People also need to acknowledge the difference between the boundaries of friendship vs a relationship.
They are clearly on two different tiers.
I have friends i have known my entire life, but if i was to get a job offer of a lifetime on the other side of the country, my only obligation to them would be to say goodbye, and to meet up next time i'm back in town. and we would still be friends next time i saw them even if it was 3 years later.
Same scenario with a wife or girlfriend requires conversation and consent before i would go through with such a major life change. And depending on how the convo goes, we might not continue the relationship after that.
Something interesting is how people define friendships, I think in social media age, it's very shallow sometimes. It's very performative. Very conditonal. and a lot it based on texts and not how someone really feels.
Sometimes friendships/relationships are based on where two people are at an exact time and point, and it may not always be the exact same, people's discomfort and pain comes from trying to cling to that same exact point.
and respecting what other people want.....I do have a close girl friend who has a guy. We still keep up, but I know where the line is. Sometimes she goes way past what I thought the line was, like hits me up and we take a drive and go eat together, alone. but, I don't hold her to that every week, like if we don't do this we aren't friends. I may not see her for 6 months.
" BULLJIVE
