ThrobbingHood
Breh&Breh Associates™
Well that’s why I’m not married. I can nurture a relationship as long as I know I won’t suffer the most severe consequences should it end.The bold is what I feel is part of the problem. Can you honestly nurture a relationship while constantly plotting and maneuvering based on the end of it? It's like starting a job, but feeling like you'll be fired any day. You don't focus on being a good employee or the actual job, you focus on making sure you're secure if the job goes away.
I understand your perspective and don't think you are anyone that thinks this way is "wrong", but its absolutely counterproductive to making an association work for the long term.
If COVID has taught us anything, it has shown us that loyalty means nothing. You should be constantly plotting if you’re suddenly made redundant. No different with relationships.
You can still focus whilst having a Plan B. Anyone who is foolish enough to invest 100% of themselves into a relationship is destined to fail. You don’t put all your life savings into one stock do you? It’s about diversifying and planning for the worst.