Yeah...
I pointed out earlier that I was OT for work for two months. It started then...
And homeboy said he didn't even know I was in the picture until the day I went to the house and saw him. Said he was told I dipped on her and my babies (and my kid) and I wasn't involved at all, and I believe him on that. Because I know her, I believe that...
She slid on him, got his number from a coworker, which I believe too, because when her and I started dating she had her friend give me her number, after she'd already tried to give me her number and I declined once. So she slid on me, so I can believe she the one who came after him too...
Lotta things revealed today. Among them, he said if he knew I was still involved and I'm the picture he wouldn't have gotten involved with her. Asked me, "the day you came to the house, were yall I'm contact before then?" I said yes, we never stopped talking/communicating. Asked me if I still loved her, wanted her back, viewed her as my woman, I said yes to all...
He said he ain't the type to jump after women he know who got someone and her still telling me she loves me complicates shyt for him. I don't know how true this is, because he said he likes her. I asked if he loves her and he said "nah I wouldn't say it's nothing heavy". But I said it is something, yall got something, and he said "yeah it is something"...
He asked me once, so she never told you her and I were anything, done anything. I said nah because if she did I wouldn't be up here (this was up at her job). If she ever told me straight up she moved onto something else, I wouldn't went this route. Up until even yesterday morning, she told me her and him weren't in any kind of flirtation, relationship, no sex, no nothing...
If she was ever 100 with me I could start burying that chapter of my life. She wasn't so I sought out homeboy to get answers...
He said he was embarrassed I even came up there bringing that shyt to his job, I didn't care. I said she playing both sides, she don't wanna really let me go because she does love me and in case it don't work out with fam, but she don't wanna let him go because she likes him and in case the door closed on her and I...
That door is closed now so it's his world. She's been making her choices and I helped give us finality...
He look older but he 34 with no kids, I told him he's what she looks for and I feel a kind of way about him playing with my child. He said he would stop fukking with my daughter and all shyt if I didn't like it, because again he was told I dipped on my girl too and I wasn't around. I told him if he's the guy who gonna be around he ain't gotta stop playing with her, I can respect it, my two oldest girls' mother has a man, I can respect it. My shyt is I just needed the truth...
He said it complicates things for him if I'm gonna be a problem, even though he likes her. Told him I'm not the problem...
So I offered to pay him for missing 45 minutes of work to chat with me, he declined. Then I called homegirl up there. I had all three of my daughters and her oldest son...
She gets up there on some aggressive "give me my baby" shyt and I caused a public disturbance, said this is the bytch who stepped out on me. Waited for me to leave then jumped on some new dikk...
She tried to take the baby from me, I stepped back, kept talking. We went outside and a bunch of other people came outside, lotta arguing, she was crying, homeboy came outside, another guy came out, I kept going. "This the bytch that stepped out on me". Everything I did for her. Used me not giving her money that last time as a scapegoat. Soon as she had a "reason" she took it, and lied until the very end...
Her aunt called the cops and they came up there and was like this is a civil disturbance, not a criminal matter, yall just need to go yall separate ways. Which when her aunt started talking that police shyt, I knew it wasn't no trouble I could get into, I been in enough trouble with the law. They weren't gonna do shyt and I stayed there talking shyt until they came then gave my daughter back, wasn't nothing there criminal for them to get after...
Homeboy was only outside like 5 minutes, told me to take my daughters and leave, but she had me blocked into my parking g space. Homegirl was crying and he hit her with a light "you alright" and then went back in, didn't see him again. She was on some I brought our business to her job, which is false, homeboy already told me people thought he and her were a thing but he never told no one.so he said they got it from me, which is false, and he was like "I woulda been comfortable telling people about us in due time, because I do like her, she likes me. And the story everybody knows at work is her man ran off on her and her infant. But this complicates shyt, I didn't tell nobody we did anything buy its all out there now"...
Which, who knows where him and her go from here. I can't concern myself with that. It stings today, still gonna sting for a stretch but believe it or not bro, a weight has been lifted from me knowing everything. A pressure has lifted. I still feel some pain at the moment. I don't expect I'll just get over this I'm a few days or even a few weeks...
But a weight has been lifted, the weight of her telling me one thing but me KNOWING it wasn't right, the weight of me thinking this possibly isn't what I think it is, the weight of me thinking we could reconcile. That weight, at the moment it doesn't kill all the hurt...
But that weight is lifted and I feel so much better for it. As wild as it sounds I feel like I'm on the way to recovery and the personal healing doesn't feel as daunting as it seemed before. It truly doesn't...
It worked bro. I didn't "need" to do it. But I needed something to happen, something like this, to help ME. I was lingering in the balance. She kept me in limbo. Even as I still hurt presently, this is a sea change of help for me...