Spanking Kids Can Lead to More Aggressive Behavior

[bouncy]

So what you're saying is that you don't have kids and/or aren't being realistic about child raising?

Studies show so many things.. .Studies also remain assumed fact for 10 years until another studies comes along to show that the original 'study' was inaccurate. There are other causes for aggressive behaviors.. and there are different ways to discipline children in additions to whooping.

The fact remains that unless a child is abused... punishment only instilled discipline. Some of the nicest people have gotten their ass beat as children - so the argument is just stupid.

Women sometimes are less rational than men.... and get really upset and basically go the fukk off on children, if they are frustrated. Men know that they are men and that they could seriously fukk the kid up, so most men control it. If a woman gives a kids a whoopin before 3 and it's supposedly causes something ill, then that's because she didn't do it right.

It's really not difficult. Explain what they should do. Allow them to mess up a couple times, then use the belt to reenforce the shyt, but then explain why. Life lessons are learned that way and Most people appreciate those ass whoopins when they become adults

No I don't have kids of my own BUT, I have raised kids due to not wanting my family to go through a lot of the bullshyt I grew up with, and I caught flack for it, which caused so much fukking stress, and made me think twice about having kids. I don't want to go through the bullshyt anymore but, it will probably change when I get with a good woman, and proper environment.

Discpline doesn't have to be spanking. I used to hate that people always put spanking with discpline, when I was growing up. Discipline just means control. You can do that in a whole bunch of ways. I know for me the ONLY time I really stopped bullshytting was when my mother couldn't beat me anymore because I was bigger, and she took away my music equipment. I thought she would give in but, she didn't, and that was the strongest lesson I learned because I couldn't do what I loved. The spankings I could deal with but, boredom wasn't. It sounds crazy but, it worked.

 

[Flay Mayweather]

But they are at war with everybody else.

I don't know but, they are not at war with each other, and others, like we are. That is for them to figure out, I'm talking about us.

 

[bouncy]

Blacks and Latins are at war with each other due to poverty and lack of economic opportunity, not ass whoopings.

As for the op I'm sure there's some truth to it, but what I've learned from reading these studies is that they don't differentiate between controlled spankings and out of control beatings. A tap on the hand or butt is not the same as calling little Johnny a bytch and punching him in the chest.

I'd like to see some data on the Adam Lanza types. Did they get whoopings at home?

So why are we beefing even when we have some money?. I have been on all sides so I can't agree it all just comes down to money. Yeah, it plays a part but, I'm talking on character not killing to hold the block down to keep the money flowing. There is a difference.

 

[beenz]

at this thread

People really tryna justify letting their kids run loose

Best believe my kids will be put in check when they act up. All kids act up and test boundaries. But when my dad gave me that look and I knew that belt was hanging in his closet....

man I haven't spanked my oldest daughter in years. she is 10. my youngest is 4, I rarely EVER spank her either. most of the time I just threaten to spank her and that typically works.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

So why are we beefing even when we have some money?. I have been on all sides so I can't agree it all just comes down to money. Yeah, it plays a part but, I'm talking on character not killing to hold the block down to keep the money flowing. There is a difference.

I'm not sure what you mean by this. I wasn't aware of the violence problem with successful, educated black folks.

 

[Lana Kane]

My mom didn't hit us, she made us do north korean torture exercises.
I think that's why we're so soft. This was her favourite (made us stay on the wall till we couldn't anymore except our arms were straight out ):

 

[bouncy]

man I haven't spanked my oldest daughter in years. she is 10. my youngest is 4, I rarely EVER spank her either. most of the time I just threaten to spank her and that typically works.

Which is what I think is why the study showed the aggression came when the mother did the spanking. The mother is seen as the nurturer with the child and the father the discipline type parent. Our deep voice alone causes some fear in the child., so they expect us to bring some type of order in their life, while the mother brings a care free fun type of environment. Both of these styles are good because it gives the child balance.

 

[Blackking]

No I don't have kids of my own BUT, I have raised kids due to not wanting my family to go through a lot of the bullshyt I grew up with, and I caught flack for it, which caused so much fukking stress, and made me think twice about having kids. I don't want to go through the bullshyt anymore but, it will probably change when I get with a good woman, and proper environment.

Discpline doesn't have to be spanking. I used to hate that people always put spanking with discpline, when I was growing up. Discipline just means control. You can do that in a whole bunch of ways. I know for me the ONLY time I really stopped bullshytting was when my mother couldn't beat me anymore because I was bigger, and she took away my music equipment. I thought she would give in but, she didn't, and that was the strongest lesson I learned because I couldn't do what I loved. The spankings I could deal with but, boredom wasn't. It sounds crazy but, it worked.

I do agree that the other forms are better... I never actually spanked my kids.. .but I m willing to though. I would fukk them up in a heartbeat.

The taking away privileges and items is devastating on a kid and I do think that's the best way...

those options work when they are bad, or messing up in school, or do something u said not to...

But if they bring home an F on a grade, or straight up disrespect you or another adult, or do something illegal or outrages - then ass beating, by the father.

Moms can only do so much.. me n my bro used to laugh at my mom pass age 11. PLUS A dad shouldn't be a bytch. @Chris.B said that he stood up to his dad. Shiiiiiiiiiitttt My bro played varsity football as a freshman, then went on to college football, he was known for beating the fukk outta people in our city... BUT still my dad damn near choked his ass out when he tried to get brolic toward the end of HS.



on a side note: I don't think dad should spank daughters.. thats a moms job. only if she does some hoe shyt.

 

[bouncy]

I'm not sure what you mean by this. I wasn't aware of the violence problem with successful, educated black folks.

Agressive behavior isn't just violence. It can be just competing with your mate or friend. This is not healthy for a good relationship, and conducive for a child to grow up with a healthy mind.

 

[Nintendough]

What a bunch of liberal bullshyt. Stop letting studies and books tell you how to parent and whoop that ass like you were taught.

 

[Blackking]

My mom didn't hit us, she made us do north korean torture exercises.
I think that's why we're so soft. This was her favourite (made us stay on the wall till we couldn't anymore except our arms were straight out ):

my bm to uses this one.... and the arms pointed out to the side.

i don't think it really works though..

 

[Ziggiy]

My mom didn't hit us, she made us do north korean torture exercises.
I think that's why we're so soft. This was her favourite (made us stay on the wall till we couldn't anymore except our arms were straight out ):

fukk they use to make us do that as punishment in basic training, arms straight out and everything. I seen grown ass men with tears of agony falling down their faces from that shyt. I would NEVER EVER make my child do no shyt like that. I'd rather give them a quick ass whoopin and send them about their way then subject them to that torture

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Agressive behavior isn't just violence. It can be just competing with your mate or friend. This is not healthy for a good relationship, and conducive for a child to grow up with a healthy mind.

competition and aggression are baked into our DNA. It has nothing to do with spankings or race.

 

[Lana Kane]

my bm to uses this one.... and the arms pointed out to the side.

i don't think it really works though..

It worked for us, but it depends what you're using this punishment for.
She used it for when one of us were lying about something so she would put all three of us on it until we fall or someone fesses up.

 

[bouncy]

competition and aggression are baked into our DNA. It has nothing to do with spankings or race.

So it's normal to compete, and be aggressive with your lady or best friend?