What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[Givethanks]

Yeahh that ain’t a good look from what I’ve seen…that herd mentality could easily flip her especially when shxt get real..

Been together for almost 10 years, been through ups and downs already.

I dead ass don't think they're not being real, because I'm not anything special. I'm so basic and ordinary lol



Most girl's in my life say that but all that goes out the window when a man they like comes around them



All in all, just because a woman has guy friends doesn't mean she's not gonna cheat. I had a ting with an hijabi Afghani girl who was engaged, we used to time our breaks together and duck off. She used to tell me she couldn't have any guy friends, have men saved in her phone or on her socials.

If it's gonna happen it's gonna happen

 

[Unbothered]

how long have you known this woman to be this pressed to maintain a friendship? and if yall have such a deep connection why didn't either of you try to make a relationship work. I read the rest of the thread since my OP and it seems like yall both weren't willing to make compromises to make a relationship work so I'd just move on. She already made negative decisions on you TWICE already and clearly prioritizing having shyt her way or the highway so fukk her

Well we started talking in around the middle of September, by the beginning of October around the 4th we got into an argument over some misunderstandings regarding dating expectations and the fact she felt I wasn't returning the energy.

So we stopped talking for nearly two weeks, she blocked me on Facebook, during that time I met another girl that I mentioned in my Wingstop thread, but then around the the 22nd of October she mysteriously called me up, I was shocked she remembered my number at the time. At first she was still a bit pissed about what happened between us before but then everything smoothed out and we mutually agreed to be friends.

In the midst of it all, we started getting a little affectionate, not sexual but y'know just being very deep, caring, etc.

 

[Unbothered]

I can only speak from experience. It’s a bad idea on both sides. Now, if you are just dating somebody, it shouldn’t be a big deal.

Yeah, that's what I feel. I realize maybe friendships don't mean much to some people but I feel like you should always hang on tight to good friends because it's hard to find those these days.

It's one thing if you're married. I could understand why a person might not want their spouse to have friends of the opposite sex, but just dating, nah.

I feel like there can be room for both, as long as there are boundaries of course; you should never turn your back on friends for something that might not last, and even if it does, you don't want to isolate yourself because one day those friends might come in handy in the event, sometimes relationships might take a bad turn, and by that I mean sometimes it can get controlling which may lead to physical abuse.

This kinda reminds me of how some partners isolate their significant other from their family, and when things go bad, they lose touch and can't get help from their people.

 

[Peruvian Connect]

Guys and girls can not be strictly friends. Stop the bullshiit

 

[Roger king]

If a woman is openly going on dates with other guys and entertaining other men, you stop any type of pursuit or interest in the woman. This men are plowing women you have interest in but the issue is they do not see you that way, for self respect and self dignity, cease the friendship cordially.

 

[BuckFilly]

@Unbothered how old are you?

And define affectionate behaviors y’all exchanged?

 

[Unbothered]

@Unbothered How old are you?

And define affectionate behaviors y’all exchanged?

I'm 29.

I guess we were affectionate in that at times during our conversations, we'd exchange heartfelt thoughts and feelings about each other, saying how much we care about each other, and she was the one to first express how special I am to her, and I returned the gesture.

One time, I mentioned after she told me she was getting her feet done, I told her she had pretty feet and explained what I'd do to them, y'know, I wasn't trying to be kinky or sexual intentionally but rather just playful banter, and she got all ecstatic, telling me that's what she wants to hear when I call her.

There's been other times like when she got all graphical on that phone where I didn't even inquire to know or bring up a conversation, she just randomly and voluntarily brings it up on the phone going on about how her p*ssy looks, how she keeps it, y'know even telling me she was playing with herself one late night when I texted her asking what she was doing.

What kind of woman would tell a man all that information if she wasn't trying to be affectionate?

Shyt, one time we met and went to the mall, and I was walking around the store with her carrying the outfits she was going to buy, and the cashier mistook me for being her man, saying I see men coming in here all the time with their women all the time; she never corrected the lady either.

There's been a lot of subtle affectionate gestures in our calls and texts, maybe I'm just thinking too hard. Some of the subtleties had to be picked up on my own but others, I wouldn't even notice.

 

[Neuromancer]

I hear you.

I guess it's just that it feels like we've become attached, in a short amount of time, and it's hard for either one of us to truly walk away.

I mean if she didn't wanna talk to me because she's really serious about this guy and tryna to abide by him she could've just not responded back or blocked me but she hasn't which says a lot about how she feels about me.

Maybe I'm just assuming shyt, I don't know.

Sounds like you're an emotional tampon. Once they get into an argument shyt will become clearer.

 

[TripleAgent]

.There's been other times like where she got all graphical on that phone where I didn't even inquire to know or bring up a conversation but she goes on me about how her p*ssy looks, how she keeps it, y'know even telling me she was playing with herself one late night when I texted her asking what she was doing.

nikka
She gotta send you a notary signed document to get you to realize she wants to fukk? I consider myself blind to women's clues, but God damn...

 

[Mordith]

Well, initially she hit me up in September, with the intention of us hooking up but around the beginning of October we had a falling out because y'know I'm more of the exclusive type when it comes to dating, where she was open to going on dates with other dudes until she found the right one.

Also, we had some arguments because of that but also she felt I wasn't returning the energy when she wanted to see me. I kept delaying due to work but also other reasons; I just wanted to take my time.

So after that, we stopped talking for nearly two weeks. We blocked each other on Facebook at the time, but then around the 3rd week of October, she called me, and we rekindled, but only as friends due to what happened before, and I was cool with that.

There's no fukking way any of this really happened....

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

A woman having straight-male friends is fine.

If ALL her friends are men and she says "I don't get along with other women"....that's a major red flag.

Also gotta evaluate your woman versus the friends. Sometimes you have men & women that just have a natural brother/sister vibe and they have zero sexual interest. Usually what happens....is the dude is waiting for his shot. He likes her as a friend but wants something more ..but doesn't wanna fukk up the friendship.

Women aren't dumb. They know when a dude is 100% homie versus a breh that's only there for the 1% chance of free puzzy

 

[Unbothered]

nikka
She gotta send you a notary signed document to get you to realize she wants to fukk? I consider myself blind to women's clues, but God damn...

Yeah, but she made it clear because of the situation that happened between us before that it would never go past being friends, so I took her word for it because for the most part, she's very blunt and honest about what she wants so I'm figuring if she says we're just friends, I took it as her meaning just that.

 

[Unbothered]

A woman having straight male friends is fine.

If ALL her friends are men and she says, "I don't get along with other women,"....that's a major red flag.

Also gotta evaluate your woman versus the friends. Sometimes you have men & women that just have a natural brother/sister vibe and they have zero sexual interest. Usually what happens....is the dude is waiting for his shot. He likes her as a friend but wants something more ..but doesn't wanna fukk up the friendship.

Women aren't dumb. They know when a dude is 100% homie versus a breh that's only there for the 1% chance of free puzzy

The thing is that she one time she mentioned I was special to her in a deeper sense more than being friends but more like family.

I do recall her saying most of her friends have always been men, even mentioned that in highschool all the girls hated her because she had all the boys attention. I do remember people saying a woman having nothing but male friends is a red flag sometimes, but I took it as maybe she's just more relatable to guys than girls.

 

[timeless]

My honest opinion:

It doesn't work out unless you've been friends with a girl/guy since childhood. But a lot of y'all blur the lines of friendship when your adults by calling someone a friend you've only known for a little while. As a grown man, unless that woman when to nursery school with you or ate dinner with your family on Sunday nights, then you guys aren't actually friends. Your a hook-up in waiting.

And I think if you're looking for a serious relationship in this day and age, I'd bypass anyone who calls somebody of the opposite sex a friend that they've known for 2 months. I'm sure her man was sideyeing the hell out of her when she said that and rightfully so.

 

[TripleAgent]

Yeah, but she made it clear because of the situation that happened between us before that it would never go past being friends, so I took her word for it because for the most part, she's very blunt and honest about what she wants so I'm figuring if she says we're just friends, I took it as her meaning just that.

Women don't describe their pussies to, or detail masturbating to men they aren't willing to fukk, unless she gets a kick out of teasing you, which is pure disrespect.