What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[Unbothered]

Women don't describe their pussies to or detail masturbating to men they aren't willing to fukk unless she gets a kick out of teasing you, which is pure disrespect.

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking too.

I called her out on that teasing shyt, and she played it off, saying she's just being her.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Nobody will ever tell me who I can be friends with. I have friendships almost as old as I am. I'm not throwing that away from someone who will be gone in a year or 2.

The level of control people try to inact on one another in the name of a "relationship" is wild.

 

[Higher Tech]

Trust your mate. Why be in a relationship if your mate can’t be trusted to not fukk other people.

 

[OperationNumbNutts]

So, long story short, there's this woman I've had for about two months. We used to talk and text pretty much every day, from early morning till bedtime. A few weeks ago, y'know, she started going on dates with this guy, and recently, about a week ago, it got serious. Congrats to her, but since then, she claimed we couldn't be friends anymore; last Wednesday night, she said it'd be the last time we'd talk, but I guess she was bluffing since we've been talking, very brief, tho, since that night.

That low-key hurt because she's a nice woman, and we both vibe well, y'know, talking about the real deep introspective type of shyt, but despite that still, she'll answer my calls (sounding like an a$$hole tryna rush me off the phone, they don't live together so how would he know she's talking to other guy friends) and respond to my texts despite her boyfriend telling her she can't talk to no other guys, even as friends. I feel he's controlling her, but she's all lovestruck by this dude, and when I tried to give her a hint, she caught a little attitude.

She said she made the same rules for him, not having any female friends, but I'm a man, and bruhs, we all know there are always a few women we stay close to whether we're in a relationship or not because that's just what we do, 9/10 we're not shutting out every woman we know (platonically) for one woman unless we're married but not just in the beginning of dating, that's a bit extreme.

I've been in numerous relationships, and I've never had a woman tell me to ditch all my female friends, and I've never made a requirement for a woman to throw away all her guy friends just for me. So I'm kinda new to this dynamic because most of my relationships in the past and currently have always been where we'd have the freedom to have friends, male or female. I know how important having friends is, so I'd never make someone choose me over them; I believe there's room for both.

This was the post I made on Facebook that Wednesday night in response to her telling me we couldn't be friends anymore cause of her boyfriend, that's how I feel about the topic.

What do you guys think ?

You sir...................was entertainment for the time being or she waited for you to make a move and you didn't. Either or, take the L and keep moving.

 

[O³ (O cubed)]

You're the placeholder breh. The guy who is with her but not with her. The man who is there when the guy she wants isn't.

You mentioned that you HAD her. No you didn't breh, she had you. You hit it a few times and started cupcakin. Now you are sad because she cut you off.

There's a thread about why dating advice for men is harsh. It's because anything less may lead to further heartbreak. Chalk this down to experience and move on. It's less than 3 months.

Live up to your username, breh.

 

[BuckFilly]

I'm 29.

I guess we were affectionate in that at times during our conversations, we'd exchange heartfelt thoughts and feelings about each other, saying how much we care about each other, and she was the one to first express how special I am to her, and I returned the gesture.

One time, I mentioned after she told me she was getting her feet done, I told her she had pretty feet and explained what I'd do to them, y'know, I wasn't trying to be kinky or sexual intentionally but rather just playful banter, and she got all ecstatic, telling me that's what she wants to hear when I call her.

There's been other times like when she got all graphical on that phone where I didn't even inquire to know or bring up a conversation, she just randomly and voluntarily brings it up on the phone going on about how her p*ssy looks, how she keeps it, y'know even telling me she was playing with herself one late night when I texted her asking what she was doing.

What kind of woman would tell a man all that information if she wasn't trying to be affectionate?

Shyt, one time we met and went to the mall, and I was walking around the store with her carrying the outfits she was going to buy, and the cashier mistook me for being her man, saying I see men coming in here all the time with their women all the time; she never corrected the lady either.

There's been a lot of subtle affectionate gestures in our calls and texts, maybe I'm just thinking too hard. Some of the subtleties had to be picked up on my own but others, I wouldn't even notice.

No offense, you too old to be this green

How does your current girl feel about your friendship with this other girl you were affectionate with?

 

[Unbothered]

You're the placeholder breh. The guy who is with her but not with her. The man who is there when the guy she wants isn't.

You mentioned that you HAD her. No you didn't breh, she had you. You hit it a few times and started cupcakin. Now you are sad because she cut you off.

There's a thread about why dating advice for men is harsh. It's because anything less may lead to further heartbreak. Chalk this down to experience and move on. It's less than 3 months.

Live up to your username, breh.

I'm not hurt it's just hard to understand but some of you made it clear on what I need to do, which is move on.

I've already been talking with another girl for nearly a month now, it's just I'm the type I feel like I have an obligation to maintain bonds and connections but I guess this situation kinda teaches me that what I view as friendships and how much they matter to me may not resonate with other people.

I guess it's just the point, I can't fathom how someone could do such a thing but like you said it was less than 3 months but I don't understand if she knew it'd always be this way why get all personal like that with me.

Why come back into my life just to leave again?

I'd rather her not have done that at all.

 

[Unbothered]

No offense, you too old to be this green

How does your current girl feel about your friendship with this other girl you were affectionate with?

Well this girl doesn't ask about my friends or even makes these requirements that I can't have female friends.

I've told her about a few of my friends but she doesn't really seek to know too much, told me as long as I don't make her feel some type of way she's cool with me having a few female friends.

 

[O³ (O cubed)]

I'm not hurt it's just hard to understand but some of you made it clear on what I need to do, which is move on.

I've already been talking with another girl for nearly a month now, it's just I'm the type I feel like I have an obligation to maintain bonds and connections but I guess this situation kinda teaches me that what I view as friendships and how much they matter to me may not resonate with other people.

I guess it's just the point, I can't fathom how someone could do such a thing but like you said it was less than 3 months but I don't understand if she knew it'd always be this way why get all personal like that with me.

Why come back into my life just to leave again?

I'd rather her not have done that at all.

If experience has taught me anything, is that while you're lying in bed with the next one, you'll get a text from the old one talking about "Hey you".

Its down to you how you respond.

 

[MajesticLion]

Just so you gents are aware, OP is that Jamie Sommers character with an attempt at a rebrand.

 

[UpNext]

I think it's cool when you're in college, high school and junior high.


I don't know what grown people over the age of 30 are doing making opposite gender friends. It's fine if they are couple friends, but individually it's no reason to at all. If y'all are coworkers and have a strictly coworker relationship that can pass too. But nah you shouldn't be hanging out with the girl you met at a gym or having drinks with her and her friends. Outta pocket.

 

[Unbothered]

If experience has taught me anything, is that while you're lying in bed with the next one, you'll get a text from the old one talking about "Hey you".

Its down to you how you respond.

Yeah, I see what you're saying.

It's something I have to learn in the future.

I guess I just invest too much into people.

 

[Fanservice]

Between keeping up the interest in a relationship, working 50+ hours a week, spending time with family, hobbies and running errands, how do y’all have time for “friends” of the opposite sex in your 30’s and up?

With my limited amount of time, I wouldn’t even entertain a bytch who thinks i would be okay with her taking time away from us to make plans with another man.

Bytch can have a facebook penpal but she ain’t allowed to meetup with another nikka, especially alone. That’s some cuck shyt

 

[Orange cream shake]

Yeah, that's what I feel. I realize maybe friendships don't mean much to some people but I feel like you should always hang on tight to good friends because it's hard to find those these days.

It's one thing if you're married. I could understand why a person might not want their spouse to have friends of the opposite sex, but just dating, nah.

I feel like there can be room for both, as long as there are boundaries of course; you should never turn your back on friends for something that might not last, and even if it does, you don't want to isolate yourself because one day those friends might come in handy in the event, sometimes relationships might take a bad turn, and by that I mean sometimes it can get controlling which may lead to physical abuse.

This kinda reminds me of how some partners isolate their significant other from their family, and when things go bad, they lose touch and can't get help from their people.

This is very true. in my case without going into much detail. After I started dating my husband and we got serious, the jealousy came out on both sides for us. He found out his homegirl wanted to be with him but he didn’t see her like that and two guy friends out of my friend group started moving and acting funny. one even told me I deserted him. so We had to drop those friends.

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

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