Sometimes I feel like I'll never have sex again...

[#1 pick]

My plan to move to NYC started 10 years ago.

Basically I got done with school in Marietta, OH...hated it and moved back to Pittsburgh to go to Community College. Upon a trip to London and the New York my interest in fashion, art, and music came back full circle and I felt that New York City would truly be the place for me for a person to make something of my talents.

I hustled my ass off in Community College to try to get enough credits and transfer them over to St. Johns University to continue my education.

Since my older sister was at Columbia and my family was already paying for her...they opted to pay for me to go to Pitt and pay for my housing.

So I did that and kept that plan and that idea in motion because I knew that I would eventually get there and it would pay off.

Sure, it would take hard work and sacrifice...but eventually I feel like my talents would get recognized and I would be able to take those neccessary steps towards making my dreams into a reality.

It will but it won't take hard work and sacrifice, you will take execution, networking, and communication to get it done. Too many Americans have sacrificed and worked hard to only lose their jobs, fortune and everything else to crooks.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

and I honestly could care less. I'll be deadass honest...I haven't gotten laid since July of 2012. Before that? 2011. Before then, September of 2008...the last time I was even in a relationship (not even afraid to put those details out there either and I don't care what anybody thinks anyways. I don't value my worth in society based on how many women I have sex with...and that's another thing I find troubling. The fact that this is which puts more stress on men than women to "get some" or else be seen as some impotent loser who just can't pull women).

I'm just honestly so f*cking sick and tired of this online-dating-social-media-hyper-superficial-oversexed-HD-porn-generation of people and it's made even approaching a woman for the time of day a hassle and half. It's like the double standards I see when it comes to women and how the act around someone their interested in as supposed they aren't. I could say something like "hey girl...I wanna pick you up and throw you in a trash can" and they would get mad but if a guy she was attracted to said the same exact thing she would go crazy for it! It sucks when you're a man like myself who's never really been high on the visibility or attractiveness level to the opposite sex. I just got sick and tired of watching all of these other dudes meet women and have girlfriends all the time and I can't so much as get a phone number from a woman or initiate a basic conversation without her saying "I have a boyfriend".

I don't care anymore. Just all of the hassle it takes to even have a date with a woman seems moot at this point and I'd rather work on myself and get this goddamn paper. It seems like a chick don't even wanna give me the digits...or the facebook/instagram/whatever (SMH at this) if I don't have some sort of income, if I'm not making a substantial amount of money, living some sort of steady professional based lifestyle (when the job market is terrible and jobs are hard to come by) or look like one of these toasty boy ass men that these women blog on their tumblrs about. The thing that's frustrating is how hard I've tried working just getting to that point. Sometimes, I even wonder if some of these women even like these guys or just what they can do for them.

My whole life story with women is and has: women like me...but just not enough to entertain the idea of getting into any sort of relationship with me...or to be seen in public with me...or to hang out with me without the company of other people. Therefore I just don't even feel inclined to go in any of those directions. They'll give other men a hug and a kiss on the cheek but they'll just shake my hand.

Call me old, bitter, defeatist, say I've made this thread before, 1 star this thread, or call it whiney or whatever...but it doesn't matter anymore to me. I wouldn't even entertain being in a relationship either (if i did get into one, probably not happening anytime soon) because it's just going to end with us breaking up anyways so I might as well just fap and call it day (even though that doesn't even seem appealing anymore either). Sex is a pretty low priority for me nowadays.

Oh, and I don't care to take anybody's advice or tips either cause seriously I DON"T CARE! I'm a grown ass man and I make my own decision and moves.

Are you fit friend?

 

[Art Barr]

Get some medication for your dyslexia you barely literate ass nikka

I swear, with your random ass punctuation, you're like the retard from Flowers for Algernon before he received the operation.

I have had more success and done more in my life with nuffin.
than you have, and you live in manhatten.

you are in the epicenter of everything and a failure gooflame john face ass nikka.
if I was in ny,...
I would have even more success.

you would never survive in my life.
filled with real white cats who are prominent and Princeton's top one percent.
of which I made them millions before I was twenty three.

you are a fukk'n failure, nikka.

you are completely nuffin to me, and everybody else you know.
go scour the backpages.
as a matter of fact,...Imma come to ny, and throw a lockdown.
then, not let you in.

art barr

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Are you fit friend?

Yep.

I spent the better part of the last two years working out extensively. I went on some depression/anxiety medication that made me gain 60 lbs in 6 months. I hated the way I looked, so for the last year of my college career, I applied to 6 phys ed classes and did yoga. I did kickboxing, weight training, aerobics, water, aerobics, I was on a mission to get in the best shape of my life. I worked out 4-6 days a week for 42 weeks. It was apart of an attempt to transform my life for the better.

 

[Theraflu]

@Theraflu I am serious as well, no BS. I would be interested to get to know her. I start my new career soon so time is of the essence for now.

What career are you hoping to pursue ?

 

[Art Barr]

I'm not.

Even if we had stuff in common my lifestyle and upbringing is just too different.

I grew up in an affluent suburb...I always felt like being Nigerian and West Indian in America would always be a barrier between me getting married or having a simple relationship. Not because of me persay...moreso due to other just not being able to understand us or our culture.

well it seems you have the general ideas of your barriers around.
now, you need to find someone and some comfort zone/sweet spot.
so, you can flourish and basically find your type.

you suffer from not knowing what type of attractive female is your type.
plus, not being in a region.
where the females are not welled in golddiggery, and want a black man.

also,..
why stick around in ny.
when, you can go somewhere else for your one month's rent.
be secure and stable in one move.
then, flourish from the larger profit.

don't be stupid...
I stayed in Chicago to long.
when, I should have left for Canada.
only reason why...
I had a child on the way.
you don't have those things as a barrier.
go where you can easily assimilate and get cooch.
you seem to want to bed a lot of females.
go where those types are.

plus, you from ny.
you already got an advantage going anywhere else not la, or mia.
as every female wants a big city nikka.
on top of the fact,..if you had a car.
you would seem like the man in another locale to a female.
as the perception is no one in ny drives.
you show up with a ny license plate in another locale.
you will feast,...fukk eat'n you will smorgasborg....


leave, breh........



art barr

 

[#1 pick]

What career are you hoping to pursue ?

The field I been in, I am in IT in web services.

 

[The_Sheff]

Alright...my thing is I get scared of rejection and I sometimes I don't feel confident talking to women as I'd like to be....

There...I said it.

Bruh, i used to feel the same way. First off, the online dating completely eliminates that. Its one thing to get turned down in person and have to walk away from a "cloud of shame". But online man you just type some shyt to a chick and if she dont respond who gives a shyt, its not like she turned you down in person. Get yourself a good cut and paste message to send chicks but at the end ask her a question about something actually on her page, then send. The chick is going to think the whole damn thing was tailor made for her and at least thats something to make you stand out a bit. You like art, fashion, and creative shyt so you can easily whip something up unique from what the other hundred guys are sending her and hopefully you have something tangible in your pics so she knows you for real. Im for real, that is a very good option for you.

Second if you still not trying to do the online thing, which you should, then you need to put yourself in situations with women where its not a pickup type of deal. You in NYC so i know they have a lot of artsy evens going on. Get some friends and go. Jump your ass in a random conversation with a chick and use that convo as a way to see if there is chemistry. If not then it looked like just a random convo so keep it moving. If its chemistry there then at some point mention some other spots, events, whatever..you know of that she might enjoy. You just put the ball in her court. If she interested in you she gonna say she would like to go check it out, thats when you suggest yall set it up.

Its so many ways to pick up chicks without just hollering at a random you see out and about, you just have to set the stage up in a way thats comfortable to you. Im good at arts and crafts, especially when it comes to making shyt with paper. I go into a Hobby Lobby and i can jump in a convo with someone on a whim and white women cant get enough of me in there. I dont want any white women right now but if i found myself single and looking for company i know what to do. Thats what you need to do.

 

[Art Barr]

I think I just have no choice but to leave America. I feel like this country is not for me and it's the reason I've always struggled with the simplest things...

I've been to Arizona before and it was depressing...
I've never been to Minneapolis and I just don't want to.

Arizona is depressing because it is made by the same racist people who created Chicago.
so, you only go if you want sun.
go to Minnie-ap,...
where you can have as much black cooch as you want.
on top of the fact..
all the nikkaz in general there like white women.
so, you can eat off the black females.
then, if you want a change of pace.
a white female will bend over backwards to serve you up.
if you like underground rap,....rhymesayers got it on lock, too.

go to Minnie-ap, and eat, breh.

it cost twenty dollars on a megabus to go.

take you ny rent,....and leave.


art barr

 

[Theraflu]

The field I been in, I am in IT in web services.

 

[#1 pick]

well it seems you have the general ideas of your barriers around.
now, you need to find someone and some comfort zone/sweet spot.
so, you can flourish and basically find your type.

you suffer from not knowing what type of attractive female is your type.
plus, not being in a region.
where the females are not welled in golddiggery, and want a black man.

also,..
why stick around in ny.
when, you can go somewhere else for your one month's rent.
be secure and stable in one move.
then, flourish from the larger profit.

don't be stupid...
I stayed in Chicago to long.
when, I should have left for Canada.
only reason why...
I had a child on the way.
you don't have those things as a barrier.
go where you can easily assimilate and get cooch.
you seem to want to bed a lot of females.
go where those types are.

plus, you from ny.
you already got an advantage going anywhere else not la, or mia.
as every female wants a big city nikka.
on top of the fact,..if you had a car.
you would seem like the man in another locale to a female.
as the perception is no one in ny drives.
you show up with a ny license plate in another locale.
you will feast,...fukk eat'n you will smorgasborg....


leave, breh........



art barr

From his personality, the South is out of the question but I think Toronto, Seattle, Washington D.C., the Hampton Roads, and San Francisco would be nice places for him to meet women and get a lot out of life. But the Twins Cities is a good choice, good looking out Art.

 

[Rayzah]

Well, if that's the case, it shouldn't be hard for you to be able to engage in conversation with a woman who is also into any of these things.

Go to some art or fashion shows, hit up some music lounges, go to different creativity festivals or activities that interest you... that's where you'll find women who share some of the same interests that you have, way easier to converse with people who are passionate about the same stuff you are breh.

I came in here just to be nosey but I just had to consign this,, good advice ..

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Arizona is depressing because it is made by the same racist people who created Chicago.
so, you only go if you want sun.
go to Minnie-ap,...
where you can have as much black cooch as you want.
on top of the fact..
all the nikkaz in general there like white women.
so, you can eat off the black females.
then, if you want a change of pace.
a white female will bend over backwards to serve you up.
if you like underground rap,....rhymesayers got it on lock, too.

go to Minnie-ap, and eat, breh.

it cost twenty dollars on a megabus to go.

take you ny rent,....and leave.


art barr

My plan is to leave new york eventually but I'm trying to build up my work/job/career experience here and use it to my benefit (as well as save up money). I'm looking to get a work visa and go overseas for a bit. Just for a breath of fresh air....

I'd check out the Minnie-ap just cause.

 

[#1 pick]

 

[Art Barr]

I'm not afraid of p*ssy...I'm just too lazy to talk to women and I don't try.

I'd rather have them talk to me instead of going out of my to initiate a conversation (even though that's not how it works in this world...)

well first, off...
you gotta change this.
females don't approach nikkaz.
you may get the exception to the rule.
yet, get that whole females approach shyt out of your head.
that is completely a general fallacy.


art barr