The whole GMB thing is ridiculous

[The D-List Vet]

It is a coli meme, but at the same time, some brehs were serious about this from the beginning after all, the whole thing was started by reinscarf, who, until he got married , was absolutely anti-marriage because of some personal trauma.

When did reinscarf get married and was it a black women or cave bytch.

 

[Youseenmywork]

OP go watch Marriage Story on Netflix

Great movie that sums it all up

 

[Youseenmywork]

Fellas this why women that make 100k don't want to marry a breh that lets say makes 80k . She don't want to cough up that money hence the reason why women don't want to "date down" . Even thoe a man that's making 80k can afford a little more than half her lifestyle.

 

[Colicat]

One, fukk you. We not cool enough for momma jokes.

Two, my issues are about black pathology like white, asians and latinos don't have single parent household.

90% of issues linked to single mothers are associated more strongly with poverty and lack social capital.

If "not married" = broken home

I disagree, but, I not here to argue with your opinion.

Edit; most non married black men are in their children's lives and coparent. Much more than any race might i add.

I whole heartedly agree. But co-parenting does not build strong communities... Finances are split between two households and the likelihood of building and passing on generational wealth decreases.

 

[K.O.N.Y]

Last time I checked WOMEN initiate most of the divorces in america... who's really destroying the black family again??!?

I mean what's the point of being married if she's just gonna divorce your ass later. that piece of legal paper, that ring, meant nothing to her...

you act like there's not plenty of marriages that prosper

Be a black man that doesn't even want to initiate the prospect of a black family

Obviously, if it makes sense then go forward, if it doesn't, it doesn't

 

[ThaEruditious]

In before somebody comes in and say "my parents been together for 35 yrs"

Whole different era. Both of my sets of parents have been married 25+ years and are in their 50s and 60s. I highly doubt I will due to the atmosphere today. Shyt was far different when we were growing up compared to now.

 

[Shadow King]

Not ragging on men... just explaining that the members of the coli who believe that having children without having a stable marriage is detrimental to the Black community...

Valid observation... any rationalization of GMB ideology and behavior is an excuse, in my opinion



I agree... women who quit on a non-abusive marriage (cheating is abuse) are problematic as well. But this is not about people who have entered into a marriage. This is about the GMB Black men who refuse to put in work to find a suitable partner and commit.



Superficial women are problematic as well. Rarely is a woman’s superficiality hidden. There are plenty of red flags that highlight that a woman is only about lifestyle and not actually about living. Y’all ain’t ready for that conversation though. This is about the GMB Black men who refuse to put in work to find a suitable partner and commit.

There are no longer any suitable partners, especially after a certain age range, and for the extreme few who are, you're asking men to sacrifice physical attraction which is a building block. This is not about "putting in work" if you believe in the freedom enjoyed in modern dating, particularly for women.

Either there will be a revision in how young women are cultivated to behave towards men or we shift into a culture dominated by arranged marriages. Anything else won't work at this point.

 

[Youseenmywork]

There are no longer any suitable partners, especially after a certain age range, and for the extreme few who are, you're asking men to sacrifice physical attraction which is a building block. This is not about "putting in work" if you believe in the freedom enjoyed in modern dating, particularly for women.

Either there will be a revision in how young women are cultivated to behave towards men or we shift into a culture dominated by arranged marriages. Anything else won't work at this point.

Now this i agree with . Women don't want to change their view of men from being just a utility to them but feminism has spent the last 15yrs trying to show us that women are human to only for them to turn around and make men less than human ...oh the irony....

 

[mamba]

Superficial women are problematic as well. Rarely is a woman’s superficiality hidden. There are plenty of red flags that highlight that a woman is only about lifestyle and not actually about living. Y’all ain’t ready for that conversation though. This is about the GMB Black men who refuse to put in work to find a suitable partner and commit.

A lot men just don’t have the energy to put in the work to sift through all the damaged women out there.

Solid brehs who are out here making it and living a good life aren’t about to expend a bunch of energy chasing after the one.

If he comes across one as he is living his life, he might wife her up. But, a lot of brehs are just busy living life and aren’t trying to disrupt things by trying to juggle a bunch of women until they find the one.

 

[Mrhateeverything]

GMB ....
Been married once and it wasnt for me. Been in hella long term relationships and i never enjoyed it when i look back on it. I thought it was something i just had to do because everyone else does it.
was with someone or married from like 21- till i was in my 30s.
Ive been single for the past few years and i enjoy it more .
I dont hate women. Im not bitter at all , just being shackled up is something i dont enjoy.

 

[Youseenmywork]

A lot men just don’t have the energy to put in the work to sift through all the damaged women out there.

Solid brehs who are out here making it and living a good life aren’t about to expend a bunch of energy chasing after the one.

If he comes across one as he is living his life, he might wife her up. But, a lot of brehs are just busy living life and aren’t trying to disrupt things by trying to juggle a bunch of women until they find the one.

...and some men that have everything in their lives under control will only deal with a women on ceartin terms and probably want deal with a women past a ceartin point anyway . Personally you get to an age where you don't need women's validation .

 

[Humble (Not) Mike Tyson]

I whole heartedly agree. But co-parenting does not build strong communities... Finances are split between two households and the likelihood of building and passing on generational wealth decreases.

I don't know where ya'll are getting these "facts" from.

The argument being spouted around is that the nuclear family can only operate successfully, in 2020, as it did in 1920.

Define "strong communities"

Define the concept of "Split Finances"--it's been proven married people don't combine salaries to spend less, they typically spend more .

"Generational wealth" is another internet buzzword black folk have b*stardized--we'd have generational wealth if it wasn't for slavery and subsequent lack of reparations.

Most wealth is lost by the 2nd generation.

I can sent sources of all of this.

Again, ya'll are spouting socially conservative talking points.

The white woman single mother who only has a degree is doing better than the black two married parent household with two college graduates.

 

[Youseenmywork]

GMB ....
Been married once and it wasnt for me. Been in hella long term relationships and i never enjoyed it when i look back on it. I thought it was something i just had to do because everyone else does it.
was with someone or married from like 21- till i was in my 30s.
Ive been single for the past few years and i enjoy it more .
I dont hate women. Im not bitter at all , just being shackled up is something i dont enjoy.

Thanks for telling your story

 

[rbksNgirbauds]

.... If GMB is comprised of men of your ilk, then I see why you are lobbying against marriage

What do you mean by that?

 

[ORDER_66]

you act like there's not plenty of marriages that prosper

Be a black man that doesn't even want to initiate the prospect of a black family

Obviously, if it makes sense then go forward, if it doesn't, it doesn't

71% divorces >>> 38% Non-Divorces Nationwide..... do the math dummy...