Sometimes I feel like I'll never have sex again...

[#1 pick]

Dawg, I'm never hating on people. I'm always trying to build people up.

My thing is this. I've just been used to being in situations for too long where I was the odd man out. I guess my sense of pride comes from the fact that if I didn't have it, I would truly be alone and have nothing. It's a defense mechanism. I grew up in Pittsburgh and spent my life being a "weirdo" or "oddball". I had to deal with many people attacking me with insults, demeaning opinions of me, and honestly it festered inside and made me kind of angry and bitter over the years. I'm just learning to lt my guard down now.

That's why I moved to New York. I figured I'd have a better chance of getting a job, meeting people, getting more attention towards creative stuff...etc. Plus I'm actually around more people like me that I can relate to.

I've been trying to do my thing with my clothing label, my art, and my music alongside other things but I'll be honest...I've always thought of this country and my life in it as unneccessarily difficult. While others were swimming I was thrashing about not trying to drown...

I'm done here...I'm not gonna type anymore. There's nothing nothing that will change anybody's mind...this is a lost cause trying to explain myself on here because i think people just see me as this type of person and no matter what, I guess I will always be that in people's minds and I've had to work really hard to prove so many goddamn people wrong that I actually stand for something that its damn near worn me out.

I feel you 100%. But to move to a new city involves more thought then, it sucks at home, let's go. You need a concrete plan. What if your folks coming to America was like, shyt I'm here. America and full of chances and opps, and I am here, where are my chances at the dream. Your life would have been miserable if they did that to you and your siblings. You got have a plan, not just hope and an idea. I always tell nikkas this. Never go to any female without a plan. It's just that simple. When you play video games especially sports or RPG's, do you just start smashing buttons or do you have a gameplan and trying to learn the game?

All of that takes building relationships which you haven't shown one ounce of in terms of doing it successfully. You should attend events but fall back and observe what the real are doing compared to the fake. See their ques, see what they are doing right and who you should implement into your strategy. Give it time but also make moves as well in the process.

It's not about changing my mind, I am not you and you aren't here to please me. I am good regardless.

 

[Flay Mayweather]

Oh yeah...another thing. When it comes to women I like I get nervous around them. Like I'm gonna completely make an ass out of myself and not look as cool as Im trying to be.

THERE!

What's something that you're passionate about that gives you confidence?

 

[Sensitive Blake Griffin]

Oh yeah...another thing. When it comes to women I like I get nervous around them. Like I'm gonna completely make an ass out of myself and not look as cool as Im trying to be.

THERE!

This is where being yourself comes in. You have to trust that your natural personality is going to be attractive to a woman at some point. Trying to be someone you're not to get laid can work for pathological liars but it won't work for you. You're too worried that you'll do something that will ruin your chances with them which is a reasonable fear, but you have to not give a fukk, otherwise you're going to overthink everything which will lead you to the exact same outcome as making an ass out of yourself. People recognize when you're comfortable in your own and skin and are being real. You say you want to attract a worthy girl, this means you have to be yourself, so someone truly attracted to who you are will come around you. You have to have positive aspects of your personality because you sound like an articulate and intelligent person. For me I have my humor, I'm sure you have plenty of redeeming qualities you need to accentuate.

 

[#1 pick]

Well in that case in your interested in long distance I've got an absolutely gorgeous Nigerian girl id like you to meet

Shes my girlfriends cousin

Nigerian girl, caramel skin toned (I know u prefer dark skin), law student, really nice pretty slim girl.

Maybe regular Skypes video chats with her can be a first step to building your girl confidence

@Elle Driver don't say I'm being an African uncle

This is the best help I can give

That sounds like someone I can fly out here and give her a VISA

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

What's something that you're passionate about that gives you confidence?

Music, art, fashion, literature, anything remotely creative.

 

[#1 pick]

Alright...my thing is I get scared of rejection and I sometimes I don't feel confident talking to women as I'd like to be....

There...I said it.

That's the toughest shyt to admit. It's not that bad breh, I remember when I got rejected in 9th grade. All the others girls watched and gave me time even if the main one I wanted didn't even when they tried to convince her.

 

[Theraflu]

That sounds like someone I can fly out here and give her a VISA

You have a wife and a new born

My eligible single girl ain't gonna be your second wife

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

That's the toughest shyt to admit. It's not that bad breh, I remember when I got rejected in 9th grade. All the others girls watched and gave me time even if the main one I wanted didn't even when they tried to convince her.

My number one fear is failure. I guess it just had to do with that.

 

[Sensitive Blake Griffin]

Music, art, fashion, literature, anything remotely creative.

Great. So, women love when you ask them questions about themselves. Start asking them questions regarding these subjects and go from there. If you find a really similar interest you can riff on that for a while and she can begin to see what type of person you are. If it doesn't seem like you all are lining up then forget her and move on to the next one. Again, the key here is to not give a fukk and be yourself, there are billions of women out there.

 

[Sensitive Blake Griffin]

He's 30. It's hopeless.

It's NEVER too late to make a change in life. Never. That's a loser mentality.

 

[#1 pick]

You have a wife and a new born

My eligible single girl ain't gonna be your second wife

We didn't work out breh A lot of bad stuff happened. A lot. Personal lesson learned for life. I want me an African with a lot of education, great morals, and willing to wait till marriage for sex.

I love my little girl tho

 

[Flay Mayweather]

Music, art, fashion, literature, anything remotely creative.

Same with me.

Just talk about that with a female. Look for stuff about her to talk about and relate it to your hobbies or passions.

The more feeling and emotion behind the word along with eye contact will have you overcoming that nervousness.

Me Suffering from anxiety, my nervousness come from over thinking. I make up 100 scenarios about ntohinf in my head and I lose the emotion behind my words.

Talking about something you're passionate about doesn't require thinking. You just know it and can talk about it forever. If you get rejected, fine. Maybe she wasn't ready for someone like yourself or she wasn't ready to give out herself to someone. Rejection doesn't always have to be because of something negative...some people generally don't want a relationship or get too involved with someone

 

[GoldenGlove]

Music, art, fashion, literature, anything remotely creative.

Well, if that's the case, it shouldn't be hard for you to be able to engage in conversation with a woman who is also into any of these things.

Go to some art or fashion shows, hit up some music lounges, go to different creativity festivals or activities that interest you... that's where you'll find women who share some of the same interests that you have, way easier to converse with people who are passionate about the same stuff you are breh.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

I feel you 100%. But to move to a new city involves more thought then, it sucks at home, let's go. You need a concrete plan. What if your folks coming to America was like, shyt I'm here. America and full of chances and opps, and I am here, where are my chances at the dream. Your life would have been miserable if they did that to you and your siblings. You got have a plan, not just hope and an idea. I always tell nikkas this. Never go to any female without a plan. It's just that simple. When you play video games especially sports or RPG's, do you just start smashing buttons or do you have a gameplan and trying to learn the game?

All of that takes building relationships which you haven't shown one ounce of in terms of doing it successfully. You should attend events but fall back and observe what the real are doing compared to the fake. See their ques, see what they are doing right and who you should implement into your strategy. Give it time but also make moves as well in the process.

It's not about changing my mind, I am not you and you aren't here to please me. I am good regardless.

My plan to move to NYC started 10 years ago.

Basically I got done with school in Marietta, OH...hated it and moved back to Pittsburgh to go to Community College. Upon a trip to London and the New York my interest in fashion, art, and music came back full circle and I felt that New York City would truly be the place for me for a person to make something of my talents.

I hustled my ass off in Community College to try to get enough credits and transfer them over to St. Johns University to continue my education.

Since my older sister was at Columbia and my family was already paying for her...they opted to pay for me to go to Pitt and pay for my housing.

So I did that and kept that plan and that idea in motion because I knew that I would eventually get there and it would pay off.

Sure, it would take hard work and sacrifice...but eventually I feel like my talents would get recognized and I would be able to take those neccessary steps towards making my dreams into a reality.

 

[#1 pick]

@Theraflu I am serious as well, no BS. I would be interested to get to know her. I start my new career soon so time is of the essence for now.