What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[Unbothered]

Is this the same woman you went to Wingstop with?

If so I knew she was being a bit too casual with you
Gotta let this one go and move on op

Nah not the same girl. The one I went to Wingstop with we still talk and go out on dates but this woman I'm talking about I met before that one.

 

[Unbothered]

Put yourself in the friendzone and be happy with it, brehs.

Well I'm one of those guys who don't mind having a female friend or two good friends are hard to find so I feel like if we got a connection and vibe well, why break that up y'know?

 

[Luke Cage]

I get it but I don't know I just never been put in that type of situation so it's hard to understand how someone can leave a good friend behind for a relationship that may or may not last.

I could understand if they were married but they just started getting serious in about two weeks.

Generally the opposite sex friendships i see that actually work without complications have matching marital statuses.

IE: You married, and your female friend is also married, and your wife and her husband also aquantainted and the four of you hang out together
Or alternatively , you both single but just friends.

When you have a girlfriend you should be including her in your social circle anyway, The main reasoning for hanging out with your guy friends without her is because you have different interests girls aren't usually into,
But if you are doing things men and women enjoy, why not bring her along anyway?
however if the girl you hang out with is just a butch tomboy/stud type who enjoys doing male activities more than female ones, usually people don't have a problem with her being one of your bros anyway.

Its pretty easy to figure out if the optics look weird or not. Like i said at that point its just up to you to decide if you care enough about your partner to acknowledge those optics or if you just gonna let that be her problem.

 

[Strapped]

I don't know about females having male friends because those men will try & break her down. I can be friends with females and not want to fuk though
@HarlemHottie have you ever had a male friend that didn't test your faith ?

 

[Braman]

Grow up. Let her be happy with her boyfriend. Go get a girlfriend.

This is my immediate thought. Scavenger shyt to try to be all up under another mans chick.

And from a selfish standpoint for you personally, she’s filling a role that a gf needs to. So you have a false sense of security and you’re blocking your blessings. You need to embrace that void of not having a woman to lean on, bc that will motivate you to …get a girlfriend

 

[Unbothered]

She will probably circle back when

A) her relationship gets more solid

B) her relationship gets less solid

give her the space

Yeah, she did mention about giving her some space but I just feel like it's unfair to me and to her because I get a sense that she does want to talk to me due to the fact she claimed we wouldn't talk anymore but still answering my call and texts.

I feel like she's trying to satisfy this guy because she really likes him but she's conflicted about me because before him and her got serious. We used to be a bit affectionate telling each other how much we care about one another and even saying I'm special to her and vice versa.

Now cause of this situation there's some tension between us, I can tell by her tone, and I feel that's because she conflicted about how she feels about me despite being with this other guy.

 

[Gifted one]

OP you might need to be in a Polyamorous relationship

 

[Neuromancer]

Well I'm one of those guys who don't mind having a female friend or two good friends are hard to find so I feel like if we got a connection and vibe well, why break that up y'know?

Because they're respecting their partner's wishes. Your friendship may not mean as much as their romantic partner.

 

[Unbothered]

I don't know about females having male friends because those men will try & break her down. I can be friends with females and not want to fuk though

Yeah, but this is why I have a problem with this situation.

Even tho she claimed to give him the same requirements that he couldn't have any female friends, I know as a man, most of us aren't going to completely stop contact with female friends or associates just for one woman especially early in the dating stage.

I feel like he's tryna to isolate her but maybe I'm just assuming but I doubt he's not talking to any other women, platonically.

 

[Diunx]

You can't live your life thinking your woman is gonna suck every dikk in he vicinity.

If she has a male friend from years chances are he is friendzoned.

 

[re'up]

Yeah, she did mention about giving her some space but I just feel like it's unfair to me and to her because I get a sense that she does want to talk to me due to the fact she claimed we wouldn't talk anymore but still answering my call and texts.

I feel like she's trying to satisfy this guy because she really likes him but she's conflicted about me because before him and her got serious. We used to be a bit affectionate telling each other how much we care about one another and even saying I'm special to her and vice versa.

Now cause of this situation there's some tension between us, I can tell by her tone, and I feel that's because she conflicted about how she feels about me despite being with this other guy.

The unfair thing is just p*ssy shyt. She also isn't responsible for your feelings. Don't view the world about what's fair and what's not fair. You don't have to leave it all behind, just chill out. Timing is everything, and a lot of things change around. Your feelings today are not your feelings tomorrow. Being clingy is not a good quality. It doesn't have to be over, you just have to take a step back. in the future don't do this. You want someone, tell them straight up and make it happen.

 

[SoSoSlick]

Recipe for disaster.

 

[ConPHIdential]

This thread is comedy.

You can group Men in here responding into two categories. Those who have and will more than likely continue to get ran over and played by Women and those of us who recognize game.

OP you definitely do not fall in the latter for having this dialogue.

 

[Unbothered]

The unfair thing is just p*ssy shyt. She also isn't responsible for your feelings. Don't view the world about what's fair and what's not fair. You don't have to leave it all behind, just chill out. Timing is everything, and a lot of things change around. Your feelings today are not your feelings tomorrow. Being clingy is not a good quality. It doesn't have to be over, you just have to take a step back. in the future don't do this. You want someone, tell them straight up and make it happen.

I hear you.

I guess it's just that it feels like we've become attached, in a short amount of time, and it's hard for either one of us to truly walk away.

I mean if she didn't wanna talk to me because she's really serious about this guy and tryna to abide by him she could've just not responded back or blocked me but she hasn't which says a lot about how she feels about me.

Maybe I'm just assuming shyt, I don't know.

 

[ConPHIdential]

So, long story short, there's this woman I've had for about two months. We used to talk and text pretty much every day, from early morning till bedtime. A few weeks ago, y'know, she started going on dates with this guy, and recently, about a week ago, it got serious. Congrats to her, but since then...

stopped right there.

nah bro this entire mindstate is guaranteed, repeated Ls. unfukk yourself immediately.

"this woman i've had" you ain't got shyt the fukk