So i found a coli brehette on tinder.

[Desirous]

I read most of the posts in here and I didn't really see you mention it. You said you want to meet cool people on Tinder but you said you aren't interested in meeting them in person? What are you gaining from being on Tinder? Conversation? I don't understand. I'll play your game for a second, let's say you truly are "networking" as you say. What is the benefit? Can you share an example of a situation where Tinder was helpful or beneficial in some way?

You didn't see me mentioning what?

I didn't say I wouldn't meet people in person. I said I wouldn't go on a date/out to dinner with a guy I meet off Tinder. I also said I had met a TV producer at a networking event a few years ago via two people I met from offline (not Tinder...it didn't exist back then). AND I said you invite each other to events, broaden your friendships and work network.

The benefit for ME is that I've met people on there who I have developed good friendships with. Maybe most people are on there to hook up or whatever, but I haven't had a problem meeting those who aren't trying to hook up. I'm not saying it's gotta work for you, just saying that's the case for me.

 

[Desirous]

ah I get it now, dude was in the friendzone for like 20 something years, finally got his chance so you can do anything and hes ok with it

Nope.

lmao stop thinking you know everything. Not the case at all.

 

[Desirous]

You're right, it's your relationship, not mine. I just don't agree because tinder is a dating site. I just think you might create unnecessary trouble for yourself with your man, but you know him and his comfort levels, so . I just think it's lame that dude made a thread about seeing you on there, it was just silly to me. Anyway, I wish you well with your boo.

Yep, I understand. I'm not going to compromise my relationship. If it were a problem, I wouldn't engage in it. It's not an issue. And thank you!

 

[MikelArteta]

Nope.

lmao stop thinking you know everything. Not the case at all.

sure
he was just a genuine good male friend, who stuck around all these years, finally got his chance and cant blow it with his "insecurity and jealously"

 

[MikelArteta]

You didn't see me mentioning what?

I didn't say I wouldn't meet people in person. I said I wouldn't go on a date/out to dinner with a guy I meet off Tinder. I also said I had met a TV producer at a networking event a few years ago via two people I met from offline (not Tinder...it didn't exist back then). AND I said you invite each other to events, broaden your friendships and work network.

The benefit for ME is that I've met people on there who I have developed good friendships with. Maybe most people are on there to hook up or whatever, but I haven't had a problem meeting those who aren't trying to hook up. I'm not saying it's gotta work for you, just saying that's the case for me.

if your meeting a male off a dating site that = a date

i don't need to have church in a church building if you know what I mean


meeting a tv producer at a networking event is not tinder


"good friendships" , you mean guys you friendzoned and are sjust sticking around hoping one day to get an in

 

[Desirous]

sure
he was just a genuine good male friend, who stuck around all these years, finally got his chance and cant blow it with his "insecurity and jealously"

Nope. He wasn't.



You're making up your own soap opera stories now. Made for TV movie scripts.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

The benefit for ME is that I've met people on there who I have developed good friendships with. Maybe most people are on there to hook up or whatever, but I haven't had a problem meeting those who aren't trying to hook up. I'm not saying it's gotta work for you, just saying that's the case for me.

Have you met straight males on there that you interact with? If so, What are your conversations about? I'm curious because you are absolutely right, I have not seen Tinder used in this way. I find it incredibly hard to believe that a straight man is interacting with you off Tinder and does not expect SOMETHING out of this..

 

[MikelArteta]

Nope. He wasn't.



You're making up your own soap opera stories now. Made for TV movie scripts.

my bad he was just a genuine good male friends with no intentions , i mean he must have thought long and hard and wavered how dating you would affect the great friendship you had

 

[Desirous]

if your meeting a male off a dating site that = a date

i don't need to have church in a church building if you know what I mean


meeting a tv producer at a networking event is not tinder


"good friendships" , you mean guys you friendzoned and are sjust sticking around hoping one day to get an in

...you can buy a lottery ticket every day for the rest of your life and not win. How's that my problem if people are sticking around to hopefully one day get in?! I don't ask anyone to stick around. I am with someone. Not hiding that. Not looking for anyone else, not looking to hook up, not looking to date. If someone can't get that through their thick head and is still "hoping" for something else, that's on them. You're acting as if I'm misleading people or something.

 

[MoeDollaZ$]

Now I understand y OJ was out chea cuttin white women up like construction paper

 

[MikelArteta]

...you can buy a lottery ticket every day for the rest of your life and not win. How's that my problem if people are sticking around to hopefully one day get in?! I don't ask anyone to stick around. I am with someone. Not hiding that. Not looking for anyone else, not looking to hook up, not looking to date. If someone can't get that through their thick head and is still "hoping" for something else, that's on them. You're acting as if I'm misleading people or something.

your on a dating/hookup app, talking to and meeting up with people which by definition is gasp a date

this isn't friendster brehette

how is that not misleading someone?

its like me going on backpage, clicking the escort section going to a hotel putting my 300 on the tv stand and then she tells me :kony: I just want to talk and network

 

[Amy Traphouse]

Wait are you thickums ?

-DMP-

Tell him I said hi

I will lol

 

[MikelArteta]

shoutout to @kevm3

Proverbs 30:20

"This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, 'I've done nothing wrong.'

 

[Desirous]

Have you met straight males on there that you interact with? If so, What are your conversations about? I'm curious because you are absolutely right, I have not seen Tinder used in this way. I find it incredibly hard to believe that a straight man is interacting with you off Tinder and does not expect SOMETHING out of this..

Yes. Conversations vary...from talking about work, to basketball, concerts, music, similar interests, current events, to dating. No different than what we all talk about on Coli.

Listen, people can expect various things other than what they tell you...that goes for anyone in your life, not just the opposite sex. The only thing that's my responsibility is to be honest and if they are cool, don't cross boundaries and appreciate the friendship then good. And, I've made some friends already, so for me, I know it is possible. Again, I can't tell you what other people use Tinder for. What other people use Coli for (not everyone just interacts in forums...there are private DMs, people adding one another on other forms of social media, meeting in person...the site might not be intended for hooking up, but that doesn't mean people aren't using it for that...it's what YOU want to make it).

 

[MikelArteta]