Essential The Mental Health Thread

[Reno89]

I'm depressed all the time because of my weight. The worst part about it is that I lost 80 pounds before, and gained it back. When I lost the weight, and was working on my wardrobe, I was getting approached by random women, and getting all kinds of compliments.

It felt good. People treated me better. People called me by my actual name instead of big man. Women were more cooperative. I felt like every article of clothing I picked out looked good on me. I felt comfortable being myself.

I gained 100lb back, and all of that completely stopped.

I was a big dude up north, and lost weight in Atlanta. I went back up north, and people were complimenting me all the time about losing weight. Friends were asking when I'm going to come up there again, and I haven't been there since 2013.

I have lost contact with so many women because of my weight gain that its not even funny.

It's frustrating when you work out, and see that you gained 1 lb when you step on the scale the next day

 

[NeilCartwright]

I'm depressed all the time because of my weight. The worst part about it is that I lost 80 pounds before, and gained it back. When I lost the weight, and was working on my wardrobe, I was getting approached by random women, and getting all kinds of compliments.

It felt good. People treated me better. People called me by my actual name instead of big man. Women were more cooperative. I felt like every article of clothing I picked out looked good on me. I felt comfortable being myself.

I gained 100lb back, and all of that completely stopped.

I was a big dude up north, and lost weight in Atlanta. I went back up north, and people were complimenting me all the time about losing weight. Friends were asking when I'm going to come up there again, and I haven't been there since 2013.

I have lost contact with so many women because of my weight gain that its not even funny.

It's frustrating when you work out, and see that you gained 1 lb when you step on the scale the next day

Keep going breh, remember the feeling you had when you were at a lighter weight. Its almost a euphoric feeling. Just have to keep at it and think about how good you will feel when you've lost it again

 

[P90]

You're right, let me re-phrase it.



How can I stand up for myself and demand respect?

By using the Assertive communication style

Licensed MH therapist here by the way

This and it takes PRACTICE. It’ll be uncomfortable but your self esteem will shoot up knowing you did what’s right regardless of outcome.

 

[King]

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[SwizzLake]

tbh not that i can think of

All negative feelings pass, I left a war torn country as a kid and saw unspeakable, horrific things at a very young age. I spent 2 years in a refugee camp. Never lose hope, because all negative experiences will pass you if you remain positive..it easier said, but it will. Pray..you will find peace.

 

[letti cook]

everytime i spend time with my family and friends, i end up severely depressed and suicidal for days after

its never fun...its always gaslighting, reliving traumas, tensions, talking shyt behind each others backs....then all that drunken, "i love you" bullshyt

i go long stretches without talking to or speaking to anyone..so i feel like i should reach out or reach back when they do so.

it never goes well, ever i cant remember that last time i enjoyed anyone's company and that breaks my heart.

im gonna try to push through it today and get into some creative shyt. make some music, do some writing, anything.

yesterday was hell...but i cant afford to waste anymore days stuck in bed

i just dont know how to shut my mind the hell up

its like i got suicidal tourettes

im realizing that childhood trauma shyt is real. i was an abandoned kid so whenever i get that type of energy now it really does a number on my psyche. i take being ghosted, not responded to, or just plain forgotten really really hard..im good at putting up an unbothered front so people think its all good. it aint

im just building so much resentment for the people around me...i need a change of scenery.

my options are limited but something gotta shake.


all i can do is push forward

i know i'll figure it out. i always do. i just wanna fast forward this part tho...this part is ASS

 

[Jasonmask]

Gotta get a hold on my temper that shyt is hurting my growth. It also lets people know I ain’t a sucka tho, so it’s hard to give up

 

[Barlow]

nothing

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

Came back in this thread and remembered this post I made

Wanted to give yall a quick update

I have a Bachelor's in Psychology

I now have a job at a local homeless shelter

I plan on getting my Masters in Social Work within the next 3 years so I can continue to work my way up to be a full time therapist

My network is continuing to grow and I have connections that will lead me to success in the field

My dream is to have my own private practice in Psychotherapy somewhere in my local area that promotes and emphasizes the treatment of minorities (mainly black men and women). I'm learning on the fly and winging it right now but I know that this is what I was meant to do. Ever since I was 5 I wanted to change the world. I've grown to realize exactly how I can help make that lifelong desire a reality

My depression is pretty much non existent now. Last time I cried was after DMX passed away. I grieved but I was able to pick myself up and not fall into depression

My anxiety is so much better now than it was 3 years ago. I feel like I can finally be my authentic self. Being social and spending time outside in public places isn't something that cripples me anymore

I still have racing thoughts at times but I'm able to use healthy coping skills to ease it now like meditation

My ADD I was diagnosed with early last year is now something I have control over. When I get into my hyperfocus modes, I channel that into productive things like getting my house together, taking care of my finances, researching the stock market and what stocks to buy, and reading books. ADD can be a superpower when you have it under control. Medication isn't the end all be all but it's helped me tremendously

Generally speaking, I feel the happiest I've felt since I was 6 years old. I'm at a place in my life where I'm glad and grateful to be in the position I'm in. And my vision for the future is brighter than it was when I was little

I typed all this to say life can change in 3 years. Your life can change tremendously in a month from now. A day. Dont give up. No matter how hard life is right now, there is always better days ahead for you. You will find your purpose and happiness in your life soon enough no matter how the present looks right now. Keep fighting the good fight

Everything gets better with time. I'm living proof. It all starts from within. Love

 

[Coolin']

Has anyone ever had to "no contact" any of their family, and if so, how has that impacted your life?

 

[Prynce]

I don’t even know where to go

I’m fully convinced that this entire society is stacked against me.

I graduated from a top school (which is literally meaningless because I got no network out of it)

I don’t know anyone. Can’t contact anyone to put me on, can’t do shyt except get rejected in literally every application I put out there.

I try not to compare myself to those I went to school with but their all doing crazy good now because they either made those networks or were already in the position for their career. I’m talking 6 figures off the bat type shyt.

I feel like I missed the train. I didn’t know how important that shyt was bc I was literally a first generation student with no real guidance on how to work this shyt. I just thought graduating was enough.

I literally don’t know where to go. My ego won’t let me get a minimum wage job just because I know I’m worth so much more than that.

I’ve gotten doors slammed in my face too many times already to keep trying to appease these people to let me get a foot in.

Come from a family with zero generational wealth or connections - everyone around me is already living in poverty.

Idk breh I just don’t know what to do. I really have no fukking idea at this point. Hedged all my bets on this one investment and it’s legit worthless. Now the shyt is sinking in and all I wanna do is lay in bed to escape from it.

I relate to this so much you don't understand

I'm in ur exact shoes if that makes u feel any better

 

[BK The Great]

My problem is overthinking and that can also get me down at times. I tend to be by myself since I really don’t have much support from people except very few along with family but I’m trying to keep a positive mind as always. Sometimes I feel like people who I deal with are one minute nice and the next minute Cold which questions their behavior so I push people away cause I don’t like that kind of behavior. I do feel alone at times which can also add to the stress. I try to keep active with playing ball or bike riding along with checking out the NBA games which can help, also picking up some hobbies like collecting trading cards again but that’s an expensive hobby which I have to limit myself. Self control is everything people should practice.

 

[Prynce]

You will be damn lonely if that’s the case

so true bro

I feel like the people I know and who are around me dont care or affects my mental health badly but where else would i go?

 

[Barlow]

I don’t think I’m gonna make it thru this work day

I’m so done

 

[TRBM]

Has anyone ever had to "no contact" any of their family, and if so, how has that impacted your life?

Ive done it short term (up to 6 months), for me it was a relief, albeit temporary. But once contact was reinitiated the same issues were there. Same black clouds, negative energy. Could it be me looking for the negatives? Possibly. but I’m trying to accept that people for the most part don’t change and to keep those people at a distance for my sanity.

I can live without the constant contact. I don’t go by the ‘family is all you got’ or whatever IG quotes they say about sticking by your fam, usually their ones that can fukk you up the most