Essential The Mental Health Thread

[Coolin']

How is your relationship with your mom? Do yall speak to each other? And if yall do, are you guys able to have a convo with each other without it going to the left? Hows your father been doing after divorcing her. Hold your head, fam. People really dont know how difficult and draining that shyt is especially when its a parent.


Its embarrassing really because (dont know if your mom is like this) but its like he will morph into this likeable, life of the party charming guy where hes nice and whatever especially when he meets new people or wants to make an impression. You wouldnt believe me if i told you the person he is and the shyt hes done if you saw him in "prince charming" mode . shyts sick. I even suspect that he might be a sociopath too. I dont feel comfortable him and i worry about my mother's safety around him. My father has always been in my life but if you were to ask me about him and his life, i couldnt tell you shyt because he hasnt told me his history and theres no photos or anybody that can verify shyt. Hes not an honest person and has made up stories and lies so who knows who he is. Ive recently found out that he possibly lied about something in his past he has said. He doesnt even wanna go back to the country hes from and makes up all the excuses to why he cant go back. He also doesnt want to leave the country despite having a passport.



I wish my mom would have divorced my father for her sake. Good for your dad. Did he go to therapy after having to deal with her?

Once my dad left, he stopped all communication with us. Interestingly enough, though, my sister recently reached out to him and he responded saying my mother was the reason he didn’t want to contact us (?). I don’t know what that means but I don’t have a relationship with him. And I limit contact with my mother as much as possible. I called her a few months ago, as I was going through something, and all she said was to “pray about it”. No comfort. No motherly advise. Nothing. However, when she has issues she needs all of the support. It’s draining.

I don’t have any close family ties, and that’s where all of my issues stem from.

 

[pickles]

I might try this
What's an example of a typical meal plan on this diet

This is my own diet plan of food I like, but I say stick to anything natural. Be consious of labels, keep the sugar intake low, try to keep it below 36 grams.

Like I said I was eating crap, talking about pizza (like half of it, some shyt) Taco Bell etc.

So I said to myself if I stick to this path, I am going to feel worse and gain more weight and it will just cycle leading to even more misery.

So for the first week for dinner I would eat salad, not some ice berg lettuce bullshyt, some nice green salad with tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers with light Italian sauce.
Organic Spring Mix Lettuce - 16oz - Good & Gather™


It was tough but I made it through. I also cut my sugar intake. I am really conscious of this. I don't eat rice or bleached flour like bread, pizza etc.

I have these two apps, both free, one to track my steps and other to track my mood and journal about my day.

‎Pacer Pedometer & Step Tracker

‎Daylio Journal


Just keep it natural, no hot cheetos, no artificial shyt, no fruit juice, just water.

The first month is tough, but after months of this, I feel better, I no longer feel the urges for crap food.

Also I did this last month

Ever gone Skydiving??? Tell your experiences!!

Which just increased my confidence even more.

Good luck, don't hesitate to ask me questions.

 

[semicko82]

This is my own diet plan of food I like, but I say stick to anything natural. Be consious of labels, keep the sugar intake low, try to keep it below 36 grams.

Like I said I was eating crap, talking about pizza (like half of it, some shyt) Taco Bell etc.

So I said to myself if I stick to this path, I am going to feel worse and gain more weight and it will just cycle leading to even more misery.

So for the first week for dinner I would eat salad, not some ice berg lettuce bullshyt, some nice green salad with tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers with light Italian sauce.
Organic Spring Mix Lettuce - 16oz - Good & Gather™


It was tough but I made it through. I also cut my sugar intake. I am really conscious of this. I don't eat rice or bleached flour like bread, pizza etc.

I have these two apps, both free, one to track my steps and other to track my mood and journal about my day.

‎Pacer Pedometer & Step Tracker

‎Daylio Journal


Just keep it natural, no hot cheetos, no artificial shyt, no fruit juice, just water.

The first month is tough, but after months of this, I feel better, I no longer feel the urges for crap food.

Also I did this last month

Ever gone Skydiving??? Tell your experiences!!

Which just increased my confidence even more.

Good luck, don't hesitate to ask me questions.

I don't think the meal plan wouldn't be hard.
My weakness would be alchohol.
If I could kick the beer and whiskey this would make it more simple

 

[Pazzy]

Once my dad left, he stopped all communication with us. Interestingly enough, though, my sister recently reached out to him and he responded saying my mother was the reason he didn’t want to contact us (?). I don’t know what that means but I don’t have a relationship with him. And I limit contact with my mother as much as possible. I called her a few months ago, as I was going through something, and all she said was to “pray about it”. No comfort. No motherly advise. Nothing. However, when she has issues she needs all of the support. It’s draining.

I don’t have any close family ties, and that’s where all of my issues stem from.

Have you tried going to a therapist about your parents?

Dont know about you but do you fear that you might have inherited that narcissism shyt too?

Do you feel weird when other peoples talk about their mothers and you hear how theirs is different for yours and also how different their environment they grew up.

One thing that i know for sure is i do need to get therapy simply because im afraid that i might have picked a few bad traits from my father. I do need therapy for my daddy issues. I dont want to be like him.. yesterday he was ready to get his attention seeker on as soon as he got home by claiming he had hip pain overexagggerating shyt for attention. Then he tried to go off on me because i wasnt giving him the attention he was little scouring out for not even saying shyt to me. My father is just a sad person. I try to avoid him simply because he aint right in the head and its too much. I need to let go of my anger towards my father though and try to be forgiving and just have to accept him for who he is. I do wanna know about his past, his family and etc because aside from my two cousins, and his background because hes been hiding shyt, telling stories, lying and the whole nine so i really dont know my father personally as in i can tell you with confidence that what hes saying is true. Some of his own folks have said hes lying about his past. I wish my father and me had a better son and father relationship but hes fukked up. shyt reminds me as a kid when i used to beg him to take me out to spend time with him and he'd rather spend all day sleeping on the couch saying "ill go next week". Since ive been an adult, my father has been trying to gaslight me by trying to bring up and overexaggerate the times he would spend around me as a kid. He even brings up people i cant even recall meeting. He would take my bro and me out and spend time with us sometimes when he was home. Otherwise he just would go to work, not come home, have my mom literally doing everything from cooking, working 2 and even 3 jobs, taking us to school , and whatever and she was going to school. My father just had one job, refused to get another and dude was more interested in acting more like a hotel guest. He would hang out with his friends, think he even went out of state with them instead of coming home and being a dad. Then dude would even take my fukking pocket money on some thieving shyt and lie to my face when i was a kid. Just talking about this shyt is making me feel a bit relieved because shyt really triggers me thinking about it and the fact he wants to act that shyt didnt happen or he isnt who he is. Its sad.

Hell my father and me dont even have convos. Hes more interested in talking AT me than talking WITH me. Even when i walk past him, hes on some disrespectful shyt. Cant even say excuse me and no manners. Just rude and does whatever he wants with no regards or respect for his family. Then he had the nerve to say i dont respect the family because i cursed when he did some crazy shyt knowing he'll do another ruckus. Man....my father and me.....


Remember parents, its not just about being present, its about what you do too. Kids dont forget. How much time you give to your kids and what you do is important.

 

[Slic Ric]

I appreciate all the brehs who posted last couple pages

Yea these meds, the fukk out your brain as they go directly to it and the side effects are crazy. I've been doing CBD (I was one of the few that didnt want to believe its sham, but it is ) the issue with me is I deal with paranoia, so weed/THC would be the worst thing for me.

I've tried doing Fish Oil per day & CBD and may try that diet as well

 

[pickles]

I don't think the meal plan wouldn't be hard.
My weakness would be alchohol.
If I could kick the beer and whiskey this would make it more simple

Yeah I don't think it is hard at all.

With the alcohol use, you have to taper it over time.

Substitute one behavior for another, or take a walk first then decide if you want that drink.
Don't beat yourself up if you go off course, just keep trying.


When you change your behavior pattern, EVERYTHING changes! I sleep better. I have hopeful nicer thoughts. I am calm, not anxious. It is honestly worth it.

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

Please please if you have the means determine if you have ADD
If you truly do have ADD, it is directly linked to both depression and anxiety
You can have a some combination of all three so bad it can be DEBILITATING
I noticed my mood and outlook on life, despite my days of struggle, have improved despite not being perfect which is better than nothing since getting tested for and accepting I have ADD and taking medication
Long term, if your brain is actually ADD, medication changes the development of your brain even past 25, allowing your brain to catch up in terms of delayed development
Once I took a break from my meds, I didn't realize how much I needed them and how unproductive I was being being trapped in my own mind
ADD is severely over-diagnosed and underdiagnosed but you have truly have it and treat it with the right dosage, it will change your life.
The ADD combined with the anxiety and depression it causes can be crippling if undiagnosed or left untreated.
Your brain works differently and slows down when you try to focus, which causes countless problems going into adulthood

 

[semicko82]

Yeah I don't think it is hard at all.

With the alcohol use, you have to taper it over time.

Substitute one behavior for another, or take a walk first then decide if you want that drink.
Don't beat yourself up if you go off course, just keep trying.


When you change your behavior pattern, EVERYTHING changes! I sleep better. I have hopeful nicer thoughts. I am calm, not anxious. It is honestly worth it.

Thanks I'll definitely try this diet

 

[Positive Posting]

I gave a bytch everything I didn’t know better. Gave her what she wanted and she sucked me dry. She gonna raise my seed to hate me.

 

[96Blue]

I got my license a couple months ago, before my 25th birthday and started driving... I ended up getting into a car accident which was nothing too serious (I caught the worst end) I'm pretty sure it was me not paying attention due to my ADHD. Anyway, I had to get the grill of my car fixed, but my insurance wouldn't cover it because there was a lot more wrong with my car that was there before the accident, so I had to give my car up and now have to buy another one.

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

I got my license a couple months ago, before my 25th birthday and started driving... I ended up getting into a car accident which was nothing too serious (I caught the worst end) I'm pretty sure it was me not paying attention due to my ADHD. Anyway, I had to get the grill of my car fixed, but my insurance wouldn't cover it because there was a lot more wrong with my car that was there before the accident, so I had to give my car up and now have to buy another one.

please get treated for your ADHD
people who actually have ADHD underestimate how much of an impact not being treated has on their life
it will ruin your life if you really do have ADHD and it is not being treated
It will also lead to anxiety and depression alongside it that will not go away until the ADHD is treated

 

[96Blue]

please get treated for your ADHD
people who actually have ADHD underestimate how much of an impact not being treated has on their life
it will ruin your life if you really do have ADHD and it is not being treated
It will also lead to anxiety and depression alongside it that will not go away until the ADHD is treated

I'm trying to get back to meditation, my family doesn't agree with it. Also, I already have anxiety and depression.

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

I'm trying to get back to meditation, my family doesn't agree with it.

fukk what your family thinks breh
you have one life to live
I used to be on that wave too until I realized it only applies to abusers and people who don't really have ADHD
Have a lot of wasted time, missed opportunities, and haunting regrets as a result
People who have ADHD need medication whether they realize it or not
Studies have shown it improves the frontal lobe over time but only for people who actually have ADHD and not abusers or people who think they have it

 

[96Blue]

fukk what your family thinks breh
you have one life to live
I used to be on that wave too until I realized it only applies to abusers and people who don't really have ADHD
Have a lot of wasted time, missed opportunities, and haunting regrets as a result
People who have ADHD need medication whether they realize it or not
Studies have shown it improves the frontal lobe over time but only for people who actually have ADHD and not abusers or people who think they have it

I don't disagree with you, but I don't know. I have been trying to manage my adhd along with anxiety and depression for awhile, I was even on some fake Prozac or some shyt for my anxiety and I took myself off of it because I started getting self harm thoughts.

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

I don't disagree with you, but I don't know. I have been trying to manage my adhd along with anxiety and depression for awhile, I was even on some fake Prozac or some shyt for my anxiety and I took myself off of it because I started getting self harm thoughts.

like I said before, ADHD has to be treated especially in adulthood
It's a real condition that can destroy your life if not properly addressed
I recommend vyvanse, or anything close to it
Once everything comes together, you're going to realize just how much the ADHD was holding you back