The "Black women have limited options to pick from" narrative

Elle

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Wait so the dude sent the first message...but he has to send another follow up for you to respond or know he's serious?

:camby::camby::camby::camby:

That's not what I said at all.

A guy sent a message expressing that he is interested. I responded back with the usual small talk getting to know you questions. He responds with a closed ended response, no follow up questions or anything. At that point I let the conversation die because he is not showing interest. So basically, he is waiting on my to keep the conversation going; getting to know someone is a two way street. This has happened more than once with different guys.

So :camby:
 

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That's not what I said at all.

A guy sent a message expressing that he is interested. I responded back with the usual small talk getting to know you questions. He responds with a closed ended response, no follow up questions or anything. At that point I let the conversation die because he is not showing interest. So basically, he is waiting on my to keep the conversation going; getting to know someone is a two way street. This has happened more than once with different guys.

So :camby:

Okay I see.
 

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You gotta choose up, especially the higher you go :yeshrug:

Dudes with resources and swag have other women around, so sitting back and expecting him to notice you just because will have you waiting a long time.

That's not to say you should "chase." But it would be prudent to put yourself in position and perimeter.

Peace

Exactly. That's what I mean by a lot of non-Black women being proactive, @Yup.

@mcdivit85 put it best when he stated that they tend to put themselves in the optimal position and in their ideal man's perimeter.

That doesn't mean chasing him down. That means increasing your probability that he'll notice you and approach.

Non-Black women (especially cacs and asians) are good at taking up hobbies and other interests that will put them in the man's perimeter. The narrower the hobby/interest, the greater the probability he'll notice her due to a less crowded space.

We all know cac women who take up random hobbies out of the blue! I've seen it with my own eyes. Next thing you know, they've snagged some dude and then their interest in that hobby suddenly dies down!
 

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You have nothing good to say about black women and you are constantly making threads about them so:camby:

Oh why didn't you ever answer my question in that last thread? You said black women had masculine features and when I asked you twice what masculine features were you didn't answer me. I'm still waiting....
 

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You gotta choose up, especially the higher you go :yeshrug:

Dudes with resources and swag have other women around, so sitting back and expecting him to notice you just because will have you waiting a long time.

That's not to say you should "chase." But it would be prudent to put yourself in position and perimeter.

Peace

Yup, tons of options out here if your on point...
 
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The information age has also made women lazy. They equate "likes" on social media to their value in the dating market.

When that doesn't translate offline, they get confused.

Value in the dating market goes beyond looks. A man may approach based on looks, but what gets him to stick around goes beyond that.

A lot of women in this current age aren't developing the traits to keep a man.
But why is it up to us,to a man? Why cant a man go out his way to keep a woman?
 

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The same could be said for normal black woman being rejected for those same reasons. I know, I've been through it. I'm sure you have as well.
True yet I gotta say this though that when it comes to this normal black men have it worse lol.
 
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Exactly. That's what I mean by a lot of non-Black women being proactive, @Yup.

@mcdivit85 put it best when he stated that they tend to put themselves in the optimal position and in their ideal man's perimeter.

That doesn't mean chasing him down. That means increasing your probability that he'll notice you and approach.

Non-Black women (especially cacs and asians) are good at taking up hobbies and other interests that will put them in the man's perimeter. The narrower the hobby/interest, the greater the probability he'll notice her due to a less crowded space.

We all know cac women who take up random hobbies out of the blue! I've seen it with my own eyes. Next thing you know, they've snagged some dude and then their interest in that hobby suddenly dies down!

Yup, chicks will find ways to put themselves around dudes they want.

Chicks will find their way to the closest bar near VIP in a club in hopes of getting noticed.

Chicks will magically appear next to you in a bar, club or public space for no apparent reason and make attempts to be noticed. Waiting for an opener.

Some chicks are experts at "getting in position." They join salsa classes to "meet new people", which is code for meet new men. They join wine tasting clubs to meet new men. They take gun shooting classes to learn a new skill....oh, and meet new men. So and so forth.

Me and my lady were introduced via a co-worker of hers that is friends with my mom. She checked me out on Facebook to get my vibe first and then gave me a call. She didn't wait for me to call her. She didn't have some arbitrary "he needs to call me first, so I feel pursued" rule. No, she checked me out, confirmed I was the type of guy she would date and hit me up. Two years later, we're both glad to be in a relationship that's going strong.

Choosing does NOT mean chasing.

Peace
 

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That's not what I said at all.

A guy sent a message expressing that he is interested. I responded back with the usual small talk getting to know you questions. He responds with a closed ended response, no follow up questions or anything. At that point I let the conversation die because he is not showing interest. So basically, he is waiting on my to keep the conversation going; getting to know someone is a two way street. This has happened more than once with different guys.

So :camby:

I was with u with men should approach but if reall about that 50/50 life u should help carry the conversation too. This shows your enittlement, men dont want boring women too, we aint 15 no more aint nobody playing 20 questions :stopitslime:
 

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The same could be said for normal black woman being rejected for those same reasons. I know, I've been through it. I'm sure you have as well.

Normal black folks in general are being left behind.

True yet I gotta say this though that when it comes to this normal black men have it worse lol.

Normal black men are getting left behind, normal black women are getting left behind. Why don't normal black men get with normal black women or vice versa :patrice:

Whose leaving these normal blacks behind? :patrice:

Are they leaving each other behind? :patrice:


So many questions?:jbhmm:
 
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Ok, how about when women approach men and men consider them thirsty or thots?
Or how about when I maybe show interest in a guy that I consider on par with myself: no kids, own place, own car, decent job, decent looks and these guys act like I should jump through hoops because " he has a lot going for himself "?
I just don't think that it's all black women's fault when a guy wants to put you on a back burner until all his other " options " run out

Just like women pass up good men, men pass up good women to.
There are good black men out there but those same good black men can give sisters a hard time also.
 
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