Simple to me: People are free to do what they want but what they do speaks to their value system. I didn't want a wife that treated sex as no big deal. I didn't want a wife that was willing to let random men inside her. I know feminists like to think that being active with lots of guys is empowering but from most guys' perspective (especially teens and early 20s when I was last single), you're a notch on the wall, a memory to jerk off too, something to dap your nikkas up about. Every man knows the feeling of seeing an ex with another man and being like
I had my dikk down her throat and her back bent over. I'ma be real: I didn't want a wife with a bunch of nikkas reminiscing about her or giving that look when she came through. And again, I wanted a woman that thought the same way about sex as I did. Now I wasn't too judgemental because I had a hoeing stage and I wasn't trying to be hardcore about numbers but there is a point of no return, especially when you're young so even the 'past' wasn't that long ago. Luckily I found a woman that checked those boxes for me