Spanking Kids Can Lead to More Aggressive Behavior

[Blackking]

I have 3 sons, I don't really whoop them.. but I make sure their moms do. It wouldn't be right if I did it. I'm waiting for them to really do something bad, because if I do it... it will be an ass beating.

It's all about how you explain it to them and when you decide to do it. some kids don't need it, some do.


There are some baddd ass kids who never saw a belt before.. They don't end up doing well in life. black and brown kids need to know that there are severe consequences for bad things u do in life if you're brown or black.

White kids can snort coke in HS, pop pills in college, get questioned by police on 45 occasions for fukked up things and still have a chance to run a fortune 100 company.

You can simply walking down the street and get murked. A 13 year old hispanic boy was recently killed by police for having a toy gun.... when half the CAC lil boys in America are walking around daily w toy guns and Co guns, and bb guns .... And real guns they go hunting with.

 

[JasonSJackson]

Trust me, you wouldn't say that to my face.

so ur tough now? lol

nikka u soft, ur first post makes that clear. Stop frontin and just be the bytch ass nikka that you are.

 

[JasonSJackson]

"If I got in trouble I would just prepare myself for the spanking but, the way I was talked to hurt me more then the spankings. That still effects me to this day."

lol

yo u a clown

 

[bouncy]

I have 3 sons, I don't really whoop them.. but I make sure their moms do. It wouldn't be right if I did it. I'm waiting for them to really do something bad, because if I do it... it will be an ass beating.

It's all about how you explain it to them and when you decide to do it. some kids don't need it, some do.


There are some baddd ass kids who never saw a belt before.. They don't end up doing well in life. black and brown kids need to know that there are severe consequences for bad things u do in life if you're brown or black.

White kids can snort coke in HS, pop pills in college, get questioned by police on 45 occasions for fukked up things and still have a chance to run a fortune 100 company.

You can simply walking down the street and get murked. A 13 year old hispanic boy was recently killed by police for having a toy gun.... when half the CAC lil boys in America are walking around daily w toy guns and Co guns, and bb guns .... And real guns they go hunting with.

I think you should discipline them but spankings I don't thinks so, unless it's an extreme case. BTW, the article stated if the mother spanked them by 3 is when the aggressive behavior was seen, When the father did it, it was just vocabulary issues. Maybe kids just see the father as the disciplinary parent, and the mother as the caring one, so when he spanks them it isn't really out of the ordinary for their thinking. When the mother does it, it breaks something in them, since she is the nurturing parent.

Also, just because a white kid isn't spanked doesn't mean they aren't effected by bad parenting. Spoiling a child is just as bad as spanking. That would cause the child to turn into a narcissist, which is not a pretty thing.

"If I got in trouble I would just prepare myself for the spanking but, the way I was talked to hurt me more then the spankings. That still effects me to this day."

lol

yo u a clown

Yeah, ok.

BTW, I can tell you ain't been around killers or straight edged people because the one thing most of them have in common was how they was raised, and treated by the people they loved growing up. It was either neglected, which includes being spoiled, or in most cases, being spanked all the time, and talked down to. You letting me know whose the real clown.

 

[Mr. Negative]

spanking your kids without explaining to them WHY they're being physically punished for it leads to more violent behavior.

Slapping a kid cause he's walking in the room at the wrong time just because an adult knows the reaction will be the kid leaving and crying is the kind of stuff that leads to kids slapping the shyt out of kids because of the reaction it achieves.


Studies like the one posted in the OP are done by the type of people with NO children, or those who feel that cartoons are too violent, but leave their kids alone to be raised by TV and the internet for extended periods of time.

 

[twan83]

i got em when i was younger and think shyt benefitted it and I'm no where near aggressive nor are my siblings

i have 4 kids and my 3 older kids i use too spank them but not really often but i would explain why i would do it and ask them what was the right way too handle the situation and they told me and then i spanked them

now i dont instead they fear my look i give em and my voice since i have a loud voice like them drill sergeants and just take things from them they treasure the most and make em bored out of their minds

 

[bouncy]

spanking your kids without explaining to them WHY they're being physically punished for it leads to more violent behavior.

Slapping a kid cause he's walking in the room at the wrong time just because an adult knows the reaction will be the kid leaving and crying is the kind of stuff that leads to kids slapping the shyt out of kids because of the reaction it achieves.


Studies like the one posted in the OP are done by the type of people with NO children, or those who feel that cartoons are too violent, but leave their kids alone to be raised by TV and the internet for extended periods of time.

No, I don't think so. The reason why I posted it is because I realized it has truth to it. i used to think spankings were good until I started reflecting on my life, and what helped caused my actions, that's when I realized spanking and being talked down played a part in it. Then I noticed the people around me felt the same way once I actually listened to them, and read between the lines.

A parent could explain to you why they spanked you but, if it doesn't make sense, the explanation meant nothing. This is true especially if the kid is really smart, and can tell THE PARENT why that their reasoning made no sense. This would really make the parent mad. That was my issues. Grown folks couldn't stand me because I could prove them wrong, and I was a little ass kid.

 

[BlackBieber]

Whooping dont teach u nuttin except u dont wanna get caught, lazy parenting if u ask me

 

[Primetime21]

I'm talking about killing people, beefing, and straight shytting on people in your own neighborhoods, not a different country or even city. That is not a small thing.

It's all related in this country. America's a violent place with a violent history, and she's taken her violent ways to every corner of this earth. Any violence you see from Blacks or other minority groups in any neighborhood or city in this country is just a microcosm of the real problem in that they're living in a place that celebrates all of the bolded.

 

[Mr. Negative]

No, I don't think so. The reason why I posted it is because I realized it has truth to it. i used to think spankings were good until I started reflecting on my life, and what helped caused my actions, that's when I realized spanking and being talked down played a part in it. Then I noticed the people around me felt the same way once I actually listened to them, and read between the lines.

A parent could explain to you why they spanked you but, if it doesn't make sense, the explanation meant nothing. This is true especially if the kid is really smart, and can tell THE PARENT why that their reasoning made no sense. This would really make the parent mad. That was my issues. Grown folks couldn't stand me because I could prove them wrong, and I was a little ass kid.

 

[bouncy]

i got em when i was younger and think shyt benefitted it and I'm no where near aggressive nor are my siblings

i have 4 kids and my 3 older kids i use too spank them but not really often but i would explain why i would do it and ask them what was the right way too handle the situation and they told me and then i spanked them

now i dont they fear my look i give em and my voice since i have a loud voice like them drill sergeants and just take things from them they treasure the most and make em bored out of their minds

That's a good way to do it BUT, and don't take offense to this it's just a conversation of ideas, you may not think you're aggressive while others do. This was my situation. Also, just because you're kids are nice around you doesn't mean they aren't aggressive towards other kids. My family saw one side of me, my friends saw one side of me, and strangers saw another side, depending on how I felt and who I feared/respected more.

 

[JasonSJackson]

Yeah, ok.

BTW, I can tell you ain't been around killers or straight edged people because the one thing most of them have in common was how they was raised, and treated by the people they loved growing up. It was either neglected, which includes being spoiled, or in most cases, being spanked all the time, and talked down to. You letting me know whose the real clown.

lol.....

ur a clown

 

[Sad Bunny]

I see nothing wrong with spankings...


its just when people take it too far...My folks spanked me up until I was about 12-13.

Even after the whoopin they would IMMEDIATELY hug me/tell me they loved me and that it was for my own good, which I came to see 10-11 years later. Kept me outta some hairy situations...Thought about that whooping and didn't go, didn't get in the car, didn't do w/e destructive thing that was about to be done cuz all I could think about was that belt...

Pops stopped cuz I lied and got caught about changing my grades when I was like 12 or 13, nikka beat me so bad, the sound left my body as he struck me. I literally had to come to my senses and breathe. One of only 2 times pops got at me, moms usually did the spanking of me and my sis...Pops had me scarred up lol, nikka was PISSED I lied to him, cuz I got him in trouble with my moms lol....

this

 

[bouncy]

@Mr. Negative

That means in everyday conversation not necessarily at the time of the spanking. When I was young I just took it for jokes but as you get older, and notice certain people don't get the same treatment, it turns into resentment, then hate, then anger. I realize now it happened to me out of jealousy, and also me not just saying "yes m'am", "yes sir". I was the one to question why, give you a better version, then ask why do you do something so backwards. That is not a good thing when being raised by old southerners or people who just came from the west indies/latin america or any other old school foreign country.

 

[twan83]

That's a good way to do it BUT, and don't take offense to this it's just a conversation of ideas, you may not think you're aggressive while others do. This was my situation. Also, just because you're kids are nice around you doesn't mean they aren't aggressive towards other kids. My family saw one side of me, my friends saw one side of me, and strangers saw another side, depending on how I felt and who I feared/respected more.

na i dont take a offense if someone has an opinion or debate something with me it turns into a good convo and we both can learn something from it

now back too the topic that is very true what you say and i can say my siblings aren't like that too be honest nor am i
my kids aren't either cuz they know respect is a big deal in my house with the yes sir or yes ma'am that was how i was raised and they are being raised the same way

sure later down the line they could be aggressive with other kids but never had a incident with them at all