I'm grappling over a break up right now. I knew at the end of it we did the right thing of breaking up. I of course have feelings for her and love her.
Unfortunately the relationship ended violently when she asked me for money (I later gave her it same day) which made her explode on me. She threw stuff, pushed me, and hit me.
I have NO REASON to contact her ever again. My issue is processing the pain that incident caused. I can't reconcile with her obviously but I'm wrestling with these emotions now.
However emotional you think you are,most women are 5-10 times. Some women get violent because they cant control their emotions and no that they can. Doesnt mean that love wasnt behind the attack.
But being that you dont live in an environment where you can correct womens behaviors by way of manhandling. The only option is to stay away. As men we never think we would put our hands on a woman. But you have to keep in the back of your mind its always a possibility. Especially where feelings are involved. And thats the last thing you ever want to do in this country.