life? Whatever your sex life is LIKE NOW...understand that it WILL slow down once she has you committed. I don't know why women do this but they do. This is not a myth.

I repeat. Do NOT get married for love. You will lose.

That's all I have for you.

I'm not married or even in a relationship but I've come to realize just how many women I've dated and fukked that I would never want to spend any time around if we didn't have sex and it's stunning because I know for a fact that there's guys in committed relationships and marriages who are with women they only tolerate because of sex.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Because a lifetime of compromise and sacrifice kinda sucks and ultimately breeds resentment. Having children is really the only thing that makes it bearable, and for a lot of relationships even that isn't enough.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

I'm not married or even in a relationship but I've come to realize just how many women I've dated and fukked that I would never want to spend any time around if we didn't have sex and it's stunning because I know for a fact that there's guys in committed relationships and marriages who are with women they only tolerate because of sex.

I was one of those men who let sex lead me to commitment....

Never do this!

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

man. if you really really talk to a lot of married men these days...you realize its a bit of a scam.
its not a decision to make or take lightly

just yesterday i was coming back home from a networking event at my alma mater, and was speaking to a colleague i had met for the first time (he's in a different department). and eventually on the train ride we started talking about life, marriage and all that. upon finding out i was single he basically told me i was lucky to have my freedom and how he was pressured from his family to get married and have kids. hes a chinese fellow with a wife and a 2 year old. i broke up with my ex maybe 4 months ago and upon explaining some of the reasons he was really sympathetic cause he goes through similar shyt. he said having a child and watching them grow and stuff is interesting, but i can tell that for the most part he wishes he wasnt married.

overall there are pros and cons to both singledom and relationships though. a lot of dudes out here are being castrated and beat down by women who are entitled, unappreciative, petulant and nitpicky these days. modern women are often not worth it man. i would advise most men to be very careful and selective with who they choose to marry.

I've seen this and been in this as well.

Most people have no business being married...mainly because they are getting married for the wrong reasons.

 

[JA_Carter]

 

[ItsPeople]

Marriage takes the fire out of a man. It’s soft neutering.

 

[Trav]

How u gon win if u ain't right within?

 

[Black Magisterialness]

The main reasons I’ve seen are:

He’s just a miserable person all around, would be miserable single, in a relationship, married. He’s just unhappy.

Loved the wife initially when she was child free and not stressed out now that she has children, job, home etc she’s not as fun to be around.

He just doesn’t want to be married.

He doesn’t want to be with her anymore.

He didn’t want kids or didn’t want as many kids as they have and now he hates life.

His wife is cheating and he’s scared to leave because of money.

Miserable because of work/family/children, the marriage has nothing to do with it.

This plus they are growing apart because they didn't prioritize quality time.

They ain't doing that nasty shyt they did when they were dating, so the sexual fire is gone.

One or both of them is refusing to take accountability for their communication issues.

They weren't compatible to begin with, but their relationship was one of convenience.

 

[Sad Bunny]

the nagging will give me a heart attack one day

 

[BandOfGypsys]

Cause alot of them settle for bytches