Yeah he fukked up….Dude walked right into that trap. Lifestyle creep is a bytch. "Price ended up being our flexible factor"
Working for big tech isn’t a long term career. For example Amazon has the 2 and 4 year cliffs. After 2 years your bonus drops off and your take home pay drops significantly. After 4 years your stock vests and you are left with just your base pay. Now you can maybe try to get promoted during that time and get more stock grants and bump your base some but you take home pay will always been at its highest in the first two years.
Most people quit or get fired within the first couple years. There is a tool there called “old fart” that tells you where you rank in tenure throughout the entire company. All it takes is 1 year to be in the top 50%.
The move is to rent and stack for 2 years. Then relocate with Amazon, Google, Meta, etc on your resume and settle down. Nobody should be buying a house in SF, Seattle, etc unless you are a VP or higher. Even then it’s kinda stupid.