TheArchitect
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I believe they simply limit their own options due to brainwashing.
Wait so the dude sent the first message...but he has to send another follow up for you to respond or know he's serious?
That's not what I said at all.
A guy sent a message expressing that he is interested. I responded back with the usual small talk getting to know you questions. He responds with a closed ended response, no follow up questions or anything. At that point I let the conversation die because he is not showing interest. So basically, he is waiting on my to keep the conversation going; getting to know someone is a two way street. This has happened more than once with different guys.
So
You gotta choose up, especially the higher you go
Dudes with resources and swag have other women around, so sitting back and expecting him to notice you just because will have you waiting a long time.
That's not to say you should "chase." But it would be prudent to put yourself in position and perimeter.
Peace
Indeed. It's fukking SAD....born into a system bent on ruining lives at all aspects, spreading lies and disinformation, while people eat it up like sheep.That, too.
They tend to have a very narrow definition of what a good option is.
You gotta choose up, especially the higher you go
Dudes with resources and swag have other women around, so sitting back and expecting him to notice you just because will have you waiting a long time.
That's not to say you should "chase." But it would be prudent to put yourself in position and perimeter.
Peace
But why is it up to us,to a man? Why cant a man go out his way to keep a woman?The information age has also made women lazy. They equate "likes" on social media to their value in the dating market.
When that doesn't translate offline, they get confused.
Value in the dating market goes beyond looks. A man may approach based on looks, but what gets him to stick around goes beyond that.
A lot of women in this current age aren't developing the traits to keep a man.
True yet I gotta say this though that when it comes to this normal black men have it worse lol.The same could be said for normal black woman being rejected for those same reasons. I know, I've been through it. I'm sure you have as well.
Exactly. That's what I mean by a lot of non-Black women being proactive, @Yup.
@mcdivit85 put it best when he stated that they tend to put themselves in the optimal position and in their ideal man's perimeter.
That doesn't mean chasing him down. That means increasing your probability that he'll notice you and approach.
Non-Black women (especially cacs and asians) are good at taking up hobbies and other interests that will put them in the man's perimeter. The narrower the hobby/interest, the greater the probability he'll notice her due to a less crowded space.
We all know cac women who take up random hobbies out of the blue! I've seen it with my own eyes. Next thing you know, they've snagged some dude and then their interest in that hobby suddenly dies down!
That's not what I said at all.
A guy sent a message expressing that he is interested. I responded back with the usual small talk getting to know you questions. He responds with a closed ended response, no follow up questions or anything. At that point I let the conversation die because he is not showing interest. So basically, he is waiting on my to keep the conversation going; getting to know someone is a two way street. This has happened more than once with different guys.
So
The same could be said for normal black woman being rejected for those same reasons. I know, I've been through it. I'm sure you have as well.
Normal black folks in general are being left behind.
True yet I gotta say this though that when it comes to this normal black men have it worse lol.