I think the problem is many people here pursue coding because they believe it to be a lucrative career with a low barrier of entry (coding bootcamps is easier/cheaper than a full college program). There's no genuine passion for it so they're very less likely to code outside of work/work-related stuff. At least that's the impression I get.
I feel you. The chance of you getting a programming job when you don't code outside of stuff you are forced to do is slim to none.
I got a CS degree and been working in the industry for two years. If only 2 or 3 people want to contribute to an open source project that's cool with me as long as I get an excuse to regularly make some commits to GitHub .