The "Black women have limited options to pick from" narrative

[thewiz]

in for the back and forth unnecessary fukkery @Fonsworth

 

[Elle]

The information age has also made women lazy. They equate "likes" on social media to their value in the dating market.

When that doesn't translate offline, they get confused.

Value in the dating market goes beyond looks. A man may approach based on looks, but what gets him to stick around goes beyond that.

A lot of women in this current age aren't developing the traits to keep a man.

There are some women (e.g. vapid thots) that think like that but most(grown) women are not that dumb.

And a woman can't "keep a man" that doesn't want to kept. I know a few women that were married and were good wives(according to coli standards) and the men still stepped out.

I'm curious, how do you develop traits? You are who you are, anything else is just a facade.

 

[onelastdeath]

Good

I don't believe a woman should have to chase a man to get him to notice you, plus it throws the balance of the relationship off.

I have been trying my hand at online dating and I have notice how men don't even try anymore. They will send you a flirt or a message and then sit back and wait for you to keep the conversation going.

The information age has just made men lazy.

good. Chilvarly needs to die, with the feminist mindset rising. who approaches who first is not important.

 

[Illuminatos]

I don't believe a woman should have to chase a man to get him to notice you, plus it throws the balance of the relationship off.

I have been trying my hand at online dating and I have notice how men don't even try anymore. They will send you a flirt or a message and then sit back and wait for you to keep the conversation going.

The information age has just made men lazy.

The fukk is this entitled shyt? Lazy?

If you want someone to "notice you" then you get up and go tell them. It's the "information age" and you're a grown fukking adult female in 2015 not some helpless woman with no rights in the 50s.

 

[RiffRaff]

They do have limited options

And the ones that don't, still making the wrong pick.

 

[chkmeout]

I don't believe a woman should have to chase a man to get him to notice you, plus it throws the balance of the relationship off.

I have been trying my hand at online dating and I have notice how men don't even try anymore. They will send you a flirt or a message and then sit back and wait for you to keep the conversation going.

The information age has just made men lazy.

Look at this nonsense....

 

[Timeis$]

Most Black women passively date and then complain about it after the fact.

A lot of non-Black women are more proactive when it comes to dating.

Why do you think this is the case?

 

[thirdeye]

Responding to the topic title Ive seen too much normal black men get rejected for just being average looking and not good looking or popular for me to believe that narrative of black women having limited options to pick from.

Any lady who says that need to think back on the various men they rejected in the past.

The same could be said for normal black woman being rejected for those same reasons. I know, I've been through it. I'm sure you have as well.

Normal black folks in general are being left behind.

 

[Elle]

Good

good. Chilvarly needs to die, with the feminist mindset rising. who approaches who first is not important.

I think it is very important. I don't think men really respect a woman who chases them down to be in a relationship. If a man is really interested in you, he will show it by pursing you like a gentleman.

 

[mcdivit85]

I don't believe a woman should have to chase a man to get him to notice you, plus it throws the balance of the relationship off.

I have been trying my hand at online dating and I have notice how men don't even try anymore. They will send you a flirt or a message and then sit back and wait for you to keep the conversation going.

The information age has just made men lazy.

You gotta choose up, especially the higher you go

Dudes with resources and swag have other women around, so sitting back and expecting him to notice you just because will have you waiting a long time.

That's not to say you should "chase." But it would be prudent to put yourself in position and perimeter.

Peace

 

[Elle]

The fukk is this entitled shyt? Lazy?

If you want someone to "notice you" then you get up and go tell them. It's the "information age" and you're a grown fukking adult female in 2015 not some helpless woman with no rights in the 50s.

How is wanting a man to put some effort into having a conversation entitled???

 

[Action Mike]

I don't believe a woman should have to chase a man to get him to notice you, plus it throws the balance of the relationship off.

I have been trying my hand at online dating and I have notice how men don't even try anymore. They will send you a flirt or a message and then sit back and wait for you to keep the conversation going.

The information age has just made men lazy.

Wait so the dude sent the first message...but he has to send another follow up for you to respond or know he's serious?

 

[mamba]

Why do you think this is the case?

Lack of self-confidence.

Dumb shyt their mothers have told them.

 

[onelastdeath]

I think it is very important. I don't think men really respect a woman who chases them down to be in a relationship. If a man is really interested in you, he will show it by pursing you like a gentleman.

I disagree. I think the head of the modern woman is big enough. A lot of men waste their time, get insulted, blown off. It's a waste of time.

Men are more receptive than women when it comes to shyt like that.

And there's a difference between "chasing someone down" and just approaching them for a Drink.

 

[Timeis$]

Lack of self-confidence.

Dumb shyt their mothers have told them.

I agree.