Update: GMB Great girl, cooks, cleans, independent, no male friends, no clubs or social media BUT..

[datnigDASTARDLY]

Nah I am not that kind of woman. I use to be. Having nothing going on outside a dude is not the wave. That no friends shut in life is lonely and depressing. Been there and done that. I've never lean that heavy on a man again. That is not a good woman. That is a woman with no life.

I feel what you saying, but that may not be the case

I know from my experience a lot of women don't like chilling with other women...it's a weird ass doubled edged sword for men

There's also a stigma with women with that type of personality too . So she may not be clingy, she might just like hanging with the fellas and not chitchattin in the kitchen with the other ladies and she don't really know how to express it the right way.

 

[fkthisgaysite]

So basically she's nitpicking. Red flag. She's probably already entertaining other guys even if not on an intimate level. I'd tell you to bush her but you're 3 years in with talks of marriage so that's not happening. Keep backups on deck.​

Good game...
Gon keep this in mind.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I feel what you saying, but that may not be the case

I know from my experience a lot of women don't like chilling with other women...it's a weird ass doubled edged sword for men

There's also a stigma with women with that type of personality too . So she may not be clingy, she might just like hanging with the fellas and not chitchattin in the kitchen with the other ladies and she don't really know how to express it the right way.

You don't need female friends to have a life outside of a man. And if she enjoys the company of men then she'll likely still have male friends.

It's what I said, no life, no hobby and no friends. So when the man leaves or goes out to enjoy other parts of your life she just sits there looking dumb.

And I am just telling you who I am not. I know ya'll claim to want a woman like that and that's great I guess but it will never be me. That type of life for a woman only benefits man. He gets to feel happy and secure while he runs the street and you're sitting around sad and shyt. Nah, pass.

 

[dterpsss]

Hi coli I have the perfect girl but I get tired of hanging with all that perfectness

 

[etrofllenrod504]

Well on some real shyt. All that's fine and dandy but you mentioned the sex could be better(which must be important to you) and you not so fond of her wanting you up under her ALL the time. Don't compromise what's important to you I'll tell you that. If she lacking in a area that is highly important to you, then you need to talk to her and see if things can improve. If not you gonna find yourself miserable not matter how many so called good qualities she has

 

[True Darkseid]

Breh, that is the opening of a stalker. All that shyt cool until ya'll have a fight, and to think that ain't gonna happen is stupid. If and when shyt go left, your routine is burned in her memory, and you will be fukked. Everybody needs a little ME time to themselves. Had a chick who was like that, and when I felt smothered and that bytch was at me like

 

[True Darkseid]

Get married, she’ll be asking for space in no time

 

[GnauzBookOfRhymes]

She might just have anxiety bc lack of family and living in such a shytty state

 

[truth2you]

@Stuntone I just realized you said the sex could be better, but that is easy to fix. What you want to do is get her tot alk about her freaky thoughts while you are having sex with her. Bang that clit with ya dingaling(literally hit it with ya man man), make her cum, then start getting nasty with ya words while your having sex. Once she starts getting comfortable with her nasty side,things will get better. You can also use this technique to get what you want, but I aint giving that out!

Like @Behind-the-wheel said, communication is key, and can change everything. The issue is getting someone to open up, but its hard to be private when you are naked, and cumming all over the place

 

[JQ Legend]

At age 40, I'd cash out.

10 years ago, I would've held out for all that plus she hafta be a dime.

@At30wecashout school this breh

 

[Commish]

OP..

Your girl needs to get a hobby or join a club. Otherwise, she will drive you away!

As good as she may be on paper, she is too codependent upon you and that is too much for someone to deal with over a long period of time.

Lastly, you need to tell her that you need your space. Tell her the importance of having a balanced life because you can't sacrifice your happiness to make her happy.

I can't say that she isn't the one for you, but I do believe that in time, you will stray away if she doesn't look into her self and make some changes.

 

[Peak]

She needs a hobby/social circle fast.

 

[Kane1]

I got a girl that doesn’t cook or clean has no life or friends. Ugh

That says alot about YOU and your standards

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

grown man shyt

God bless your union of black love

Thank you breh.
This is the dream come true for me...but it took work on both parts.

 

[Stuntone]

We broke up, basically because she says I'm never home. Pretty weak, I write it off as her just being quick to give up, like most of our generation. Nothing last anymore.


GMB.