The rich gets richer and poor gets poorer dynamic is reflected in modern dating game as well

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Born wealthy men tend to date and mate with women from their own background, women that have high social currency. And that high social currency then manifest into physical currency.

If a woman attends Yale, she makes friends with other high status women. If she joins an eating club, she expands her network of high status women. Most of these women within her network are going to marry high powered men in the future.

When this women gets married, she opens her husband's network up to these high status women and their high powered husbands.

And establishing relationships with these husbands can lead to lucrative business connections and deals which leads to an increasing of family wealth.

Add to that, if the woman is active on the charitable philanthropic circuit which introduces her and her husband to even more wealthy women and their husbands and leads to more profitable business connections down the line, it's very easy to see how the rich get richer in their mating selections.

These are the unspoken things that women "bring to the table" that high status people are aware of that those on the bottom are not. That's why there is never a question of "what does she bring to the table to justify the financial investment" among high status people like it is among low status people. While the man is the household financial contributor the woman has social currency that helps increases the overall net worth of the family through her social endeavors and connections that leads to business deals that her husband can take advantage of.

Within the black community, these women are off limits to majority of black men, with few exceptions (Bill Cosby, among others). You won't find dope dealers, hustlers, athletes, and entertainers (for the most part) with these women because most of the men come from poor backgrounds and don't have the networks to access these women. So what becomes "high social currency" amongst mainstream black people is different among the black bourgeoisie and the "old issue negroes" and quite frankly everyone else.

 

[Wink Beaufield]

Do they mention the dating scene ?

Only in passing as to how a lot of dudes "got too many options".

Funny enough, Atlanta's dating scene is much worse in this regard.

 

[Jalether]

This is what happens when you commodify interpersonal relationships. As soon as people began speaking of a "dating market" it was over.

Online dating was the final nail in the coffin

 

[Jalether]

There was no dating. Families usually just set up their kids. Modern dating is only like 40ish years old and online dating is 20ish.

Most people are just bumping their heads figuring it out

Those were simpler times, arranged marriages gave pre historic lames and bums the opportunity to spread their seed before leaving the earth

 

[Jalether]

I’ll never understand this topic. There’s an even split of men and women. Women cannot be happy and coupled up long term if men aren’t. The only way this logic works is if one man has 2-3 women as side chicks to offset 2-3 other men having no one. While that may happen in our 20s and 30s, that’s not gonna be something that goes on for life. How many 40 and 50 yo side chicks are there Everyone eventually has to pair up.

It simple actually. There are plenty of lonely men and women out there

The lonely men who are àverage find it increasingly difficult to get women and some have just straight up giving up while the lonely women are not willing to "settle"

And yes, some men have multiple side chicks, this is especially common in most African countries where women,especially the younger ones,willingly accept the role of sidechick

 

[Jalether]

0You'll be surprised how many men around the world get zero p*ssy.

Women share a minority of men.

It's particularly rough for men in East Asian countries

 

[Lonj]

One thing that doesn't get mentioned much when this topic comes up is that a lot of this newer generation are cool with not getting no buns. They're perfectly fine subbing to their favorite onlyfans thot or following them on IG, tossing off and going about their day. You can't miss what you never had.

 

[Mr. Glass]

Can confirm. Having a house in the city is a damn force multiplier out here.

Got some FWBs that come in and clean my spot along with cooking because they putting in them wifey applications.

Before I got married, this was me in LA. I bought my first house, remodeled it, bought my first Rover, and it was on.

On my mama's life, I was exhausted from dealing with some many females. Like 6 in 6 nights and shyt. shyt was too much.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Most dudes don’t even leave the house. They acting like a girl is just gonna break in their Dirty room and give them some pum pum

 

[010101]

the rules are the rules*

 

[Jalether]

One thing that doesn't get mentioned much when this topic comes up is that a lot of this newer generation are cool with not getting no buns. They're perfectly fine subbing to their favorite onlyfans thot or following them on IG, tossing off and going about their day. You can't miss what you never had.

I can confirm. My homies young cousin currently lives this way. It's both sad and amazing at the same time

 

[Ozymandeas]

No they don’t. There are more women than men.
In dc there are 121,000 black men to 145,000 black women. Now take into account that black women have college degrees nationwide at a higher rate than black men and you can see their options for what they want drop even further. It’s not so much that there aren’t enough men to go around. Just the men most women desire.

It’s not that much more breh. When you’re talking billions of people, a few million extra for either gender is minuscule and immaterial. I think there’s 60 million more men in the world. But when you add in the fags, nikkas in prison, druggies and homeless nikkas, it evens out very quickly.

 

[re'up]

I can confirm. My homies young cousin currently lives this way. It's both sad and amazing at the same time

This is an easy side effect of living through/living on screens, not quite a "meta verse"

but it becomes more real, more valid, and much easier than actually connecting with someone,

and thats why there is so much of that kind of behavior, not just men on onlyfans, but people texting for weeks and months before meeting, people maintaining digital options, men and women, through dating apps, that they rarely or never plan to meet

 

[WIA20XX]

Keep in mind, the main folks that should be concerned about this is white people.

 

[Ozymandeas]

At 40-50 she can't reproduce anymore so no one cares. What matters is who she's fukking in her reproductive prime. That's the true test. Not the 50 year old bum she settles for and doesn't even have sex with.

I agree to some extent. But only some. Most women are not sharing a man even into their 30s. Which is what you’re arguing. That’s when women get scared of not getting a ring. Generally women will try to shoot for the stars in college, and in their 20s, try to fight after the same 10% of men, then by 30, they wise up and start pressuring men for commitment. Pregnancy rates have dropped considerably compared to previous decades so these broads aren’t getting married and they aren’t creating families. And common sense tells you no man is gonna have 2-3 side chicks for the rest of his life. THESE WOMEN ARE ALL ALONE BREH. That’s all I’m saying. The math doesn’t math anyway else. What happens is when these broads try to get with a top class man, and fail at it, they choose to be permanently single rather than date their average equal. That makes sense with the world I see.