Essential The Mental Health Thread
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I’ve thought bout suicide as a child. This is me.
Suicide over sadness in general. Them bein fickle does it bring me down. I decided not to go to the bar. Bought a midi keyboard with pads. Just going to make beats all night.
Thanks for the kind words, Breh. It's so much shyt that I've been through both mentally and physically that I'm always looking for something that's wrong with me or wishing the worst.
No social media has been so great for meI experience a breakup last year and getting off media helped me with my growth and healing
Message boards are a form of social media.
Hey brehs I need some advice.
I’m not a tough guy, never have been. I was never one for starting fights or being aggressive. I always tried to talk through things and reason, using my words.
I remember in high school I got punched in the face and didn’t hit back because I was more so afraid of getting in trouble. My immediate response wasn’t to try to fight back. It was to distance myself and use my words.
Usually if someone gets aggressive or assaults me I will apologize and get out of the situation.
However, because I’m not a tough guy. I feel inadequate, like less of a man because I don’t have this real aggression in me to fight someone. It’s an insecurity for me, especially since I can’t fight or don’t have any training/experience in it.
I also didn’t grow up with any dominant male energy around so I never really gravitated towards that stuff.
The insecurity has made me pretty fearful to be out in certain places alone and I’m always subtly comparing myself to other men to see if I could physically fight them.
What’s going on with me brehs?
Be careful with trying to find an answer for this, the things you learn can't always be unlearned.
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Does it cover neuroplasticity? I started reading this other book about that like 3 years ago but I never finished it. It's a very interesting concept. My ADHD just makes it hard for me to finish books
You need to work on loving yourself first bro. That's the key. The women will come once you build up your self-esteem and you won't even sweat them like that
I felt the same way at one point. I eventually decided that I wanted to live because my mom wanted me to live. Her love gave me the motivation I needed to take my mental health treatment seriously and strive to live again
If you can't find any other reason to live, do it for your mom. Lean on her for support
Idk how.
Every morning, look in the mirror in your bathroom and tell yourself positive affirmations. Say them like you mean every word you're saying. Over time, doing that conditions your mind to think of the good things about you, lifting your self esteem
Look up positive affirmations for men if you need some to start
Practice self-care: brush your teeth, develop a skin care regimen, groom your hair and facial hair, shower every day, look into getting a nice smelling cologne, dress comfortably
Exercise: even if it's a 30 minute walk, getting a work out in at least 5 times a week boosts self esteem and your mental health in general
Socialize: reach out to your family and friends. Call them, make plans to hang out with them. You feel better when you spend time with people who love and care about you
Meditate: every day, make time to meditate to practice mindfulness. There's different meditations focused on self compassion and self esteem. To start out, follow this video for reference
Prayer: if you're religious, try to pray at least twice a day. Ask God to restore your mind and heart. Ask him to work in your life to help you love yourself. Be vulnerable and lay out everything you want to pray for. After you pray, believe and have faith that he'll guide you and give you everything you ask for in due time
Diet: try your best to eat right. Cut fast food, and sweets. Eat good proteins, fruits and vegetables. Drink at least 60 oz of water a day. You'll feel better and in turn, boost your self esteem
Hobbies: listen to positive music that either makes you feel happy or uplifts/motivates you, watch movies and shows you like, practice journaling about how you feel if you're up to it, take on drawing, write poems, play videogames, do your best to socialize, etc. Basically do what makes you happy. The happier you are, the better you feel about yourself
Therapy: do whatever you can to get a therapist. A therapist will give you more help than I can. Vet them and find the best fit for your needs. When you get one, be open and honest with them. Things won't change unless you're serious about treatment. They may recommend medication. In that case, consult with your mom/support system about if you should move forward in taking it and getting a psychiatrist
Do general acts of kindness to get out of your head so to speak. I would personally stay away from Tinder until you get yourself right first. Using it as a bandaid only stalls the progress of your self-improvement
This is good advice and I even bookmarked it. Honestly right now I work 6 nights in a row a week at a plant. Don’t have too much time. Just focusing on saving money and getting at my debt. I just feel disappointed and sad mainly with my failures in dating. I haven’t touched tinder in weeks. Even have the dont show me setting on.
I met this girl we been talking for weeks but she just want to be a free bird and I thought I could make into something more serious. I need to focus more my finance and shyt. These girls be choosing and I fall for the trap everytime as of lately. It’s stupid but at a certain point just fukking wasn’t enough. I wish I could suppress the desire for affection. Thanks.
Start small if you can. Its good that you're working and getting your finances together. Im on that same type of time. Just always remember that time spent bettering yourself is never time wasted. Hang in there bro you got this
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