Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?

[ba'al]

What I'm calling bullshyt on is a old heads randomly telling you not to get married and how bad it is. It is on par with announcing to the world that you're struggling financially which people don't do because for the sake of pride.

From someone that's married, marriage is the dumbest shyt a nikka can do I been in this shyt for damn near 20 years. Don't be dumb like me. Stay single...I can't even drop a big Dookie without that bytch telling me how repulsive it is

 

[JLova]

Most of the time they chose a woman based off of superficial shyt and are dealing with it now. They didn't actually look for the right qualities in a partner.

Then lets not forget that a lot of the women fall off. Usually after kids. Sex drive falls off and they generally looking like shyt.

Men get married expecting their wife to stay the same. Women get married expecting their husband to change (improve, mature, etc).

I think the ones who are truly miserable have a lot of regret.

 

[Braman]

It’s not always been pretty, but this is hard work.

Marriage is a rollercoaster. It has its many ups, downs, loops, twists and turns

Its work.

I feel like people do a disservice by not being specific. What WORK do you mean. Help the brehs. I hate when people just ambiguously say ‘marriage is hard work’

its a 95/5 good/bad split.

the rare times its "bad" its due to dealing with her problems. her anxiety, stress, drama, etc. she doesnt cause me strife to be honest.

You most got a good one bc I ain’t never seen that percentage in my life. Women’s insecurities are far more than 5% and typically it increases exponentially when you’re committed and she’s fallen for you

 

[analog]

There needs to be a marriage/relationship training and testing cause folks have no idea how to address their own problems, let alone others.

All manner of conflicts come up, zero conflict resolution and communication skills. Folks feel like their they're talking to a brick wall until they check out, cheat, divorce, etc.

You wouldn't buy a car until you learned how to operate one. And you also wouldn't buy a car without giving it a thorough inspection. Folks walking around with all manner of undiagnosed, untreated personality and mood disorders, amongst other things.

High key, these things need to be identified and disclosed up front just like you would get tested for STDs prior to entering a relationship. Mental and emotional healthy/maturity is just as important as the physical.

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

Because their wives are bytchy af and don’t fvck them on a regular basis.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Even when the husband happy it don't mean shyt cause the whole time the wife could hate the marriage and be fukking a single nikka that don't even like the bih!

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

at a recent wedding he had no date and looked a bit sad

Did you ask him why or just making assumptions?

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

Look how many unmarried Coli brehs are miserable.

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

I recognize your situation because I'm also living this bruh. Keep your head up bruh. You ever need to vent hit my PM bruh, I'll listen to you.

She violent as well?

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

plus she got violent at times.

We talking throwing things, grabbing you or your shirt or straight up slaps? Punches?

 

[BlackBall]

We talking throwing things, grabbing you or your shirt or straight up slaps? Punches?

A bit of all that

 

[MaxPain]

There needs to be a marriage/relationship training and testing cause folks have no idea how to address their own problems, let alone others.

All manner of conflicts come up, zero conflict resolution and communication skills. Folks feel like their they're talking to a brick wall until they check out, cheat, divorce, etc.

You wouldn't buy a car until you learned how to operate one. And you also wouldn't buy a car without giving it a thorough inspection. Folks walking around with all manner of undiagnosed, untreated personality and mood disorders, amongst other things.

High key, these things need to be identified and disclosed up front just like you would get tested for STDs prior to entering a relationship. Mental and emotional healthy/maturity is just as important as the physical.

Then no one would be married lol

 

[analog]

Then no one would be married lol

Cause no one would pass? I think it'd be fine cause for those who are committed cause they would take the steps to better themselves and most likely end up with another person who put in the work as well.

We might have fewer marriages, but I think it'd lead to more successful unions.

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

A bit of all that

 

[Poetical Poltergeist]

Did you ask him why or just making assumptions?

Assumptions