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I'm grappling over a break up right now. I knew at the end of it we did the right thing of breaking up. I of course have feelings for her and love her.

Unfortunately the relationship ended violently when she asked me for money (I later gave her it same day) which made her explode on me. She threw stuff, pushed me, and hit me.

I have NO REASON to contact her ever again. My issue is processing the pain that incident caused. I can't reconcile with her obviously but I'm wrestling with these emotions now.

However emotional you think you are,most women are 5-10 times. Some women get violent because they cant control their emotions and no that they can. Doesnt mean that love wasnt behind the attack.



But being that you dont live in an environment where you can correct womens behaviors by way of manhandling. The only option is to stay away. As men we never think we would put our hands on a woman. But you have to keep in the back of your mind its always a possibility. Especially where feelings are involved. And thats the last thing you ever want to do in this country.
 

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Can’t say I’m going to 100% commit, but I’m highly considering getting this, this week. Had therapy before and it was a man and he was black but it didn’t help much. All he said was I was emotionally frozen but I don’t think that’s the case at all I wasn’t 100% comfortable sharing my life with him.
 

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Can’t say I’m going to 100% commit, but I’m highly considering getting this, this week. Had therapy before and it was a man and he was black but it didn’t help much. All he said was I was emotionally frozen but I don’t think that’s the case at all I wasn’t 100% comfortable sharing my life with him.

Doesn't sound like he was used to people being uncomfortable with sharing. Saying your emotionally frozen isn't going to get ANYONE to open up.

Unless he wanted to shame a response out of you, which in that case, fukk that guy.

My current therapist is a white woman and she is the best I've ever had.

As long as the person can mirror back correctly what you are saying and how you say you are feeling, all that matters.

You can feel people out over a phone call, I condensed my life story in about ten minutes and she was able to say back what I was experiencing within five minutes.

I wish you blessings in your journey breh, it took me years and over ten therapists to find this one, she was recommended to me by a Psychiatrist.





Emotional Incarnation





I bought Battle Cry, Jason Wilson deserves all the success :wow:
 
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I'm grappling over a break up right now. I knew at the end of it we did the right thing of breaking up. I of course have feelings for her and love her.

Unfortunately the relationship ended violently when she asked me for money (I later gave her it same day) which made her explode on me. She threw stuff, pushed me, and hit me.

I have NO REASON to contact her ever again. My issue is processing the pain that incident caused. I can't reconcile with her obviously but I'm wrestling with these emotions now.
:bryan:
 

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How can I find a good Black therapist in my area? Reason I ask is I'm trying to grapple with feelings about the demise of my relationship and how it ended. Basically my ex got violent with me and that's one of the last memories of the relationship I had. It stained a lot of the good in the relationship obviously.

It's just fukking with me because I've had an ex attack me before and I'm wondering if it's me or a type of woman I go after.
 

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How can I find a good Black therapist in my area? Reason I ask is I'm trying to grapple with feelings about the demise of my relationship and how it ended. Basically my ex got violent with me and that's one of the last memories of the relationship I had. It stained a lot of the good in the relationship obviously.

It's just fukking with me because I've had an ex attack me before and I'm wondering if it's me or a type of woman I go after.
Don’t think you’re someone’s punching bag, because you are not.

What’s helped me during my vetting process is to analyze their basic interactions with the world. A simple one is how they treat strangers candidly.

Not a therapist, just saw the post and wanted to throw my two cents. Good luck finding a therapist g 👍
 

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Don’t think you’re someone’s punching bag, because you are not.

What’s helped me during my vetting process is to analyze their basic interactions with the world. A simple one is how they treat strangers candidly.

Not a therapist, just saw the post and wanted to throw my two cents. Good luck finding a therapist g 👍

She's just a very conflict avoidant type. She was raised to be "nice" and is an educator. She generally treats people very well and gives people the benefit of the doubt to which I think she does it too much. I think there was a point she just harbored a lot of resentment towards me and lashed out which is uncharacteristic of her.

I'm more direct and fair with people. I don't really give people benefit of the doubt. I'm kind but not going to cut people slack.
 

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How can I find a good Black therapist in my area? Reason I ask is I'm trying to grapple with feelings about the demise of my relationship and how it ended. Basically my ex got violent with me and that's one of the last memories of the relationship I had. It stained a lot of the good in the relationship obviously.

It's just fukking with me because I've had an ex attack me before and I'm wondering if it's me or a type of woman I go after.
The first link in the OP goes to a website dedicated for Black male therapists.

Hopefully you find one in your area. Also try Psychology Today and their listings.
 
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