What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[Unbothered]

This is very true. in my case without going into much detail. After I started dating my husband and we got serious, the jealousy came out on both sides for us. He found out his homegirl wanted to be with him but he didn’t see her like that and two guy friends out of my friend group started moving and acting funny. one even told me I deserted him. so We had to drop those friends.

Wow, I mean how did that make you feel? Do you ever think back on how you've could've made it work better between those or you believe it was for the best to just go your separate ways.

 

[Long Live The Kane]

thread borderline unhinged then posting fb status to boot?

Not gonna lie…OP might slick need his ass beat

A broad you started with romantic intentions a few months ago but turned to a text buddy because you were bullshytting around….gets a for real for real boyfriend so she tells you she’s falling back cause she’s taken…and you jumped on Facebook shooting subs bout her dude being insecure and whining about it on here


Who wants their girl texting some nikka she had feelings for and wanted to pursue romantically all day?



Is you cool?

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

My honest opinion:

It doesn't work out unless you've been friends with a girl/guy since childhood. But a lot of y'all blur the lines of friendship when your adults by calling someone a friend you've only known for a little while. As a grown man, unless that woman when to nursery school with you or ate dinner with your family on Sunday nights, then you guys aren't actually friends. Your a hook-up in waiting.

And I think if you're looking for a serious relationship in this day and age, I'd bypass anyone who calls somebody of the opposite sex a friend that they've known for 2 months. I'm sure her man was sideyeing the hell out of her when she said that and rightfully so.

Agreed.

I think how you meet matters too. My best female friends are all coworkers or former coworkers. We met AFTER meeting/dating our respective spouses. Like I'm friends with their husbands and the ladies are friends with my wife.

It helps that none of us are each other's "type." If we WERE...and half of em were single, it would be a lot more awkward.

 

[Unbothered]

Not gonna lie…OP might slick need his ass beat

A broad you started with romantic intentions a few months ago but turned to a text buddy because you were bullshytting around….gets a for real for real boyfriend so she tells you she’s falling back cause she’s taken…and you jumped on Facebook shooting subs bout her dude being insecure and whining about it on here


Who wants their girl texting some nikka she had feelings for and wanted to pursue romantically all day?



Is you cool?

I mean it's just why come back into my life if she knew it was going to be like this once she finds a guy?

Why get me all invested into her again just to leave but then act like it meant nothing, all I've done is shown her respect and understanding of the situation. Yet she has no qualms about how all this feels to me, not that I'm sad or anything but y'know it's not right to get people all emotionally invested in you just to casually walk away from them later.

I was at peace when she blocked me the first time and I met someone else but then she waltz back into my life. I'd feel bad doing that to somebody. I think that's part of the reason why I feel some type of way because it's just a respect thing to me that is probably why I can't get over the fact.

 

[Arcavian]

I mean it's just why come back into my life if you knew it was going to be like this?

Why get me all invested into you again just to leave but then act like it meant nothing, all I've done is shown her respect and understanding of the situation. Yet she has no qualms about how all this feels to me, not that I'm sad or anything but y'know it's not right to get people all emotionally invested in you just to casually walk away from them later.

I'd feel bad doing that to somebody.

You got friend zoned, getting pushed to the side is part of the deal


If a motherfukker didn't want you like you wanted them, YOU HAVE to step off

You didn't do that and thought she would feel bad, and that's where you fukked up

Leave that girl alone, deal with your emotions (yes you are emotional, you've talked about this too much) and move on


And don't be bullshytting on the next woman you like

 

[KillerPups]

2 months?

U care why exactly? U talk like yall was friends for years


No real sense in trying to befriend women. Something like this bound to come up eventually

 

[Unbothered]

You got friend zoned, getting pushed to the side is part of the deal


If a motherfukker didn't want you like you wanted them, YOU HAVE to step off

You didn't do that and thought she would feel bad, and that's where you fukked up

Leave that girl alone, deal with your emotions (yes you are emotional, you've talked about this too much) and move on


And don't be bullshytting on the next woman you like

Being friendzoned wasn't the problem, when she came back to me I was already involved with another girl.

It's just that she made me believe we were truly friends, so I got invested energy as a friend the same way I do with my other friends and that's where I have an issue because it's like she don't give a dayum. Why would she tell me how much she cares about me and that I'm special to her but then suddenly act like none of that shyt matters for a relationship that may or may not last past December 31st.

I would never tell someone all that shyt and then just do em like that, I feel it's a respect thing.

I'm torn because I just don't see how somebody can say all that and easily walk away like it's nothing.

 

[KillerPups]

Being friendzoned wasn't the problem, when she came back to me I was already involved with another girl.

It's just that she made me believe we were truly friends, so I got invested energy as a friend the same way I do with my other friends and that's where I have an issue because it's like she don't give a dayum. Why would she tell me how much she cares about me and that I'm special to her but then suddenly act like none of that shyt matters for a relationship that may or may not last past December 31st.

I would never tell someone all that shyt and then just do em like that, I feel it's a respect thing.

I'm torn because I just don't see how somebody can say all that and easily walk away like it's nothing.

How U figue u true friends in only 2 months

 

[MikelArteta]

That's how affairs start

 

[timeless]

Agreed.

I think how you meet matters too. My best female friends are all coworkers or former coworkers. We met AFTER meeting/dating our respective spouses. Like I'm friends with their husbands and the ladies are friends with my wife.

It helps that none of us are each other's "type." If we WERE...and half of em were single, it would be a lot more awkward.

And honestly how any healthy relationship should be. If your man or woman insists on being friends with somebody of the opposite sex, they better be ugly and they better be in a relationship already. It helps 100% if you met their partner and vice versa.

OP, if you haven't met ol girl's man or broke bread with her family or even have old school pictures with her, she's not your friend and her dude knows it.

 

[Unbothered]

How U figue u true friends in only 2 months

It's because of how everything panned out especially within the last few weeks.

When we first started talking in mid September, it started off as having intentions of dating but due to numerous misunderstandings and such it didn't happen. Around the beginning of October we had a falling out and she blocked me, truth be told I was actually at peace and didn't really think about her since I moved onto someone else. However by the middle of October she surprisingly calls me up with a little attitude, I guess she was trying to figure out if she wanted to talk to me or not, she chose to do so but made it clear we're just friends and I accepted that since I was already involved with another woman.

Now everything been going smooth until the past few weeks we started to become affectionate especially deep non-romantic feelings for each other, saying I'm special to her and telling me how much she cares about me, and likewise. Everything was going fine until this guy she started seeing started to get serious with her and suddenly she changed on me.

Why express these thoughts and feelings about me if she were just going to leave once she found a man of her liking? Now she acting a little rude now but I just like that's phony and not being respectful of me.

 

[Long Live The Kane]

I mean it's just why come back into my life if she knew it was going to be like this once she finds a guy?

Why get me all invested into her again just to leave but then act like it meant nothing, all I've done is shown her respect and understanding of the situation. Yet she has no qualms about how all this feels to me, not that I'm sad or anything but y'know it's not right to get people all emotionally invested in you just to casually walk away from them later.

I was at peace when she blocked me the first time and I met someone else but then she waltz back into my life. I'd feel bad doing that to somebody. I think that's part of the reason why I feel some type of way because it's just a respect thing to me that is probably why I can't get over the fact.

…fam if don’t keep it moving, let her and her man live, and go find another emotional support chick to have girl talk with

 

[KillerPups]

It's because of how everything panned out especially within the last few weeks.

When we first started talking in mid September, it started off as having intentions of dating but due to numerous misunderstandings and such it didn't happen. Around the beginning of October we had a falling out and she blocked me, truth be told I was actually at peace and didn't really think about her since I moved onto someone else. However by the middle of October she surprisingly calls me up with a little attitude, I guess she was trying to figure out if she wanted to talk to me or not, she chose to do so but made it clear we're just friends and I accepted that since I was already involved with another woman.

Now everything been going smooth until the past few weeks we started to become affectionate especially deep non-romantic feelings for each other, saying I'm special to her and telling me how much she cares about me, and likewise. Everything was going fine until this guy she started seeing started to get serious with her and suddenly she changed on me.

Why express these thoughts and feelings about me if she were just going to leave once she found a man of her liking? Now she acting a little rude now but I just like that's phony and not being respectful of me.

She roping u in. She probably saying the same thing to the other guy

U should have smashed a couple times for all your efforts but it is what it is. Move on bruh she only gonna cause you pain

 

[Arcavian]

It's because of how everything panned out especially within the last few weeks.

When we first started talking in mid September, it started off as having intentions of dating but due to numerous misunderstandings and such it didn't happen. Around the beginning of October we had a falling out and she blocked me, truth be told I was actually at peace and didn't really think about her since I moved onto someone else. However by the middle of October she surprisingly calls me up with a little attitude, I guess she was trying to figure out if she wanted to talk to me or not, she chose to do so but made it clear we're just friends and I accepted that since I was already involved with another woman.

Now everything been going smooth until the past few weeks we started to become affectionate especially deep non-romantic feelings for each other, saying I'm special to her and telling me how much she cares about me, and likewise. Everything was going fine until this guy she started seeing started to get serious with her and suddenly she changed on me.

Why express these thoughts and feelings about me if she were just going to leave once she found a man of her liking? Now she acting a little rude now but I just like that's phony and not being respectful of me.

Why are you trying so hard to hold on to a friendship that was that unstable. You don't really even know that girl.

 

[maxamusa]

You are talking and texting with a woman from early morning to bedtime and it's not your girlfriend? Why?!

Cause OP just turned 16....


"you hang up...."


"no you hang up!"