Update: GMB Great girl, cooks, cleans, independent, no male friends, no clubs or social media BUT..

[Stuntone]

Sounds like a good catch.... yall transplanted from Louisiana to DC, bro?

We from South Louisiana, moved up to Shreveport. We might take it back to DC, too crazy out here.

Don't you have friends with wives or serious girlfriends, you can introduce her their wives or girlfriends so they can hang out.

Once y'all have kids, all that shyt will be out of the window, that kid will take all her energy & time

My girl hangs out with my mom sometimes. Thing is, it's so ratchet and wild a lot couples just keep to themselves. Just hard to trust anyone. It's not cool like that here, there's aways potential for life altering fukkery in Louisiana. ALWAYS.

 

[FeloniousMonk]

Chick moved trying to get that rock.

Lol

Everybody is saying why dont you do this and that..

SHe wants to spend THEIR free time with him and only him...but few see it as a red flag..

 

[EBK String]

you need to hit the gym

 

[xXOGLEGENDXx]

Good problem to have I guess. But even having the best woman around you 100% of the time can be draining. Women don't really understand how men can enjoy having alone time. Don't end it, she sounds like a good woman which is rare these day. Gotta find her some hobbies or introduce her to some friends.

 

[BrehWyatt]

We from South Louisiana, moved up to Shreveport. We might take it back to DC, too crazy out here.




My girl hangs out with my mom sometimes. Thing is, it's so ratchet and wild a lot couples just keep to themselves. Just hard to trust anyone. It's not cool like that here, there's aways potential for life altering fukkery in Louisiana. ALWAYS.

The way you put living in Shreveport … maybe it's best she doesn't have hobbies and isn't out there like that. Now if you two lived in DC or some other culturally-popping area and she still couldn't find anything to get into, I might be like but even then … I just don't see how this is the problem some make it out to be.

 

[Cynic]

That's how women are... they get a k!ck out of frustrating you/dominating your time
The key is if you can set boundaries or beat them at their own game by acting dumb/passive aggressive

 

[Umoja]

It's not a red flag. She moved out of town to be with you. Spend some time helping her build a social life.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

She wants all of your free time! I mean damn near all of it.

Me and my girl are best friends, It's been 3 years I still really enjoy all the time we spend together, never get tired of her. Like I still enjoy cuddling with her daily and doing day to day stuff. She very easy to please, doesnt care for fancy clothing and material things, wants a small wedding. She was raised by her grandparents. She gets my humor. We laugh together. Did I mention shes' bad!!! She's a 9 to me, but a solid coli 8. I'll post a pic later. Sex could be better at times, but other than that I don't have any complaints. Her issue is I'm not with her as much as she would like, I work nights and dj on the side. And I go south Louisiana once or twice a week to see family and check on my house. She doesn't really have friends nearby and isn't really close to her family like I am. I have a lot of family and friends I love to visit and chill with. Most of the time I invite her, but she doesn't really care to go, she just want it to be me and her most of the time. Lately she's been telling me it's really getting to her that I'm gone so much. I feel her somewhat bcuz she moved up here to be with me, but at the same time I want a life outside of the relationship. She's real old fashion, so I know there's good and bad any every situation.

I think about dating her in before I met her Hard to find a loyal, no attention whoring, low mileage woman down here in Louisiana.


What would you guys do?

Spoiler: Me and My Girl

Breh.
I hope to god that you didn't get rid of her or anything.
Cause honestly, you sound like me and your girl sounds like my wife.

When a female loves you....I mean, REALLY loves you....all they want and need is you.
Nothing else.
I felt crowded by my wife when she acted like that in the beginning too!!!
I was constantly looking for ways to get away from her, taking extra deployments just so I could have some quiet time in the field, working late when I was back in the states so I could surf the internet without her draping over my shoulder or constantly asking "Hey, what are you laughing at?"

It took me seeing how other guys have girlfriends and wives that don't do shyt for them and don't even check up on them because they off doing their own thing and doing dirt behind their guys backs too for me to really appreciate what I have.
My wife is smart, loyal, witty, funny, educated, a fantastic mother, my best friend, my greatest business partner, the most awesome financier, an amazing cook, a fantastic baker, she shoots better than me, keeps up with me outdoors, has a great heart for people, she's sexy as hell, she's a mentor to the children we take care of daily, she's a mentor to her friends and family, she's honored in the city we live in as a righteous person, she looks out for brothas and sistas and the black community, she's a great friend to my moms and pops and treats them like they were her own, She's respected in her colleges and consults with their programs to help students in her field coming up, I could go on for 3 pages...

Now, I can tell you that my wife's been through some traumatic shyt in her life that made her kinda "Clingy" when we first got together. People go through all kinds of shyt and you never know til you're with em. I didn't find out what made my wife the way she was until I was about to walk out the door and get a divorce. But I gave it a shot and we laid it all out on the table and she told me what happened to her that made her the way she was.
I say "Was" because after we talked about it and each laid our gripes out for the other to know...we settled everything and it's been gravy ever since that day 10+ years ago.

Nowadays we can be in the house together and doing separate things. She trusts me, I trust her and we love being around each other. There's no urgency or press to constantly be up under each other and there's no worry about anything coming between us.

What I'm saying is don't base your views of your girl on what you had with anyone else and certainly not how you moved before she came along. I can bet with good expectation that she will make a great wife for you...if that's what you eventually want. You just gotta get to the bottom of what makes her the way she is and let her know how you really feel inside. Opening up like that is a risk....I ain't pretending it ain't....but if you love her....really love her, you'll let her know what you're feeling.

Communication is EVERYTHING!

You got a golden one....
Good luck breh!

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

IDK about running but I agree with everything else.

Sounds like she doesn't have any life outside of OP while he be partying at the club every week.

Been 3 years still no proposal. Found out awhile ago it really doesn't pay to be the type of chick OP is dating. Men say they want it but it is rarely the type men go for.

If you're that type of woman, you need a MAN...not a boy.
Boys want to go run the streets and be up in everyones faces to make themselves feel like the "Man" they want to be.
Men don't need outside validation, and a good woman is all that a man needs to complete his life circle.
I can say this from my experiences becoming a Man.
I had the same complaints as the Op when I was still a boy...almost walked out on my wife being stuck on my stupid "boy" bullshyt.
But I eventually let all that BOY shyt that everyone was whispering in my ear go straight to the gutter and followed my heart and became a MAN that my wife needed. My life has been stable and gravy ever since...

I wish you the best of luck sis!

 

[Umoja]

Breh.
I hope to god that you didn't get rid of her or anything.
Cause honestly, you sound like me and your girl sounds like my wife.

When a female loves you....I mean, REALLY loves you....all they want and need is you.
Nothing else.
I felt crowded by my wife when she acted like that in the beginning too!!!
I was constantly looking for ways to get away from her, taking extra deployments just so I could have some quiet time in the field, working late when I was back in the states so I could surf the internet without her draping over my shoulder or constantly asking "Hey, what are you laughing at?"

It took me seeing how other guys have girlfriends and wives that don't do shyt for them and don't even check up on them because they off doing their own thing and doing dirt behind their guys backs too for me to really appreciate what I have.
My wife is smart, loyal, witty, funny, educated, a fantastic mother, my best friend, my greatest business partner, the most awesome financier, an amazing cook, a fantastic baker, she shoots better than me, keeps up with me outdoors, has a great heart for people, she's sexy as hell, she's a mentor to the children we take care of daily, she's a mentor to her friends and family, she's honored in the city we live in as a righteous person, she looks out for brothas and sistas and the black community, she's a great friend to my moms and pops and treats them like they were her own, She's respected in her colleges and consults with their programs to help students in her field coming up, I could go on for 3 pages...

Now, I can tell you that my wife's been through some traumatic shyt in her life that made her kinda "Clingy" when we first got together. People go through all kinds of shyt and you never know til you're with em. I didn't find out what made my wife the way she was until I was about to walk out the door and get a divorce. But I gave it a shot and we laid it all out on the table and she told me what happened to her that made her the way she was.
I say "Was" because after we talked about it and each laid our gripes out for the other to know...we settled everything and it's been gravy ever since that day 10+ years ago.

Nowadays we can be in the house together and doing separate things. She trusts me, I trust her and we love being around each other. There's no urgency or press to constantly be up under each other and there's no worry about anything coming between us.

What I'm saying is don't base your views of your girl on what you had with anyone else and certainly not how you moved before she came along. I can bet with good expectation that she will make a great wife for you...if that's what you eventually want. You just gotta get to the bottom of what makes her the way she is and let her know how you really feel inside. Opening up like that is a risk....I ain't pretending it ain't....but if you love her....really love her, you'll let her know what you're feeling.

Communication is EVERYTHING!

You got a golden one....
Good luck breh!

 

[mag357]

We from South Louisiana, moved up to Shreveport. We might take it back to DC, too crazy out here.

Ok.. yall look like ppl I know from Delaware

 

[the bossman]

Breh.
I hope to god that you didn't get rid of her or anything.
Cause honestly, you sound like me and your girl sounds like my wife.

When a female loves you....I mean, REALLY loves you....all they want and need is you.
Nothing else.
I felt crowded by my wife when she acted like that in the beginning too!!!
I was constantly looking for ways to get away from her, taking extra deployments just so I could have some quiet time in the field, working late when I was back in the states so I could surf the internet without her draping over my shoulder or constantly asking "Hey, what are you laughing at?"

It took me seeing how other guys have girlfriends and wives that don't do shyt for them and don't even check up on them because they off doing their own thing and doing dirt behind their guys backs too for me to really appreciate what I have.
My wife is smart, loyal, witty, funny, educated, a fantastic mother, my best friend, my greatest business partner, the most awesome financier, an amazing cook, a fantastic baker, she shoots better than me, keeps up with me outdoors, has a great heart for people, she's sexy as hell, she's a mentor to the children we take care of daily, she's a mentor to her friends and family, she's honored in the city we live in as a righteous person, she looks out for brothas and sistas and the black community, she's a great friend to my moms and pops and treats them like they were her own, She's respected in her colleges and consults with their programs to help students in her field coming up, I could go on for 3 pages...

Now, I can tell you that my wife's been through some traumatic shyt in her life that made her kinda "Clingy" when we first got together. People go through all kinds of shyt and you never know til you're with em. I didn't find out what made my wife the way she was until I was about to walk out the door and get a divorce. But I gave it a shot and we laid it all out on the table and she told me what happened to her that made her the way she was.
I say "Was" because after we talked about it and each laid our gripes out for the other to know...we settled everything and it's been gravy ever since that day 10+ years ago.

Nowadays we can be in the house together and doing separate things. She trusts me, I trust her and we love being around each other. There's no urgency or press to constantly be up under each other and there's no worry about anything coming between us.

What I'm saying is don't base your views of your girl on what you had with anyone else and certainly not how you moved before she came along. I can bet with good expectation that she will make a great wife for you...if that's what you eventually want. You just gotta get to the bottom of what makes her the way she is and let her know how you really feel inside. Opening up like that is a risk....I ain't pretending it ain't....but if you love her....really love her, you'll let her know what you're feeling.

Communication is EVERYTHING!

You got a golden one....
Good luck breh!

grown man shyt

God bless your union of black love

 

[kdslittlebro]

Don’t listen to not one nikka in here. Do what you think is right. Listening to random internet nikkas about your personal life will have you miserable REAL fast

She might be great wife material, but that don’t mean she’s great wife material for you. You gonna have to make that decision for yourself imo

 

[lamont614]

you need to hit the gym

Coli never change

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

If you're that type of woman, you need a MAN...not a boy.
Boys want to go run the streets and be up in everyones faces to make themselves feel like the "Man" they want to be.
Men don't need outside validation, and a good woman is all that a man needs to complete his life circle.
I can say this from my experiences becoming a Man.
I had the same complaints as the Op when I was still a boy...almost walked out on my wife being stuck on my stupid "boy" bullshyt.
But I eventually let all that BOY shyt that everyone was whispering in my ear go straight to the gutter and followed my heart and became a MAN that my wife needed. My life has been stable and gravy ever since...

I wish you the best of luck sis!

Nah I am not that kind of woman. I use to be. Having nothing going on outside a dude is not the wave. That no friends shut in life is lonely and depressing. Been there and done that. I've never lean that heavy on a man again. That is not a good woman. That is a woman with no life.