She sacrifice her 20s to build long term wealth. She worked 60-80 hours/week. Would you?

[PhillyzFinest]

how is this the case? you got a woman bringing home a good salary = afford better/bigger house or house in better neighborhood, can have two or more cars, can take (better) vacations, if necessary, can send your kids to private school, eat out at better places, higher quality groceries, better gifts, bigger savings and retirement accounts and overall better economic standing...how are you not seeing/benefiting from her money in this case?

you know what, i'm out

Everybody and their mama knows that the overwhelming majority of women - no matter HOW much she makes - wants her salary/money/income to be supplementary AT BEST when it comes to expenses. Women who have to pay 50% or more of all expenses quickly get irritated and start bytching.

Women spoiling men? Stop it. Women will NEVER spend a whole bunch of money on a dude unless he's done it for her many times over first.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

If this is the case ... where exactly am I benefiting from her success if everything we got, I could have done it by myself? It's a serious question. Tell me what I'm missing because if there's a perspective I'm not seeing, I'd love to be shown it.

then you seem to be ok with a stay at home wife/mom. most people aren't going to be that nor is the average man looking for that. a huge part of marriage is the business partnership it creates and thus the pooled economic resources. if you're ok with footing all the bills while your wife only spends her money on her, more power to you, that's just not the way most marriages/co-habitating situations work.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Everybody and their mama knows that the overwhelming majority of women - no matter HOW much she makes - wants her salary/money/income to be supplementary AT BEST when it comes to expenses. Women who have to pay 50% or more of all expenses quickly get irritated and start bytching.

Women spoiling men? Stop it. Women will NEVER spend a whole bunch of money on a dude unless he's done it for her many times over first.

not at all, and there are thousands of ways to split expenses where it's not supplementary. some of yall live in 1950, i don't know any women who aren't significantly contributing to their household.

and your second point sounds like the ramblings of someone who has never been in an equally yoked, long-term relationship. people in healthy relationships treat each other all the time.

yall gotta be dealing with birds or broke bytches to have these views

 

[Dap Punk]

The problem with stories like this is that they don’t highlight the emotional and sociologically sacrifices made in pursuit of material gain.

You miss things like your first heart break, first kiss, living together with a significant other, determining true friendships, how to have work/life balance, finding your hobbies and interests and etc.

You end up having to learn a lot of these lessons while the stakes are a lot higher with potential for greater losses.

Instead of your first run in with a dead beat being while you live with your parents working at the grocery store you are running into this person while you have a six figure income, house, and car....instead of tricking off buying a pair of pants and flowers you going on trips and paying bills.

Since you’re green in relationships you end up marrying this person and now the separation includes a baby, child support, and alimony all because you didn’t take the time to learn relationships when you were younger.

The worse case is being lonely with no game and inability to make friends. You have a lot of disposable income but find out that the bank ain’t there to comfort you when you’ve had a bad day, your Stock Portfolio can’t take you out on a date, and your IRA ain’t sex you all night and cuddle you in the morning.

Whatever you focus on, you lose the equivalent as payment. People don't speak on this enough and wonder why people who are "well-to-do" make stupid relationship and social decisions. Great post, hold this Rep.

 

[STEVE]

Man your 20s so fun and you can never really experience the stuff that was normal on your 20s as a 40 year old

I dunno man, I had a LOT of fun in my 20's and I am 37 now and having even MORE fun because I am financially stable and not tied down by anything besides a dog and a job.

 

[UpAndComing]

Crazy how if this much confidence she's talking was a Rapper or Sports player doing it, no one would bat an eye

Much respect to all the Finance and the Black Economic Power she is pushing. The haters in this thread are in here heavy

#BlackBusinessExcellence

 

[BrehWyatt]

then you seem to be ok with a stay at home wife/mom. most people aren't going to be that nor is the average man looking for that. a huge part of marriage is the business partnership it creates and thus the pooled economic resources. if you're ok with footing all the bills while your wife only spends her money on her, more power to you, that's just not the way most marriages/co-habitating situations work.

I said I wanted to be financially stable enough on my own to where she didn't have to bring in anything to cover the bills if that's what it came to.

That doesn't mean I want a housewife/stay-at-home mom. It means I want to have my shyt all the way together for whatever life throws at me, that's all. I'd rather not my standard of living be reliant on another person's job/income.

 

[Ineedmoney504]

I dunno man, I had a LOT of fun in my 20's and I am 37 now and having even MORE fun because I am financially stable and not tied down by anything besides a dog and a job.

20s is the age to do drugs, drink, go out nightly, fukk random chicks, college parties and wilding out. 30s that shyt will not be fun to you and you will be to old to really do it.

I’m 29 and still enjoying life, just had my son and settled down with my girl. but if I didn’t go thru that period I woulda felt I missed out tbh. Piece to her, hope she happy.

 

[malbaker86]

All that just to be able to buy shyt?

well she said she has her own business as well in other tweets so it was worth it for her.

 

[TNC]

She made her choice. As long as she's happy and satisfied with the results, it's the right option.


I think most people would most likely spend their 20s balancing work and social life tho, those are usually a person's best years socially, sexually and personal growth wise. If her goal was to get a husband and start a family, she's probably drastically behind on that level, but way ahead financially.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

She’s right about the black fight from urban communities. We need to stop that.

She is. But that’s the effect, we need to focus on the cause.

 

[Jimmy Two-Times™]

Congratulations on doing what every single man has done for 100s of years bytch

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

OBVIOUSLY, when you have someone of the opposite sex being presented in a message board for men, men are going to evaluate whether they'd want to date her or marry her. That's ultimately what matters to us. Her wealth? Great for HER, but ultimately... it is just for her and her alone.

If the tables were turned and some successful dude was being profiled on Lipstick Alley, women would want to know his relationship status/is he gay/ is he single/ does he like white women... I bet her does with his gay lookin' ass People talk shyt.

We give this woman her props... great for her! She's wealthy! But this wealth she is enjoying... is she going to share it with a black man? Does he have to be a man of equal or greater "value"? That's usually what sisters demand.

That's the difference between highlighting successful men and women. When men achieve this type of wealth, they're expected to share that with a woman... or women... and get married... so she can live comfortably. Until there's a divorce. And she runs off with half of the money he worked so hard for. This is what men gripe about.

Women on the other hand... they accomplish success. But they're slow to share it. Because the expectation is for the guy to make more money.

Not only that but women do the same shyt. I showed this to a bunch of women in my life and they all asked if she had a man.

 

[raoulduke187]

I can also buy almost anything I want because I don't want a lot of things and they aren't that expensive

 

[Biscayne]

My homeboy did it for 7 months making $18 and double time on Sunday so it is not unrealistic
They changed the department he was working in to weekends off so now he working 60 hrs a week.

That's rare. Very rare. I did it for 2 months, and was too fatigued to do much of anything else outside of work. I did multiple 16hr shifts per week. They eventually put a stop to it. Other co workers had strokes working that much.