Spanking Kids Can Lead to More Aggressive Behavior

[unit321]

I agree to an extent. There was alcohol abuse as well as smoking abuse, it just was accepted. There was bullying, and bullying to an extreme on others, it was called Jim Crow. Gangs were around, anyone in NYC knows this. Kids weren't taking medications but they were smoking tobacco all the time or drinking. Once you talk to older people who will tell you the truth such as street people, you notice they had a lot of bullshyt we have today but, it isn't as extreme as it is now but that is because kids have more things to do, and more outlets to show this aggression. Back then there wasn't shyt to do, as well as there were less people in the country so it was more of a small town feel. Also, because it was other races in the country people could use that aggression on others whereas other countries it is mostly one group so that aggression shows in other ways.

When I say generations back, I'm not talking 19##s, I'm mean like from 1600s to 1800s.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

I think a little spanking is good just not for any and every situation. After a while spanking will not be effective anymore anyway. I stopped being spanked after first grade and even when I was spanked it was light. It wasn't the pain that made the spanking effective... it was the fact that I did something so wrong it drove my parents to get physical. I got one slap to my hand or on the ass or maybe two or three. There are just parents that do not know how to be moderate and take shyt too far. After 5 years old your kids don't need to be spanked anymore because their brains know right from wrong (if they've developed appropriately).

 

[bouncy]

When I say generations back, I'm not talking 19##s, I'm mean like from 1600s to 1800s.

Well if you go that far back, they didn't have time to show aggression like we do now, they had to WORK ALL DAY. Even then they showed aggression, have you seen some of the things that happened to slaves and women. I think they were WAY crazier back then. Some of the things they did really showed they had HUGE mental issues.

 

[Robert Brownie Sr.]

yoooo check this doc out... this little girl and her younger brother were neglected, abused, and molested in their EARLY years... I know this is severe abuse and out of the scope of "spanking", I just thought this clip was some freaky shyt. what bothers me most is how she was able to remember being abused at so young. check out what this little girl did to her brother, herself, and her pets:

 

[MBwithadream]

Do you think this is why black/latins tend to be so aggressive with each other?

The study says when a mother does it at age 5 or before this happens but, when a father does it, the kids just have a lowered vocabulary!. I think when a child grows up the way you talk to them plays a bigger part then the spankings but, if you do both, then the child is at a high risk for problems later in life. I speak from experience. I got used to getting spankings but it never stopped me from doing what I wanted, I just thought more about what I was going to do to see if it was worth the spanking. If I got in trouble I would just prepare myself for the spanking but, the way I was talked to hurt me more then the spankings. That still effects me to this day.

This study is very important for our community since we are taught spankings are good and do it a lot to kids at young ages. What do y'all think?

http://www.reuters.com/article/2013/10/21/us-usa-health-kids-aggression-idUSBRE99K02820131021

Spanking by mothers at least twice a week was tied to a two-point increase on a 70-point scale of problem behavior. That was after the researchers took into account children's behavior at younger ages and other family characteristics.

There was no link between spanking by parents at age three and children's later behavior, however.

Kids also tended to score lower on vocabulary tests when they had been regularly spanked by their fathers at age five, MacKenzie and his colleagues write in Pediatrics.

True but undisciplined kids tend to do this

 

[5n0man]

My man, you still don't understand what I'm meaning based on your hate for white people. I'm talking about us being aggressive towards each other. You keep talking abut whites shytting on us.

Well its their fault that we live the way we do. I understand what your saying but I just look at things with a historical context.

Get to the root of the problem and you will find a white man. This is true for damn near every place on earth living in poverty

 

[The Nigerian]

I love all the sick fvcks in here that are willing to turn a blind eye to scientific truth all in the name of preserving the idea that beating children is necessary.

Fvcking disgusting.

 

[The Nigerian]

Whoppin's are overrated.

I look at my family--all of 'em got whooped--and I don't see scientists, a bunch of lawyers (one, I can think of), dentists, teachers, etc. I disrespect, but, whoopin's aren't makin' black folks successful--real success, not "Oh, I'm not in jail, I have a job, a house and a car." These #blackexcellence child geniuses aren't that because they are hit, with a belt, for not comin' home before the lights are on.

I've already read studies suggesting whoopin's are detrimental to a child's mind--I think Ebony did a story, on this. I do see a lot of angry and emotional instability, in my family.

Real brief; I got whoopin's, but, really didn't need 'em.

I behaved because I had a sense of responsiblilty instilled in me. I stop gettin' whoopin's, really, around 12. I didn't need 'em. I mostly would get one because my father held me responsible for my little brother's actions.

My lil' brother, on the other hand, got 'em all the time. Mostly, because, he didn't have that sense of responsiblities, because I had to go down, with him (I'm makin' a complex situation, simple, but; I hope you get it).

He wasn't a problem child, just, way more emotional than me (I was the quiet, humble, 'suffer in silence' child) and more bold--not disrespectful. He felt something was unfair, he had to let it be known.

He was ALOT like my father.

So, my dad tried to "break" him and all it did was ruin their relationship.

Back to me; the worst whoppin' I ever had was for shopliftin' at Wal-Mart. I got caught, Dad came for me and beat me like a slave...two weeks later I was back shoplifting.

Now, you read that and think, "Oh, you deserve it." And, yes, I deserved punishment for it.

But, put into context; My parent's had just seperated (eventually divorced) and my home life was tough. No, mom, at home, meant more free time for an emotionally hurt child (11, 12, 13 y.o.). Somehow, I gave to shoplifting grocery stores to deal with those emotions.

My Dad wouldn't want to hear it, now, but; my problem wasn't I was a theavin' demon, I needed help. Yo, we went THROUGH IT, during those times.


Kids need to be dealed with like a person. They are just little people :inlove: ( I don't want one, though--not for a while). Take the sugar out of their diets, turn the TV's and phones off and talk to them.

Children don't just choose to be disrepectful...

I really feel like I'm gonna write a novel, but; you can't teach your kids; the punishment for mistakes are violence, because; that's not the real world.

My Dad whooped us too much, but; he did have a good excuse of not knowing any other way and, himself, goin' thru a tough time and not having time to one-on-one with 3 kids (Boy, Boy, Girl).

There's too many non-violent ways to discpline children...man, I really want to go in, but, no one will read it

Why even proofread?

People here aren't trying to hear a this truth.

They think the first step to raising the next Bill Gates is a fist to the throat.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

Its too true.

These days that shyt is barely necessary IF YOURE RAISING KIDS RIGHT FROM THE START.

A lot of poor parents tend to not have the time and patience to reason with their kids...which sets off the chain reaction of them coming to see children as burdens.

 

[Brofato]

My thoughts on it have already been expressed on this forum. Not sure if the thread is still here after the move but it was just basically me and a few other posters going back and forth with @The Nigerian and another dude who it turns out equated spanking to the abuse inflicted by his father.

I know I'm just one person but I'm a pretty docile person. There are other things that have shaped my life and my behavior. Not just one thing. Spankings were a part of my life for a few years. I don't hate my mother, don't harbor any ill will toward many people. There are generally a bunch of things that can happen while raising a child that'll make them become the person they are.

Spankings I find it hard to believe lead people to be aggressive.

 

[The Nigerian]

Spankings I find it hard to believe lead people to be aggressive.

Remember when I said people would be in here denying scientific reality? Here you go, folks.

 

[Brofato]

Remember when I said people would be in here denying scientific reality? Here you go, folks.

Yeah well cherry picking parts of my post is all good and all while ignoring the fact that I applied it to myself. And ignoring the bits about behavior being shaped by more than one thing in a persons life.