Men and women are not the same.
For attractive women sexual attention is as abundant as air. they prioritize filtering QUALITY of attention. That's why women resist being objectified, because they can rouse that sort sexual attention just from a glance. Being "fetishized" by a white dude is at the same level as getting hit with a "damn shorty you got a fat ass, can I get your number" from a black dude. It's shallow, took 0 effort on her part, common and has nothing to do with her as an individual. The most they can get from this is a small amount of validation. And probably not even that cause females aren't that receptive to genuine compliments if it comes from the wrong dude the wrong way.
Men don't have that same abundance of sexual attention. If they did would males spend so much money just to court females and receive a fraction of the attention women get for nothing? Dudes get gassed just from extended eye contact from randoms in public ffs. Sexual attention is so valuable to males, some guys work their whole lives to be rich enough to receive it from women or to be able to buy the p*ssy outright. Word to
@MikeElam23 . If you gave a man a hat that granted him the same amount and quality (shallow) attention from women they get from males that muthafukka would wear it every day. that said, being a fetish has tangible benefits for a man namely i.e. saving money on p*ssy/dates. So what man doesn't want to be a fetish? Tell me, what man is complaining about getting p*ssy based on a perceived fetish be it skin color, height etc.