Most of y'all agree with this bullshyt because ur still young and in that "I need understanding" stage.You have to spend time in solitude n come up with a plan in which the only ppl u kick it with are ppl u meet n fall in line with ur plan. All the ppl u meet that ain't in sync gotta be FOH'd til u have ur confidence in ur sphere of influence enough to engage with different nikkaz that could be a threat or who's ideologies n capabilities are unknown ie a potential threat. A threat to ur plan, which is what u feed off to give urself confidence n attain success on ur terms. U gotta validate urself first n run a mental check to know u have intelligence to come up.
As far as chix, it's all about ur environment n how she suits ur needs. She thinks the same way. Of course, this is if u wanna be "the man". Nobody wants to hear about ur trials n tribulations. fukk you. Just like with a woman, u fukk up n argue with her n she'll throw it up in your face. It's not her fault, she's a female, it's her job to check ur ass in an argument. That's why u don't argue with her unless ur gonna drop her. That's the point of spending time in solitude here n there.
Spend a weekend in a motel with urself n analyze things. Cry, yell, sulk, whatever, n come out of it in time for work. Your woman subconsciously checks u with ur past fagg0try to protect u from outsiders, if she loves u n ain't trying to leave u. If y'all get past that argument n u start comin up see if that bytch don't stfu more often than not, especially if u hold up ur end of the bargain n pull a Steve McQueen n never conplain. How u supposed to complain when u supposed to be in ctrl? Ur dumb ass is being a hater to urself.
U supposed to be the shoulder to cry on, not the chick, not if u Black man trying to get it in a CAC world. Real cheddar cheese, these other races can talk that vulnerability bullshyt cuz they have so much fukking power their women have power. If u ain't tryna live like a sucka ass nikka (n I have) then u can't be vulnerable to a CAC who makes movies, shows, literature, art, and scientific theories to display your vulnerability due to ur inferiority.
But if u wanna live like a wack ass nikka then cry about it. Don't be turning the coli into a hoe ass nikka meeting, u can go in The Salon n find sympathetic broads fa that shyt. nikkaz running around setting up soap boxes fast as fukk to look like hoes. Jfc stop living like a jerkoff n get in the game, it's Chessboxing u idi0ts, u don't cry about ur Queen or ur other pieces during ur moves. Each relationship is a restart of the chess match with the world, because u got a new Queen.
A man needs a partner in crime in this life or he would kill himself or others. Period. But if u wanna come up in have influence in ur circle u have to be strong. Even a homo would have to follow this advice, male or female, if they don't want to be pitied, which leads to being ctrl'd, which leads to mutual resentment n assured destruction.