There's so many single women out here

[ThrobbingHood]

I’m in my early thirties not mid thirties. I don’t know, I don’t feel like I’ve had to climb obstacles career wise to get where I am, I went to school got my bachelor and later got my master degree. I followed my heart tbh, and got my second degree in something that people laughed at, especially since I was a single mom at the time and working full time while in school. No one thought it was worth it.

I do what I love now and what I’m good at, because I trusted in God and let him take that part of my life. I don’t even work very hard, that’s actually why I feel like it’s so important for people to really have a skill, a degree, a trade, I mean something to fall back on. Because I know people working so much harder than I ever will have to making significantly less, and the only difference between them and me is that I developed a skill that required a degree.

And that's what it comes down to: working smart not hard. I keep on telling people who want me to put them on to either find a trade or a skill that requires a degree... because no one can take that away from you.

You're in your early 30s so you still have a lot of options. It may not seem like it now but late 20s/early 30s is a world a way from mid 30s when it comes to dating options (assuming you or any woman wants to date closer to their age).

Anyway I can’t speak for other women that are in their early thirties but I haven’t seen a huge drop in options or difference in the quality of men in my age range, versus where it was in my mid to late twenties. If anything the men that show interest in me now, have their shyt together so much more than they did when I was younger and didn’t have my shyt together, lol.

most of the time the men are professionals like myself in the mid/late twenties to early forties range, some make in the same range or more.

I know people on here say men that are my age play the field and date younger so it gets harder but tbh that’s not been my experience. If anything it’s those men that actually be ready to jump right into shyt (at least from my experience). They are so direct and honest about what they want up front, and up until today that always scared me because I’m immature asf and intimidated by men that are on their grown man shyt ready to be serious, when I’m flakey and scary about it.

I'm glad to hear that for yourself. I will say this however... men will make exceptions when the woman is attractive. I've seen brehs string women along for years and marry the first dime they come across within under a year.

But if you're finding quality men that want to commit that's good.

Maybe it’s the very things you scared of or try to avoid you attract? It’s a resolution of mine though to grow the fukk up emotionally, stop being destructive in 2020 and not push anyone else away. So i’ll Let you know by 2021 if once I did that, options got slimmer than a mug.

Some of my friends are struggling with men and do complain about quality—so I’m aware that it is an issue, it hasn’t been yet for me, so honestly a lot of this is my opinion based on my experiences.

I can admit that I need to work on trust issues. The only woman I trust is my mother. I'm not afraid of commitment but like everyone.. I don't want to commit to the wrong one. I've seen and heard so many horror stories regarding divorces, it has put me right off marriage... even though I want a traditional family it's hard to find a traditional woman... at least for me it is.

As for what you said about women scoffing at the idea of a traditional marriage with a man as the breadwinner, that’s interesting. A lot of my friends would love that set up. My dad was the breadwinner and my mom was stay at home—I’m neutral on it. But I can see why a breh who desires that would scoop up a younger women to make that happen(before she’s gotten set in her career and life).

I meander between dating career women and women who work in the service industry.

Career women that have I dated tend to be God fearing 24/7..and whilst I'm not opposed to dating a religious woman, there's a limit. I'm not going to be coerced into going to church Sunday morning after digging out your guts on Saturday night.

Then the women who work retail jobs tend to not have a lot of aspiration. As I said..I don't mind being the bread winner at all but then I think about dating them long term and realize outside of sex... a lot of the ones I have dated don't have much to offer.

I wish I wasn't shallow because I know that's where I'm going wrong but I can't help what I'm attracted to.

 

[Balla]

He got put into some role that he wasn’t qualified for—I don’t know the details, but that’s why he lost the job. I don’t know why he couldn’t transfer the skill elsewhere. This is someone my friend dated not me. And tbh though it could be ducktales. We judged the fukk out of her for dating him, not just because of his low salary but he was cheating and doing all kind of crazy shyt we found out about. She tried to present it as if was one way(on some when I met him he was one way but after I fell in love he became xyz). I think she lying like shyt, lol, but she claims he was making that amount when they met. So if she’s telling the truth, that’s a fall off, and she says it’s because he lacks a degree and a trade

50k-60k is low to you? You make 100k or something?

So if a nikka doesn’t make more than 60k at 30 he a broke ass nikka?

This is probably why nikkas be scamming n doing other illegal shyt for a lot of bread.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

most of these "single" women have friends w/ benefits.

So in my mind, you ain't really single. I don't want to hear any complaining.

And they're waiting to be number one until that guy commits and/or leaves his wife/girlfriend. And believe me... a lot of women are willing to share the same guy if they think they're top of the pecking order.

I ain't shyt.

@CarmelBarbie Give a broke nikka a chance we need love too

Lol. This isn't direct at @CarmelBarbie but this is why I treat a lot of these gold digging hos like shyt. I do it for the minimum wage brothers they curved. I do it for the brehs who were too short or ugly to date them.

I'm just restoring balance to the universe by ghosting these hos after I beat. So their self esteem is low enough to give you brehs a chance. But no one thanks me for the work I put in.

There is a lot of dishonesty going on here. The reality is these women want two things looks and success. They will settle for fukn a dude that's not as successful but will not want to take anywhere due to shame of marrying below their level all while ignoring dudes with their shyt together because they dont fit their superficial standards. Eventually they break and choose.

This all day!!!! Let me add "status" tends to trump those two things.

 

[MaxBundles]

In no way am I agreeing with that bird bytch but I just surprised so many of y'all are cool with and saying 18 and hour ain't bad.
That shyt peanuts, last time I made that was like 8 years ago when I was like 20. How you nikkas surviving

 

[CarmelBarbie]

And that's what it comes down to: working smart not hard. I keep on telling people who want me to put them on to either find a trade or a skill that requires a degree... because no one can take that away from you.

You're in your early 30s so you still have a lot of options. It may not seem like it now but late 20s/early 30s is a world a way from mid 30s when it comes to dating options (assuming you or any woman wants to date closer to their age).


I'm glad to hear that for yourself. I will say this however... men will make exceptions when the woman is attractive. I've seen brehs string women along for years and marry the first dime they come across within under a year.

But if you're finding quality men that want to commit that's good.


I can admit that I need to work on trust issues. The only woman I trust is my mother. I'm not afraid of commitment but like everyone.. I don't want to commit to the wrong one. I've seen and heard so many horror stories regarding divorces, it has put me right off marriage... even though I want a traditional family it's hard to find a traditional woman... at least for me it is.


I meander between dating career women and women who work in the service industry.

Career women that have I dated tend to be God fearing 24/7..and whilst I'm not opposed to dating a religious woman, there's a limit. I'm not going to be coerced into going to church Sunday morning after digging out your guts on Saturday night.

Then the women who work retail jobs tend to not have a lot of aspiration. As I said..I don't mind being the bread winner at all but then I think about dating them long term and realize outside of sex... a lot of the ones I have dated don't have much to offer.

I wish I wasn't shallow because I know that's where I'm going wrong but I can't help what I'm attracted to.

Lol I feel you. I don’t know, I’m not concerned about loving the wrong person or even being hurt. I’m not affected by stories of what others have been hurt in relationships. Hell life hurts at times, it is what it is. My phobia is complex, and I can’t even explain it words. It isn’t my fear of what someone will do to me if I love them or trust them though. I think 2020 counseling is in order too.

Service industry lol? Why that industry? Your funny lol.

Meh, everyone is a little shallow in some respect. It’s interesting that you find retail women attractive. Pass a certain age it’s the retail brehettes that wear that broke weathered(I been through some shyt and I’m tired) look. Late teens early twenties, yeah I can see and do see attractive women in retail. Pass that, yikes.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

50k-60k is low to you? You make 100k or something?

So if a nikka doesn’t make more than 60k at 30 he a broke ass nikka?

This is probably why nikkas be scamming n doing other illegal shyt for a lot of bread.

50/60k for a corporate managerial position is low. Most I know make six figures in those roles, as a reference point.

I didn’t say that 50/60k was low as a salary for other roles.

I also wouldn’t call a man that makes 50/60 broke, not unless he had kids and a lot of debt.

$18 an hour is what I said was a low salary, and that was for my age range.

 

[Neuromancer]

Single = Worthy ?

 

[Serious]

I work with highly educated and successful women (at multiple jobs now).

Most of them do not give a fukk how much their boyfriend makes. The make their own money. They’d laugh at the thought of relying on a man to support them.

So what you're saying is....

It's automatic bushes for any woman who dares bring that shyt up.

@paperbag

 

[Balla]

50/60k for a corporate managerial position is low. Most I know make six figures in those roles, as a reference point.

I didn’t say that 50/60k was low as a salary for other roles.

I also wouldn’t call a man that makes 50/60 broke, not unless he had kids and a lot of debt.

$18 an hour is what I said was a low salary, and that was for my age range.

How much should someone make in your age range?

 

[Balla]

How does a chick who can’t write for shyt talk about someone making $18 an hour? How does she make more than $18?

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

In no way am I agreeing with that bird bytch but I just surprised so many of y'all are cool with and saying 18 and hour ain't bad.
That shyt peanuts, last time I made that was like 8 years ago when I was like 20. How you nikkas surviving

Co-sign

 

[ThrobbingHood]

How does a chick who can’t write for shyt talk about someone making $18 an hour? How does she make more than $18?

You'd be shocked at how many people in high corporate positions have terrible grammar. People who still don't know the difference between 'their' and 'there'. Not saying that's the case for the woman in question.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

How much should someone make in your age range?

Whatever meets their needs and goals, and fits their qualifications, skills, and experience level. I can’t tell you a one size fits all number. My friends and I all make different salaries because we are all in different careers. Research what you should make for your career, based on industry, title, skills, qualifications, years of experience, etc.

 

[Payroll]

Slore babble

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Lol I feel you. I don’t know, I’m not concerned about loving the wrong person or even being hurt. I’m not affected by stories of what others have been hurt in relationships. Hell life hurts at times, it is what it is. My phobia is complex, and I can’t even explain it words. It isn’t my fear of what someone will do to me if I love them or trust them though. I think 2020 counseling is in order too.

Service industry lol? Why that industry? Your funny lol.

Meh, everyone is a little shallow in some respect. It’s interesting that you find retail women attractive. Pass a certain age it’s the retail brehettes that wear that broke weathered(I been through some shyt and I’m tired) look. Late teens early twenties, yeah I can see and do see attractive women in retail. Pass that, yikes.

You're right about retail. The women I've 'dated' from that industry are in their mid to early 20s. And that's the reason I don't consider them long term because the majority of them aren't fresh out of college looking to parlay into a career. For them, that job is their life.

I don't find what they do attractive. If they look good and I get on with them, it's a good start. But long term... I can't wife a woman who doesn't have any skills be it domestically or career wise. I'd like a woman that's cultured who doesn't think social media and watching reality TV is a hobby.

And then with career women... they're expecting commitment straight away. They think any man over 30 that doesn't want to settle down has "Peter Pan syndrome" but those women tend not to be wife material. They think their career is enough to make a guy settle down. Their idea of seduction is very parochial.