What’s wrong with family living under 1 roof ?
Sohh why is the nuclear family held up as the "gold standard" or natural order when its a recent invention?
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I sort of understand why people question systems we have in place and there's a level of skepticism that is healthy.
With that said - like arguments against organized religion, what do you have for the average person that is better than the nuclear family structure, even marginally, that ensures the individuals of that unit are successful? The nuclear family simply just WORKS to help ensure children are successful and are don't grow up to be actors playing within the whims of the system.
Having a family is a BASE for kids. Why would someone want to have a "village" or more of a blended family when having a strong nuclear family has shown success for most people?
With that said - like arguments against organized religion, what do you have for the average person that is better than the nuclear family structure, even marginally, that ensures the individuals of that unit are successful? The nuclear family simply just WORKS to help ensure children are successful and are don't grow up to be actors playing within the whims of the system.
Having a family is a BASE for kids. Why would someone want to have a "village" or more of a blended family when having a strong nuclear family has shown success for most people?
I'm not trying to have multiple baby mamas, and I'm not trying to raise someone else's kids.
start your own cult , open up a commune
Leave it to ignorant coli nikkas to not understand a nuclear family is strictly mom + dad + kids
Whereas OP is talking about extended families/multigenerational households which is nuclear + grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc
Whereas OP is talking about extended families/multigenerational households which is nuclear + grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc
The first 15 years of your life will dictate the next 50.
Choose wisely brehs and brehettes.
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I have no desire to live with that many people. It’s chaos. I like my own space, and privacy. People coming and going, always wanting to talk, and having to listen to their problems. Clutter. Noise. My mom constantly checking on me would drive me crazy. I don’t even want the grandparents living with us when they get old. I’m already prepared for the arguments.
To keep men docile and women as the household slave while they help feed the industrial complex.
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It's basically CAC shyt. No wonder conservatives keep pushing for it
I imagine the term "nuclear family" came about in the 50s during the cold war nuclear age. Back then america had just won WW2 and was asending to world super power status. Economy was on the rise, no more great depression, and people were making money. The goal at that point became the american dream for many, "sinlge family home owner, white picket fence, two kids and a dog"
This was a goal that came about as a result of the creation of a new middle class of americans that were no longer worried about poverty.
unfortunately the middle class has been shrinking more and more ever since that period. And nowdays its more realistic for many people to go back to the old ways, multigenerational households where everyone contributes income to a larger group. Immigrants largely live like that because they come from impoverish nations and didn't have a middle class upbringing.
This was a goal that came about as a result of the creation of a new middle class of americans that were no longer worried about poverty.
unfortunately the middle class has been shrinking more and more ever since that period. And nowdays its more realistic for many people to go back to the old ways, multigenerational households where everyone contributes income to a larger group. Immigrants largely live like that because they come from impoverish nations and didn't have a middle class upbringing.
I don't even know what the question means. No family is the same as everyone has different situations. Not every marriage lasts. Sometimes women get pregnant unintentionally by men they never intended on having a kid with. Sometimes a parent dies or goes away.
Every family has its own dynamic. This idea that they have to be one way, or nuclear, is weird. Life happens. Yes a 2 parent home is preferred, but sometimes they just don't work.
Because it doesn't work.
Living in ideals doesn't work.
The nuclear family encourages isolation for women ie give up or distancing your social circle. So that when the relationship ultimately fails (which they do more than not) now you have a single mom in a world that doesn't support single motherhood.
The Nuclear family is unstable and literally built on the whims of the parents.
If we had a system that stopped that isolation and encouraged a more stable and dependable family system then we would have better outcomes.
**And if we are going to be honest, people like the nuclear family because it allows them to control and monopolize their partner; most people aren't doing it to benefit children. They do it to benefit themselves.**
What does that have to do with promoting a healthy family dynamic of a husband a wife and children. Y’all done lost y’all minds.
I don’t even what point you’re trying to make? Not to promote marriage and family dynamics? SMFH