what is there is reason why girl bounce back easily from break up compare to guys

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Not true, took me a year to get over my last ex - but I was genuinely in love with him. Depends on how deep the feelings were. Before him, I knew I was just kind of settling or “in like” liked the company from time to time or hanging out, not that serious. For me, after the last break up, even though I initiated the break up, I kind of retreated into solitude for a while, depressed and lonely bc I had to adjust to not being with him and didn’t want to be with anyone else. With the others, it was more of finding distractions to move on. Like fukkk it, wasn’t that into it anyway type of deal.

But on the flip side of that, I would never let the last ex know I was hurting/weak or bothered, even though he was on my mind all the time. Just played it off like I didn’t care so he wouldn’t think he had control over me, avoided him and didn’t engage him - not return his texts or calls , even though I really really wanted to. Didn’t rebound or f with no one either, bc I wanted to got my mind right, back on my square.

To this day, he still tries to get back together .....leaves messages, and what not. it still triggers me emotionally , but the shyt was toxic as hell, so I stopped romanticizing the situation, just learned to live with that loss, bc it happened for a reason.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Women usually have somebody in the wings waiting....for men, its about pride.ego which why we take it harder

Exactly. Heaux gonna heaux.

 

[Gold]

Not true, took me a year to get over my last ex - but I was genuinely in love with him. Depends on how deep the feelings were. Before him, I knew I was just kind of settling or “in like” liked the company from time to time or hanging out, not that serious. For me, after the last break up, even though I initiated the break up, I kind of retreated into solitude for a while, depressed and lonely bc I had to adjust to not being with him and didn’t want to be with anyone else. With the others, it was more of finding distractions to move on. Like fukkk it, wasn’t that into it anyway type of deal.

But on the flip side of that, I would never let the last ex know I was hurting/weak or bothered, even though he was on my mind all the time. Just played it off like I didn’t care so he wouldn’t think he had control over me, avoided him and didn’t engage him - not return his texts or calls , even though I really really wanted to. Didn’t rebound or f with no one either, bc I wanted to got my mind right, back on my square.

To this day, he still tries to get back together .....leaves messages, and what not. it still triggers me emotionally , but the shyt was toxic as hell, so I stopped romanticizing the situation, just learned to live with that loss, bc it happened for a reason.

a year??

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Like the next nikka dey talk to, dey end up marrying

Rebound shyt... a means of getting over you or symbolically replacing something they lost to get over hurt feelings or to cope with the loss . Seen this time and time again, and usually they end up regretting it , in a worse situation or with a dude that treats them like shyt.

 

[Spotja]

because the next nikka usually put out more cash towards her way

 

[KingJay]

This not even true

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

because the next nikka usually put out more cash towards her way

Nahhhh.. I’ve made more money than my exes so not always or functioned on my own. For me, Felt I wasn’t getting the emotional support or we were polar opposites that just clashed; so I checked out and prepared myself before it was finished

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

a year??

Real talk - bc we were off and on, made things worse. I was conflicted, damn it.. don’t judge. There’s always that “one” that’s hard to get over.

 

[Axolotl]

I disagree with this. In a breakup women usually get a new piece way faster than men do, like others have said, that new piece is usually already in the picture on some level. But I think in most cases men land on their feet quicker in terms of finding a new piece that actually lasts. Getting fukked on is one thing, but finding someone you really like and likes you back the same is another story. Seen it time and time again in my own life and others around me too. I’ll leave my details out but my moms is the perfect example, she busted out with a new piece right after she divorced my pops, so soon that the timing was suspicious really, dude eventually ended up being a scumbag and she spent years “dating” while my pops got a serious gf within the same year. Love her to death but I know that tore her soul apart. That’s how it usually works from I’ve seen.

Factz. Its easier for a woman to find a fukk Buddy, some nikka whos going to dikk her down a couple of times before moving on, while its easier for a man to find a Mate.

 

[Gwoppo]

Rebound shyt... a means of getting over you or symbolically replacing something they lost to get over hurt feelings or to cope with the loss . Seen this time and time again, and usually they end up regretting it , in a worse situation or with a dude that treats them like shyt.

I think you may be right. I feel like I’ve picked up on this over time, or maybe I’m over analyzing it. Idk. Can’t say I don’t care, but I have moved on.

The one thing that fukks guys up when getting over an ex, is peer pressure and this cultural hyper masculinity. Majority of ppl need time after a breakup from a relationship, but da homies and society will look at you as weak (total opposite for women). Everybody wants to get over their ex as quick as possible, but everybody is different.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Currently going through the tail end of this.

I'm happier and more mentally clear than I've been in a long time. We're no longer wasting each others time just ambling along like most relationships are doing. We spent the last two years doing that. Do I miss her? Sure do. Its hard to be going home to someone and suddenly no longer doing so. but we grew apart, as most couples do whether they care to admit so.

I do see her fairly regularly for other matters and we talk sensibly sometimes.. Neither of us are celebrating though. It's been tough. She has vented more than me with her friends though and boy I heard she was saying some wicked things about me. Mostly through anger but that's always tinged with truth.

But please don't believe any female who's been with a guy for a significant amount of time is not feeling that hurt as deeply, even more so. My ex was honest with me and said she lies to her friend support group about how happy she really is and has made mistakes she regrets.

They told her she needed new dikk to get over me. Emotionally vulnerable and new dikk doesn't always work in most cases. Despite the temporary boost. Both guys she since slept with have aired her. One of the guys, she has since told me she was already feeling at a BBQ we had gone to the previous summer, so please believe your girl already has a guy or two on her mind even if she's in a relationship.

All the 'advice' her dumb friends told her has amounted to nought, and the guys she has tried to date have all disappointed. She told me she feels depressed.

I feel really sorry for her tbh. I still love this chick, I can't turn that off. But any romance we had is gone. Its strictly like caring for a very close friend.

Meanwhile I'm now living single, have multiple fun ladies on deck. Enjoying all the dating I'm doing.

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Rebound shyt... a means of getting over you or symbolically replacing something they lost to get over hurt feelings or to cope with the loss . Seen this time and time again, and usually they end up regretting it , in a worse situation or with a dude that treats them like shyt.

 

[Bobby Lashleys eyebrows]

Some women get fat, let themselves go and stop giving a fukk in relationships but get glammed up, depressed, lose weight and create smoke mirrors after a break up, rinse and repeat. Men are opposite always evolving and trying to be better during and after. Just my experience, I think about breaking up with her a lot. Besides the financial benefits, it frees a lot of clout. There's no such thing as a good women, they could be as devious as us so treat them all the same. I'm looking.

 

[Bobby Lashleys eyebrows]

If she initiates the breakup, she's been done with you emotionally for at least 2-3 months. Dudes dont even pick up on the signs (witholding sex, distant, in her phone more, going out more,etc).

Patrice O'neal had a perfect thing for this. He said however long it takes a woman to get you to be a bytch over her(AKA fall in love/simp over her) is how long she will stay to enjoy watching you be a bytch til she just gets tired of yo pathetic azz. Then she's on to the next victim.

This is like the first and only sign I need. Once they withhold sex, I stop giving a fukk and looking for sidepieces.

 

[R.E.N. Spells Ren]

How invested one is in the relationship is a much greater factor than their sex. I've seen both sexes bounce back like it was nothing and I've seen both sexes drag. Usually when it's different for the same relationship it's cuz they had different views of that relationship. And length of the relationship isn't necessarily a tell either, sometimes the end of a long relationship brings relief.