Wack 100 Explains Perfectly And Logically Why Men Shouldn't Get Married. Why Do People Get Mad At Men For Making Sense?

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

A lot of men want to be married but are afraid to fail. But they also have no plan for their marriage and how to effectively make it function or its purpose.

Of course if you go into something with absolutely no plan or purpose for it it likely won't be successful. Maybe if a guy specifically wants to be married he should put some structure and intent into the idea of marriage and why he wants to be married.

People always talk about the success of other community's marriage but fail to realize those communities marry with purpose.

If you have an clear objective then it will be easier to vet also because you will be able to see if that woman fits into the boundaries of his plan. People value structure and women respect men who have goals that they are working on.

Just wanting someone to raise your kids and do housework isn’t a plan. If you actually look at how people go about marriage it's pretty obvious why it fails.

It's like wanting to be a professional athlete without any technical abilities, understanding of the game or plan to get better but joining the league anyway.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Why these women sound like trans now?

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

If I asked you to invest in a stock that had a 60%+ chance of going bust. Would you do it?

Women more likely than men to initiate divorces, but not non-marital breakups

Women are more likely than men to initiate divorces, but women and men are just as likely to end non-marital relationships, according to a new study.

www.sciencedaily.com

People change over time. You have to have a plan besides 'it will work out somehow because we in love'. You have to ask yourself whether the benefits of signing the legal document outweighs the risks. A lot of men just don't do that. In their mind, marriage= guaranteed commitment, a fancy party with nice jewelry, and an acceptance of you for you and not what you can provide. Then dudes get shocked when the shyt they were doing 5 years ago aint working anymore and she moves on.

There's an old adage that still rings true:
Men enter a marriage expecting their wives to never change.
Women enter a marriage expecting their husbands to change.

Both are wrong.

 

[Rawtid]

You make some fair points, but let’s make this clear, I am not afraid to “legalize” my association or however you want to creatively frame marriage. I choose not to be married because it’s a bad business deal.

Not because of who I could potentially marry, but because of how it could potentially end. And you’re right, I already wrote a Will 3 years ago. Writing it made me realize that I do want children because I’ll be dammed if all my hard work and assets will be decided by Uncle Sam.

Now you may ask “what about your spouse?” For me, when I do decide to have children, their well being will always take precedence over their mother. If I do have an untimely death, I will make sure there will be trusts set up for them to access, once they reach an age they can handle such financial responsibilities.

I’ve already had life insurance since I was in college, so my woman is already protected in that regard. But when it comes to my assets? I work in finance so I already know to make sure the government see as little of it as possible if I were to pass away early. That’s all I will say on that.

The bold is what I feel is part of the problem. Can you honestly nurture a relationship while constantly plotting and maneuvering based on the end of it? It's like starting a job, but feeling like you'll be fired any day. You don't focus on being a good employee or the actual job, you focus on making sure you're secure if the job goes away.

I understand your perspective and don't think you are anyone that thinks this way is "wrong", but its absolutely counterproductive to making an association work for the long term.

 

[The ADD]

A lot of men want to be married but are afraid to fail. But they also have no plan for their marriage and how to effectively make it function or its purpose.

Of course if you go into something with absolutely no plan or purpose for it it likely won't be successful. Maybe if a guy specifically wants to be married he should put some structure and intent into the idea of marriage and why he wants to be married.

People always talk about the success of other community's marriage but fail to realize those communities marry with purpose.

If you have an clear objective then it will be easier to vet also because you will be able to see if that woman fits into the boundaries of his plan. People value structure and women respect men who have goals that they are working on.

Just wanting someone to raise your kids and do housework isn’t a plan. If you actually look at how people go about marriage it's pretty obvious why it fails.

It's like wanting to be a professional athlete without any technical abilities, understanding of the game or plan to get better but joining the league anyway.

Well said

And before anyone chimes in about marriages failing with a plan……of course that happens nothing is guaranteed

 

[Rawtid]

If I asked you to invest in a stock that had a 60%+ chance of going bust. Would you do it?

Women more likely than men to initiate divorces, but not non-marital breakups

Women are more likely than men to initiate divorces, but women and men are just as likely to end non-marital relationships, according to a new study.

www.sciencedaily.com

People change over time. You have to have a plan besides 'it will work out somehow because we in love'. You have to ask yourself whether the benefits of signing the legal document outweighs the risks. A lot of men just don't do that. In their mind, marriage= guaranteed commitment, a fancy party with nice jewelry, and an acceptance of you for you and not what you can provide. Then dudes get shocked when the shyt they were doing 5 years ago aint working anymore and she moves on.

There's an old adage that still rings true:
Men enter a marriage expecting their wives to never change.
Women enter a marriage expecting their husbands to change.

Both are wrong.

You shouldn't be marrying based solely on love anyway. Yeah it may be 4th or 5th on the list, but not the top 3. Yes, people change, but baseline morals/values, typically do not.

 

[jadillac]

Anyone scared to get married just doesn’t have the ability to find and choose the right woman in life.

There's likely not just 1 woman that's right for you as in "the 1", but there's also not a ton either. Having the ability to choose makes no difference if you are in a city or area with lesser options.

But I do not see why dudes keep talking about marriage if they have no interest in it. Marriage is about legacy building and security.If you do not want to get married, kl. And if you do, more power to you.

Because most dudes probably deep down want to find "the 1". But they have issues with the way marriage is constructed in our society

 

[ItsPeople]

As an an thesis to this thread, my engagement ring showed up yesterday.

We’ve been engaged by Islam’s rites but she wanted a ring.

 

[HARLEM AL]

Anyone scared to get married just doesn’t have the ability to find and choose the right woman in life.

Wack100 isn’t exactly the perfect example of a normal guy considering his antics, so he isn’t one to hang your hat on as proof of anything about marriage.

If you don’t want to get married then don’t

Man shut your stupid ass up. You can pick the "right woman" and your goofy ass will still get got.

nikka want to get married blessings to him. But stop playing stupid to why men are hesitant. Has shyt to do with picking and everything with the way the law is constructed.

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

You shouldn't be marrying based solely on love anyway. Yeah it may be 4th or 5th on the list, but not the top 3. Yes, people change, but baseline morals/values, typically do not.

And it's important to establish that early. To me, a long term relationship or marriage should be like the founding of a country. You need to have a core principle or principles that will guide the actions that need to be taken.

America's core principles are freedom and equality. So its still morally and logically consistent for the country to be founded as a slave owning society where only white men with land and money could vote to one where slavery is outlawed and an 18 year old black woman's vote counts as much as Jeff bezos' vote. If the core principles of your marriage is duty, reciprocity, empathy, and selflessness then when those principles are violated consistently its time to move on.

Women move on mentally before they start taking actions, and when they do men are shocked because men are conditioned to communicate directly whilst women are conditioned to communicate subliminally. Shes subliminally telling him he's not meeting her needs but because he is not hearing it directly, he doesn't notice. Theres a fundamental disconnect in communication styles which needs to be addressed from the outset if a partnership is going to work out.

 

[dr. pill biden]

just find a woman who knows divorce is a sin that God hates you be aiight

nikkaz marry harlots and end up miserable because they are tramps themselves. a good wife is a reward from the lord for the just man

 

[Silver Surfer]

Y’all really like talking about the things you don’t like all the time. Reminds me of women.

Why are you posting in the thread?

 

[Who Not How]

just find a woman who knows divorce is a sin that God hates you be aiight

nikkaz marry harlots and end up miserable because they are tramps themselves. a good wife is a reward from the lord for the just man

A lot of brothas have kids before trying to get married too. Marrying your baby mama is way different than marrying a woman you waited to have kids with.

A wife before mother will try harder to make the marriage last and forgive your mistakes since she has never been a single mother before and that lifestyle scares her.

A baby mama turned wife already knows and accepted that arrangement so she’s okay with going back to it.

 

[Rawtid]

As an an thesis to this thread, my engagement ring showed up yesterday.

We’ve been engaged by Islam’s rites but she wanted a ring.

And you want her to have a ring too. That’s a symbol, well it’s supposed to be, that someone is taken.

You don’t your woman potentially having to engage with other men trying to talk to her, any longer than necessary. A ring cuts short a lot of attempts, especially a nice one.

 

[Rawtid]

And it's important to establish that early. To me, a long term relationship or marriage should be like the founding of a country. You need to have a core principle or principles that will guide the actions that need to be taken.

America's core principles are freedom and equality. So its still morally and logically consistent for the country to be founded as a slave owning society where only white men with land and money could vote to one where slavery is outlawed and an 18 year old black woman's vote counts as much as Jeff bezos' vote. If the core principles of your marriage is duty, reciprocity, empathy, and selflessness then when those principles are violated consistently its time to move on.

Women move on mentally before they start taking actions, and when they do men are shocked because men are conditioned to communicate directly whilst women are conditioned to communicate subliminally. Shes subliminally telling him he's not meeting her needs but because he is not hearing it directly, he doesn't notice. Theres a fundamental disconnect in communication styles which needs to be addressed from the outset if a partnership is going to work out.

I agree there is a fundamental disconnect in communication styles between men and women, but I don' feel that women are subliminal about anything. We are vocal and clear, but y'all refer to it as nagging. Women move one once we realize what's trying to be communicated is met as nagging and nothing will change once.