Exiled Martian
Was young I couldn't do good, now I can't do Bad
The art is really irrelevant. Avoid aikido (it's bullshyt every time)...... What's more important is the teacher and environment. Get something that's full contact.. It doesn't have to be a big school or anything, sometimes the backyard instruction is some of the best. PLAY TO YOUR STRENGTHS, but also find a program that addresses a gap in your knowledge; which seems to be grappling and throwing. Trust your feelings, and avoid mystical bullshyt, people who don't work hard, and instructors who claim to have "black belts" in many martial arts.
Respect for the sensei like pep talk breh! Ima go holla at a local legit hood Miyagi ASAP & get to fence painting & waxing pronto!