Considering all the bullshyt they pull to keep the status quo, id say they are waging war on minoritys, right here in our own Neighborhood
Spanking Kids Can Lead to More Aggressive Behavior
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My father would whoop me, give me 10-15 minutes to allow my posterior to recover,then sit me down and explain the exact WHY of HOW I earned that ass whoopin.
Beating a child without explanation is bad, my father would always say he NEVER beat us when he was angry, he'd wait until he cooled down. Then spank us. Then explain what we did wrong and outline how we could behave better so as to avoid further punishment.
This is the same thing I plan to do with my children
Beating a child without explanation is bad, my father would always say he NEVER beat us when he was angry, he'd wait until he cooled down. Then spank us. Then explain what we did wrong and outline how we could behave better so as to avoid further punishment.
This is the same thing I plan to do with my children
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My man, you still don't understand what I'm meaning based on your hate for white people. I'm talking about us being aggressive towards each other. You keep talking abut whites shytting on us.
LebronsHairline
AKA Chief Green Leaf
This was always my problem with my parents lol my dad used to get heated when i would point out his drunk nikka logic made no sense.
i agree, if you gotta beat your kid to prove a point, your either lazy (you don't care that much) or you need to learn how to talk to your kid and explain why what they did was fukked up
another thing you got to factor in most the time these parents don't tell the kid what they did wrong, explain the consequences outside of beating the crap out of the kid or reflect on how they could grow/learn from the situation...they pretty much beat the kid with conscience and leave to console for themselves no conscience....I see it a lot and attribute this to young parenthood...doesn't help they had little guidance themselves growing uP...
Hans Wurst
Pro
i think that's true,the guys i grew up with (mainly turks & germans from either working class or welfare background), who experienced serious violence at home (be it beltwhipping, hot iron on the back, cable whipping, getting hit with punches not slaps etc)., turned out to become violent personalities their selves (from asbo behavior to robberies to chris browning their spouses)
Another thing is that parents need to have a balance. Every little thing I did that was bad didn't result in an ass whoopin, most of the time my father would sit me down, talk to me, reason with me, and outline a better method of behavior. If I was a knuckle head and kept fukking up THEN it was time for the ass whooping. In this way I had nobody to blame for myself at this form of physical punishment .
Yes children can be smart, but they can also be STUPID at times or think that they are more clever than they are. The guy who said that Cac kids have so much leverage that they can do whatever has a point, because it applies to black kids as well. Black kids without proper parental discipline don't understand that their skin color already gives them two strikes, they have LESS opportunity to learn from "teenage Mistakes" as Cacs. A black kid selling weed or committing small petty crimes like shop lifting at the mall will NOT be given leniency to "learn" from that dumb mistake so it is up to the parent to enforce that. shyt like stealing would have been an absolute "don't pass Go, head DIRECTLY for that ass whoopin" situation in my household because of the seriousness of checking that kind of behavior.
When I look back on my childhood, I was actually spared quite a few ass whooping a that I deserved by my Father doing his BEST to show us another way. If the easy way didn't work then we had to learn the "hard" way and that kept me on the straight and narrow. Never been arrested, Never done any drugs outside of smoking weed twice, Always kept a decent job, etc. same thing for my 4 other siblings.
Yes children can be smart, but they can also be STUPID at times or think that they are more clever than they are. The guy who said that Cac kids have so much leverage that they can do whatever has a point, because it applies to black kids as well. Black kids without proper parental discipline don't understand that their skin color already gives them two strikes, they have LESS opportunity to learn from "teenage Mistakes" as Cacs. A black kid selling weed or committing small petty crimes like shop lifting at the mall will NOT be given leniency to "learn" from that dumb mistake so it is up to the parent to enforce that. shyt like stealing would have been an absolute "don't pass Go, head DIRECTLY for that ass whoopin" situation in my household because of the seriousness of checking that kind of behavior.
When I look back on my childhood, I was actually spared quite a few ass whooping a that I deserved by my Father doing his BEST to show us another way. If the easy way didn't work then we had to learn the "hard" way and that kept me on the straight and narrow. Never been arrested, Never done any drugs outside of smoking weed twice, Always kept a decent job, etc. same thing for my 4 other siblings.
beenz
Rap Guerilla
most pops got that old man strength. even if u are bigger/stronger than them, they still could beat that ass just off GP and arrogance alone.
at this threadPeople really tryna justify letting their kids run loose
Best believe my kids will be put in check when they act up. All kids act up and test boundaries. But when my dad gave me that
look and I knew that belt was hanging in his closet....
I agree but, what was the the thing that you keep stating that is different from the article?. Your FATHER did the beatings. The article stating the problems came when the MOTHER did it. The reason why I thought this study was big is because, the black community is mostly headed by WOMEN, and we are seeing a high rate problems with young kids both male and female when it comes to aggression. I think it's wild that these issues started when the father was leaving the homes which was the late 60's. I don't think all of this is just a coincidence.
This information is important if we want the community to take a turn form where it's going. I'm not saying don't spank the child but, as a woman, she needs to find other routes of discipline, and leave the spanking as a last resort. This is true for most of America since women leading households is becoming the norm.
So what you're saying is that you don't have kids and/or aren't being realistic about child raising?
Studies show so many things.. .Studies also remain assumed fact for 10 years until another studies comes along to show that the original 'study' was inaccurate. There are other causes for aggressive behaviors.. and there are different ways to discipline children in additions to whooping.
The fact remains that unless a child is abused... punishment only instilled discipline. Some of the nicest people have gotten their ass beat as children - so the argument is just stupid.
Women sometimes are less rational than men.... and get really upset and basically go the fukk off on children, if they are frustrated. Men know that they are men and that they could seriously fukk the kid up, so most men control it. If a woman gives a kids a whoopin before 3 and it's supposedly causes something ill, then that's because she didn't do it right.
It's really not difficult. Explain what they should do. Allow them to mess up a couple times, then use the belt to reenforce the shyt, but then explain why. Life lessons are learned that way and Most people appreciate those ass whoopins when they become adults
Mr. Somebody
Friend Of A Friend
I know kids who didnt get spanked and they're very aggressive. I think the trauma comes in how the discipline is carried out. if a child is getting BEAT like, over the top like hair, then yea, that could lead to some anger issues. The kid is just getting beat and theres no lesson. Just anger. You dont want to spare the rod but you dont want to break your child like some kind of animal. Lets be more understanding of discipline yall.
Let's not get it twisted my mom whooped us too, it was just that after awhile her beatings didn't really mean shyt because they didn't hurt anymore and she did more screaming and popping off at the mouth "Black Woman Style" than actually hit us.
My father was the "reasonable" ass whopper, my mom was the "emotional" one
Illuminatos
#OVOXO
A little smack here and there I feel is necessary but growing up with my mom the shyt she did to my sister and I was absolutely disgusting and borderline abuse. Of course she pointed back to that bullshyt Bible as the reason she treated us that way.
I promised myself that if I ever had kids I would NEVER treat them that way.
I promised myself that if I ever had kids I would NEVER treat them that way.
Blacks and Latins are at war with each other due to poverty and lack of economic opportunity, not ass whoopings.
As for the op I'm sure there's some truth to it, but what I've learned from reading these studies is that they don't differentiate between controlled spankings and out of control beatings. A tap on the hand or butt is not the same as calling little Johnny a bytch and punching him in the chest.
I'd like to see some data on the Adam Lanza types. Did they get whoopings at home?