I feel like Insecure covered this topic pretty well in the last season. Lot of women feel like the baby is theirs alone and unknowingly leave men out of intimate decisions. Lot of men also don't take into consideration the minute to minute and day by day involvement it takes to raise a bad ass kid, along with emotional changes and post partum etc.
How many men are gonna sit there rocking a baby to sleep and letting it rest on their chest for long periods of time? How many women are gonna ask a man to get formula and pull her titty out just in case she forgets when it starts crying late at night?