I really don't.
I had no issues with any of the things you brought up actually.
I guess we just saw different movies.
Parker's response to the death of his love was like he was throwing away an empty toilet paper roll: like this:
No we saw the same movie, but we were looking for different things obviously and these new Spider man movies have yet to deliver what Raimi and even Bryan Singer have done to Marvel Comic movies..giving them depth and action simultaneously