Why Are Most Couples Breaking Up Right After Having A Baby?

[Apollo Creed]

They were never together to begin with

nikka got his sex and the chick got the baby and attention and potential for child support

 

[General Mills]

Noticed this many years ago. I've seen couples who were perfectly fine until the baby was born, and then shyt seemed to go left.

I know of at least 5 young married couples this happened too. Everything was perfectly fine until the baby was born.

A year later I saw 5 divorces

 

[FTBS]

People really not understanding how much time, money and energy goes into raising kids

I get generation trauma and doing only what you know. But especially if you grew up struggling in a single parent house hold, why would you think having kids.

1. When you don't own a house or have the space.
2. Don't have a proper job to hold you down
3. Think things just magically happen and work themselves out in this life, when that's never been the case

I know a chick that got pregnant on purpose when her and the dad were still living with their respective parents. No surprise they broke up and he all kinda trifling nikkas now. Her parents been together too so she aint just doing what she see. Whenever I see her post some "single mom life is hard" or "dad's need to step up" shyt I

People don't think it through or think its a game...until it's not.

 

[BaggerofTea]

It be poor decision making on the woman sometimes .


Distant family member decides to have the child of a bum ass doorman who put hands on her recently.

Now we live in the 21st century where birth control is freely available and you can get abortion in certain states.


Why the fukk are you breeding with a bum who can't provide for you

If you live in a state where bc and or abortion are available.


No excuse. This is the supposed most advanced country on the planet


No excuse for unplanned pregnancies in 2024.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

and lack of sleep. my bff just had twins and they got me coming over there to help out just so they can get some sleep. them boys had me up all night... then i had to work all day?! i was hella out of it for two days later lol

i know they be annoyed with each other at every little thing now. prayers out to them

they are so fukkin adorable though.... it's a labor of love

so they split up shortly thereafter and now they hate each other.
my friend just had another baby with a different woman.
i watched the twins while he went to the labor and their mom was out of town.... they are still fn adorable lol.

 

[OperationNumbNutts]

This doesn't apply to me so just asking. Could it be the lack of difficult discussions on how the child will be raised being part of the problem?

 

[Alvin]

so they split up shortly thereafter and now they hate each other.
my friend just had another baby with a different woman.
i watched the twins while he went to the labor and their mom was out of town.... they are still fn adorable lol.

you a woman?

 

[lib123]

Lots of reasons but I think the main ones are

1. Relationship was struggling and they thought having a baby would bring them closer. In reality it magnifies whatever problems existed

2. Many men are mentally, emotionally, and financially unprepared for a child. You're no longer a priority - the child and by proxy the mother are. Meaning you get less attention from both, and that weird dynamic of semi-competition for the mother's attention becomes a problem for many men. Instead of talking about it they run away. Not to mention the financial aspect. Many couples don't do any preparation for the child, they just have it. And suddenly the man is the main bread winner, money that once went to leisure is going to the child/household, and then men start calculating future costs. And again instead of talking they run away.

I put most of the blame on men for the simple fact that in most cases, the breakup occurs while the baby is a still nursing or not even in kindergarten yet. The mother is really in no position to escape - sure you can put your child up for adoption but that's rare. The father can escape though, and often does.

Why would you put most of the blame on the men? A lot of times there are tons of red flags that the dude won't be a good partner and/or father (selfish, dumb as rocks, etc) or they don't even really know who the man is as far as character, but the women decide to have the child anyways. In most cases both deserve equal blame unless they were married before the child was conceived and the dude walks out.