There's so many single women out here

[KENNY DA COOKER]

So in her silly world a man who makes 18 bucks an hour is NOT CAPABLE OF BEING A FAITHFUL.. LOYAL who is also driven to succeed?

definitely the thoughts of a lonely dumb byatch who is too irrational for anybody to be with

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Just read that shyt back to yourself....but try to take urself out of that "scorned woman" mindstate 1st

I even said it may come across as bitter but that's how a nikka feels..scorned or not, those hos who tried to shyt on me back then now get shyt on and played by me. I feel no remorse either.

I am not one of the hoes that gave you that chip on your shoulder, watch your tone.........Your post came off crazy..........I know nikkaz here love the revenge fantasies but if hoes shytted on you then and are sweating you now chances are they liked you in the first place on the low but there was something they wanted that you didn't have and now you have it.............No big deal nikkaz are the same way............Being bitter is pointless........

I accepted I have some bitterness. Never denied it. It's still fukk those hos till I die. I'll still play them until I settle down. I know it's petty but I'm a petty nikka.


But don't lecture me about my tone breh.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I make less than that

Keep ya head up fam. We've all been there. Just strive for better and you'll make it.

 

[richaveli83]

That's because every bytch thinks they're entitled to the best despite offering nothing but a used p*ssy and a shytty personality.

And a lot of times someone else's kids.

 

[iBrowse]

Loyalty men?

/thread

 

[Luck]

This half brained ugly / fat thot babble at its finest

Ppl just disregard crucial variables like debt to income ratio, location, kids, potential, etc... then release these dumbass posts that other dumbass lemmings follow WHILE being with / fukkin the nikkas this is directed at...

It’s so corny how these old ass broads lash out with these shyts on social media. I know because whenever I am bored enough to the point where idgaf about losing brain cells, ill browse my social media and see what these birds and bird ass nikkas in my age bracket / timeline be saying.

mfs be in their second childhood on fb...

 

[Balla]

Lmao I swear income expectations keep rising. “You know $25 ain’t shyt, you need to do better, that’s basically minimum wage”.

 

[Canon]

College educated, $50k and up managerial job

sooooooo nothing

i don't think most men care about those qualities

 

[Balla]

I have single friends who are highly educated with decent paying careers( paying 60k and above) they do care about being with a man that made significantly less, so I’m not sure what that poster was saying either.

It’s actually not much wrong with $18 an hour if it’s a young single male in his early to mid twenties in a low col city with no debt, kids, and that is frugal. Especially where I live(in Charlotte)...

But the circumstances matter. for my age range that salary means he doesn’t have a trade or a degree, which means he doesn’t have skills that can be transferred in case he lost a job, moved, etc. The chances of stability are more difficult without a degree or trade.

I have a friend who is 37 who met a man a couple of years ago who was making in the 50/60 range at a job, that he got from a friend who knew him. A year later he lost the job. The thing is he has no trade, degree or decent paying skill. So he’s now working one full time job making $18 an hour, and one part time job making like $15. That’s all he could get. He’s 43, with three kids. He doesn’t even have time to date and is pretty tired, and he’s strapped financially. He got lucky with the job he had the year before but in the end, it’s more than just the income that matters.

Women think about wanting families, wanting to get a house with their husband, and other expenses that requires two decent income these days, if they want to live a semblance of middle class life.

I do think women these days are a little more open than in the past to men making a little less, especially if they already make more than enough to live the lives they want already(which is different from making enough to have some of what you want but not having enough to live the lifestyle you want—which is more likely to result in women seeking men that make the same or more to fill in that gap lol).

In any case, I think significant income differences can present issues depending on the people involved.

If a women makes a few dollars more than $18 and they both are single, and young, and he’s a good saver, if she has loans and debts, it equals out, so looking down on his salary is strange but everyone is entitled to their preferences.

But in my age range, even if i factor in loans and debt(in my case isn’t very much tbh) my salary is more than twice $18 an hour and that’s just in one stream of income—(i also get child support and a small stream of passive income added to all of that) so it becomes a very significant difference. On top of the fact that he doesn’t have a trade, skill or degree.

Also not sure why 50/60K is being thrown around as the amount women in managerial roles in corporate offices make. Not sure where y’all live but here in Charlotte 50/60K is actually a low salary for a manager unless they are a store manager or non profit.

How does a job give 50k-60k with no skills? What kind of job did dude have where he didn’t learn skills on the job that paid that much with no education?

There’s no way that job wasn’t a skilled job unless it was a high paying call center or something.

I know a few people who got put on by a friend and they learned skills from that job and used it for other jobs.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Dam. .. you hit me with a booksnrain titan graph.


That's true. The girlfriends who I had dated during that rough period were in the same boat as me but we always saw the potential in each other. Sadly it didn't work out but it goes to show there are decent women out there who don't expect the finished product at a young age.


And that's the problem. It's harder for women (especially black women) to reach the top of the mountain of their respective fields. Once they do by their mid 30s.. the dating pool of men in their age bracket is slim... especially if they're looking for men with no children and a similar salary. It's damn near impossible.

And no man in that position is going to settle down..and if I'm being brutally honest... a man in his 30s with no kids and a good salary is going to play the field for a while and more than likely settle down with a woman much younger.



Yup. I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman wanting financial security as she gets older. That's exactly what she should be seeking if she wants to start a family. The problem is.. there are a lot of women out there who want the cream of the crop but bring nothing to the table but ass and titties.

I come from a traditional family so I'm happy to be the breadwinner and have a stay at home wife. But the women I meet scoff at that idea... acting as if that's beneath them.



That's a figure I threw out there as my point. There are women I know who make that amount thinking they've made it when that's 's low managerial salary role. But to them, the title alone and having a car and own space makes them think that's success.

Go figure.

I’m in my early thirties not mid thirties. I don’t know, I don’t feel like I’ve had to climb obstacles career wise to get where I am, I went to school got my bachelor and later got my master degree. I followed my heart tbh, and got my second degree in something that people laughed at, especially since I was a single mom at the time and working full time while in school. No one thought it was worth it.

I do what I love now and what I’m good at, because I trusted in God and let him take that part of my life. I don’t even work very hard, that’s actually why I feel like it’s so important for people to really have a skill, a degree, a trade, I mean something to fall back on. Because I know people working so much harder than I ever will have to making significantly less, and the only difference between them and me is that I developed a skill that required a degree.

Anyway I can’t speak for other women that are in their early thirties but I haven’t seen a huge drop in options or difference in the quality of men in my age range, versus where it was in my mid to late twenties. If anything the men that show interest in me now, have their shyt together so much more than they did when I was younger and didn’t have my shyt together, lol.

most of the time the men are professionals like myself in the mid/late twenties to early forties range, some make in the same range or more.

I know people on here say men that are my age play the field and date younger so it gets harder but tbh that’s not been my experience. If anything it’s those men that actually be ready to jump right into shyt (at least from my experience). They are so direct and honest about what they want up front, and up until today that always scared me because I’m immature asf and intimidated by men that are on their grown man shyt ready to be serious, when I’m flakey and scary about it.

Maybe it’s the very things you scared of or try to avoid you attract? It’s a resolution of mine though to grow the fukk up emotionally, stop being destructive in 2020 and not push anyone else away. So i’ll Let you know by 2021 if once I did that, options got slimmer than a mug.

Some of my friends are struggling with men and do complain about quality—so I’m aware that it is an issue, it hasn’t been yet for me, so honestly a lot of this is my opinion based on my experiences.

As for what you said about women scoffing at the idea of a traditional marriage with a man as the breadwinner, that’s interesting. A lot of my friends would love that set up. My dad was the breadwinner and my mom was stay at home—I’m neutral on it. But I can see why a breh who desires that would scoop up a younger women to make that happen(before she’s gotten set in her career and life).

 

[MMA]

You are missing a lot of context here regarding the situation.

If she wants a higher than 18/hr income partner she should go for that. There’s nothing wrong with what she is asking for - she’s only having a hard time because she doesn’t know where to look and it seems like her available options aren’t that.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

How does a job give 50k-60k with no skills? What kind of job did dude have where he didn’t learn skills on the job that paid that much with no education?

There’s no way that job wasn’t a skilled job unless it was a high paying call center or something.

I know a few people who got put on by a friend and they learned skills from that job and used it for other jobs.

He got put into some role that he wasn’t qualified for—I don’t know the details, but that’s why he lost the job. I don’t know why he couldn’t transfer the skill elsewhere. This is someone my friend dated not me. And tbh though it could be ducktales. We judged the fukk out of her for dating him, not just because of his low salary but he was cheating and doing all kind of crazy shyt we found out about. She tried to present it as if was one way(on some when I met him he was one way but after I fell in love he became xyz). I think she lying like shyt, lol, but she claims he was making that amount when they met. So if she’s telling the truth, that’s a fall off, and she says it’s because he lacks a degree and a trade

 

[jadillac]

most of these "single" women have friends w/ benefits.

So in my mind, you ain't really single. I don't want to hear any complaining.

 

[Krazy K]

@CarmelBarbie Give a broke nikka a chance we need love too

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

There is a lot of dishonesty going on here. The reality is these women want two things looks and success. They will settle for fukn a dude that's not as successful but will not want to take anywhere due to shame of marrying below their level all while ignoring dudes with their shyt together because they dont fit their superficial standards. Eventually they break and choose.