Kornball The Conqueror
Superstar
shyts crazy, single mother with a new born speaks volumes. Like dam yall was cool fukking for months then boom before the child turn one its over already
Why Are Most Couples Breaking Up Right After Having A Baby?
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LOL!
I saw this phrase and thought “who the hell is this weirdo?” then looked at the u/n and wasn’t disappointed lmao
Eternally Jaded
Superstar
Out of my circle of friends, only two are still with the mother of their children.
Lo and behold, they're the ones who had the kids after they were married.
One had a girl n then a few years later a son n they're done, snip snip.
The other had three girls in short succession and then waited and had a boy, again snip snip.
All my other friends who swore "we're gonna be a family and do it right" were all "I don't wanna talk about that bytch" status in less than a year after birth.
None of the "we're gonna be a family" dudes did it the conventional way.
I'm not saying marriage is a must or shield against separation/breakups but maybe the people willing to take it there are willing to stick it out, nah mean?
Lo and behold, they're the ones who had the kids after they were married.
One had a girl n then a few years later a son n they're done, snip snip.
The other had three girls in short succession and then waited and had a boy, again snip snip.
All my other friends who swore "we're gonna be a family and do it right" were all "I don't wanna talk about that bytch" status in less than a year after birth.
None of the "we're gonna be a family" dudes did it the conventional way.
I'm not saying marriage is a must or shield against separation/breakups but maybe the people willing to take it there are willing to stick it out, nah mean?
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Joe Budden
Banned
What you think is the problem though?
onthereal
All Star
Tinder is nothing but single moms. Some of these chicks have 2-3 kids.
People playing house without the commitment is what it is
Yup, Ivwas talking about this in that thread where more women are going straight to IVF and avoiding this option.
The end result is the same.
humminbird
Veteran
this thread is depressing
GreenGhxst
Veteran
thats a wild outlook breh breh
Piff Perkins
Veteran
Lots of reasons but I think the main ones are
1. Relationship was struggling and they thought having a baby would bring them closer. In reality it magnifies whatever problems existed
2. Many men are mentally, emotionally, and financially unprepared for a child. You're no longer a priority - the child and by proxy the mother are. Meaning you get less attention from both, and that weird dynamic of semi-competition for the mother's attention becomes a problem for many men. Instead of talking about it they run away. Not to mention the financial aspect. Many couples don't do any preparation for the child, they just have it. And suddenly the man is the main bread winner, money that once went to leisure is going to the child/household, and then men start calculating future costs. And again instead of talking they run away.
I put most of the blame on men for the simple fact that in most cases, the breakup occurs while the baby is a still nursing or not even in kindergarten yet. The mother is really in no position to escape - sure you can put your child up for adoption but that's rare. The father can escape though, and often does.
1. Relationship was struggling and they thought having a baby would bring them closer. In reality it magnifies whatever problems existed
2. Many men are mentally, emotionally, and financially unprepared for a child. You're no longer a priority - the child and by proxy the mother are. Meaning you get less attention from both, and that weird dynamic of semi-competition for the mother's attention becomes a problem for many men. Instead of talking about it they run away. Not to mention the financial aspect. Many couples don't do any preparation for the child, they just have it. And suddenly the man is the main bread winner, money that once went to leisure is going to the child/household, and then men start calculating future costs. And again instead of talking they run away.
I put most of the blame on men for the simple fact that in most cases, the breakup occurs while the baby is a still nursing or not even in kindergarten yet. The mother is really in no position to escape - sure you can put your child up for adoption but that's rare. The father can escape though, and often does.
But it's often true. Most women desire to be mothers rather than partnered or a wife.
Most people aren’t in relationships either long enough or with enough determination (usually a mix of both). The way I look at it, staying with your partner for a few years if you have the time is like a soft training course. I know with my wife taking care of her when she’s sick, her waking me up cause she has a nightmare or thinks she hears something, trying to cuddle me hard in the morning or middle of the night, having to handle her wild female emotions which is the equivalent of a baby losing their shyt and nothing you try shuts them up to me. I know some of these things lightly mimic child rearing to a degree so after close to 3 years I think I’m mentally prepared enough to deal with those annoyances of child rearing
Although she wants twins so if we have them, I already know imma have to be on my samurai jack shyt to make it through.
Although she wants twins so if we have them, I already know imma have to be on my samurai jack shyt to make it through.
