Essential The Mental Health Thread

[96Blue]

Hey breh, I’m so sorry that they put you to the side like that. Bipolar is serious. That needs to be addressed along with the anxiety and ADHD. How do you cope?

And to answer your question about masculinity: being a man is about being comfortable within yourself as you strive to be the best with each day. Great men have drive, passion, grace, empathy, courage and humility. How can you maximize those qualities in yourself?

And reading into your post more: do you feel like people respect you? Do you feel understood?

Nah, I don't feel like people respect me and I don't feel understood. I want to be respected and taken seriously.

As far as coping with bipolar I don't know, I don't even know if I have it. I don't have manic episodes at least to my knowledge, and I can control my sleeping with ease, I could possibly still be bipolar, but if I do have it, I guess it's not that big of a problem for me.

As far as ADHD and Anxiety, I just take it day by day.

 

[semicko82]

Kind of a personal question, but how can I be more masculine?

I used to fight a lot when I was a kid and didn't have any fight or flight responses or anything, I used to take a lot of fades, but as I've gotten older, fight or flight has taken over, Brehs.

It's to a point where I avoid confrontation even though confrontation is a good thing because I don't want mufuggas thinking they can say whatever or do whatever to me or around me and I will just be okay with it.

And I'm not trying to fight the whole world or every man that chooses to say something to me, but I should always be ready for it, if it gets to that.

Go to the gym

 

[semicko82]

My guy it’s crazy. I’m 23 too. Also I’m from Zimbabwe btw lol. Funny shyt. And I also got a degree in something largely useless (Professional Communication and Media Studies). And I’m in debt about 20,000 bucks. It’s crazy.

I have applied to about 100 or so jobs since August 2020 (when I officially graduated). I have been doing odd job since then. No one wants to hire me.

I also got no real friends and no real trajectory rn. I’ve been at home with Moms since November. Life is stagnant but I haven’t given up yet.

I also want freedom. I also want total ownership of my time. I want a good life. I am trying to find a way to monetize my voice and thoughts. I am trying to figure things out in a practical fashion. What do you really want to do with your life? Music? Making Art?

You’re just thinking about the things you don’t have, but not concentrating on the things you do have

 

[semicko82]

I stopped drinking for a few days then fell off the bandwagon tonight

 

[Monsanto]

I stopped drinking for a few days then fell off the bandwagon tonight

The wagon is still there.

Hop back on and take the reins.

What led to the drink this time?

When we aren't hitting our targets we tend to partake in self destructive behaviors.

Even boredom tempts us to those old habits.

You have another day to start anew

 

[Guile]

You have to be around people that care about your mental health or at least avoid people who are bringing it down.

 

[semicko82]

The wagon is still there.

Hop back on and take the reins.

What led to the drink this time?

When we aren't hitting our targets we tend to partake in self destructive behaviors.

Even boredom tempts us to those old habits.

You have another day to start anew

Long day at work plus reading about recent current events I just said fuk it

 

[King]

Damn...

I feel stuck in place. I can’t move.

I haven’t moved at for over 9 months now. What have I even been doing?

Im looking back with shame. I don’t know what to do.

 

[semicko82]

Damn...

I feel stuck in place. I can’t move.

I haven’t moved at for over 9 months now. What have I even been doing?

Im looking back with shame. I don’t know what to do.

What place are you stuck at

 

[semicko82]

You have to be around people that care about your mental health or at least avoid people who are bringing it down.

You will be damn lonely if that’s the case

 

[semicko82]

Sometimes i feel like the people i know act like i don't exist, that shyt can fukk with your mind sometimes and it is a fukked up feeling feeling misunderstood. I think i might have some type of anxiety but i tend to keep myself busy with playing basketball, music, cooking, and trying to build something for my future. I'm thankful i don't drink, do drugs or smoke so i keep active like taking long walks, bike rides to relieve the stress. It's a mental bender to stay on that road but it's good to try and keep a positive head on your shoulders. One thing everyone should know is that we are all going thru something, more so with this pandemic that seems like it's never gonna end. Just try to keep a positive mind set, make sure to take care of your well being, and you'll see the days will get better.

Have you told them you feel that way

 

[BK The Great]

Have you told them you feel that way

Sometimes i have. But thank God i don't always have bad days. It's normal to have them. I'm just keeping a positive mind, cause that's when things change for the better.

 

[semicko82]

Sometimes i have. But thank God i don't always have bad days. It's normal to have them. I'm just keeping a positive mind, cause that's when things change for the better.

Yea you’re right

 

[BK The Great]

Yea you’re right

One thing i notice is that if you put your mind in a positive outlook things would feel much better. You also can't respond to negativity, or if people are in a bad mood and they place that energy on someone you shouldn't respond with the same feedback. I tend to sense on how people are feeling. I gravitate to someone's energy, if it's bad i try to stay away. Sometimes it's hard to tell.

 

[King]

What place are you stuck at

I don’t even know where to go

I’m fully convinced that this entire society is stacked against me.

I graduated from a top school (which is literally meaningless because I got no network out of it)

I don’t know anyone. Can’t contact anyone to put me on, can’t do shyt except get rejected in literally every application I put out there.

I try not to compare myself to those I went to school with but their all doing crazy good now because they either made those networks or were already in the position for their career. I’m talking 6 figures off the bat type shyt.

I feel like I missed the train. I didn’t know how important that shyt was bc I was literally a first generation student with no real guidance on how to work this shyt. I just thought graduating was enough.

I literally don’t know where to go. My ego won’t let me get a minimum wage job just because I know I’m worth so much more than that.

I’ve gotten doors slammed in my face too many times already to keep trying to appease these people to let me get a foot in.

Come from a family with zero generational wealth or connections - everyone around me is already living in poverty.

Idk breh I just don’t know what to do. I really have no fukking idea at this point. Hedged all my bets on this one investment and it’s legit worthless. Now the shyt is sinking in and all I wanna do is lay in bed to escape from it.