Nope, I need to be able to do math to do that, Breh. Which I can't do. Even then, I still can't drive to a construction site because I can't pay attention/focus on the road.
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It really breaks me up seeing my brothers suffering as they are.
I want to give you guys a hug and say that things will be okay.
For now, the only thing I can suggest are paths to long term solutions.
@96Blue explain the math part to me. Have you tried mnemonics for math equations or formulas? Seeing percentages as slices of a pizza, probability as hidden hands with a prize in one of them, algebra as seperate female and male baths.
Are you talking to anyone about how you feel and your direction in life?
I think the term for it is Dyscalculia and no, I'm not talking to anybody about it at the moment.
It really breaks me up seeing my brothers suffering as they are.
I want to give you guys a hug and say that things will be okay.
For now, the only thing I can suggest are paths to long term solutions.
@96Blue explain the math part to me. Have you tried mnemonics for math equations or formulas? Seeing percentages as slices of a pizza, probability as hidden hands with a prize in one of them, algebra as seperate female and male baths.
Are you talking to anyone about how you feel and your direction in life?
I've realized that a lot of the problems people have had with me were over things that I couldn't/can't control.
"Why can't you just pay attention?"
"Boy, is something wrong with you?"
"Why are you so anxious?"
I couldn't do anything but apologize. Boss's yelling at me, teachers yelling at me, etc. It's got to points where people used to get so frustrated by me asking them to rephrase what they were talking about, I would just stop asking questions.
They don't get that it I could fix all of these problems by a snap of my fingers, I would, but I can't.
So my questions now are:
Should I even talk to people?
Should I tell people I have ADHD/Anxiety off rip and let them make up their minds on me?
I don't know, honestly.
"Why can't you just pay attention?"
"Boy, is something wrong with you?"
"Why are you so anxious?"
I couldn't do anything but apologize. Boss's yelling at me, teachers yelling at me, etc. It's got to points where people used to get so frustrated by me asking them to rephrase what they were talking about, I would just stop asking questions.
They don't get that it I could fix all of these problems by a snap of my fingers, I would, but I can't.
So my questions now are:
Should I even talk to people?
Should I tell people I have ADHD/Anxiety off rip and let them make up their minds on me?
I don't know, honestly.
My word, I've never heard of Dyscalculia and it makes sense in a practical manner. Looking at your post here, you've got quite a bit of trauma towards these moments of being admonished from something beyond your control.
There is still time for you to increase the capacities of your mathematical skill, but it will require a different approach. How is your imagination? Mnemonics is something you should look into for sure. I've read some people can't read clocks through Dyscalculia. I would have someone imagine Jesus on the cross. His head would represent 12 on the clock. Legs 6. Left and right arm represent 3 and 9.
Please take a look on here to get a phone consult from someone that you find from their profile:
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Please know, you're 24 years old, you've had struggles with this but you've been able to live your life up to this point. You can read and type. In the country I'm in, nearly 50% adults are illiterate.
I'm sure you have other types of talents as well. In fact, your tendencies to get distracted would be great in research. One piece of information leads to multiple sources and asking questions. Novel writing and even education. You will still have to work hard in whatever field you go into and will stumble but that is the learning process.
As for telling people, if you feel confident enough you can but I would suggest you write out your feelings into a journal. Therapy is more than the single session. Meditation, self-talks, journal entries are some methods of therapy outside of the session. If you already have a diagnosis of this you can actually ask colleges, trades and workplaces for extra accommodations in terms of time, calculators and supplies for math based solving. Through your therapy sessions and a growing mindset you can confront who you are and who you will be.
Keep on striving brother.
I appreciate the kind words, but I truly feel like my life was over before it started.
My family says they don't want me on medication, but it seems that's the only way for me to live a "normal" life. There are no other alternatives, I've tried cold showers, I've tried meditation. None of that shyt works.
I am stuck here and it seems it's never going to get better.
I just want peace of mind.
Vandelay
Life is absurd. Lean into it.
I'm done drinking energy drinks. It messes with my anxiety, mood, and ramps up already negative thoughts in my head.
letti cook
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for all the progress i make in some areas, i regress double in others 
im so frustrated with myself that i cant even be happy with what ive accomplished
i woke up this morning with the mind ROASTING me for all my fukk ups past, present and projected
anybody else feel like you're getting in your own way?
im so frustrated with myself that i cant even be happy with what ive accomplished
i woke up this morning with the mind ROASTING me for all my fukk ups past, present and projected
anybody else feel like you're getting in your own way?
I want you to review what you posted here. You believe you can't leave your current standing and you won't be able to if this mindset continues. There is something that works. I can see it for you. You have to see it to, change your sunglasses to see the brightness of the sky.
We manifest what we believe. Set a goal for this week, find a therapist on that website. Try mnemonics for maths. Write out your feelings in a journal.
Pick something and add it to your routine.
for all the progress i make in some areas, i regress double in others
im so frustrated with myself that i cant even be happy with what ive accomplished
i woke up this morning with the mind ROASTING me for all my fukk ups past, present and projected
anybody else feel like you're getting in your own way?
Yeah, its unfair but no one told us that there is struggle in success. You go out there and do the best you can in whatever it is you're doing. But you will struggle, happiness will not come easy. Learn to love the struggle of work. Get up and do it everyday. Or you don't have to and still hear those critiques. Thin out those critiques through work. Give an hour to those unattended items and gradually increase the rate as it is required.
There aren't enough hours in the day for me to accomplish what I want from life. So I started waking up earlier. Studying 3 hours before my classes started. Writing, researching.
Then the evening clears up for more of the studying sessions and research opportunities. We are hard on ourselves and expect things should come quickly. Trust the process. It may not come within 15 years but if you continue to sharpen your skills, everything will come together.
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On a side note, I've been reading up on reflexive minds and the genetic inheritance of resilience. It is represented as a trait much like hair colour. How do you respond to failure? Increase the reps to make sure you don't feel it again? Or indulge in self-deprecating attitudes and habits revolving in that cycle for years?
This resilience I've witnessed, is not in everyone, much like the study said. But this can be trained. The mind is the greatest tool we have. Use it to review the footage, find the mistakes and correct it on your next attempt. Continue that until your muscle memory absorbs this new input. There are more specific measures based on individual activities and I'll touch on that later if someone needs more.
yes caffeine plus all the other shyt they add can do that. too much coffee can have the same effect.
you can't loose with water.
there's a lot of issues people are having in here that are triggered by bad diets and lack of exercise. yes even mental issues. your body is a system and everything works in balance.
I've taken huge steps in that 1. realizing how important mental health is 2. addressing some of my traumas 3. learning to forgive others, myself, and recognize emotions and how to react better, 4. realizing i was depressed and anxious for much of my life and learning how to get help for that
shout out to everyone taking steps to improve their mental health
Right now: my main issue now is my job and this past year is putting unbelievable stress on me
. if other parts of my life hadn't improved I'd be depressed again.
shout out to everyone taking steps to improve their mental health
Right now: my main issue now is my job and this past year is putting unbelievable stress on me
. if other parts of my life hadn't improved I'd be depressed again.
I feel your pain bruh. I can't tell you what to do or what to take.Same with me except, I'm 24 years old and a virgin. Difference is, is I stopped give a fukk.
Suicide actually runs in my family, but if I was going to commit suicide, it would be because I can't be normal like everybody else.
I mean, I can't even drive or do basic math. So, I can't have a good career and I have to depend on people to drive me places. My life was pretty much over before it began.
Worst case scenario would you join the military as a career to get away from where you live? Or for school human services/social work school requires no real math?
It's sad too many good folks in this mental health thread going thru it
Good info