Quick Little Gems on Dealing with Men Thread

[malbaker86]

If you think something is bothering your guy, no matter how positive you are, leave him alone once he says he's fine. He might actually have something on his mind but nagging him to talk to you about it isn't going to help, you have to let him come to you when he's ready.


I know when something is bothering you it's natural to want to vent to your friends but the person you should really be talking to is your man. With that said, if you find yourself really heated during a discussion take some time to calm down. You might say something in anger that you'll regret later on.

Females, while y'all KNOW this, REALLY try and follow these two. It's very important that y'all understand how we pay attention to the things that was said in these two paragraphs

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

the minute you think you know somebody re-evaluate what you think you mean to them

 

[Libra Lady]

Don't settle/Be picky.

Don't feel that you have to go along, just to get along.

Understand that jealousy is a form of control.

Realize that when it comes to infidelity, it doesn't matter how fine, smart, sexy etc you think you are or how fine, smart, sexy etc you may be, if a man wants to cheat...he will.

 

[Discipline]

-Pay attention to who his closest friends are. You can tell a lot about someone by who they keep in their company

-always be honest no matter what. Even if it hurts their feelings

-in an argument don't waste time trying to get him to agree with your point of view. Make sure he understands it and leave it at that

Not going to intervene in this thread...even though it is tempting.

I will say that there are some gems in this post though.

 

[Carter G. Hoodson]

Thread has alot of jewels

 

[White Chocolate]

If we as ladies want to be treated like queens, we have to learn to treat our men like kings. For instance:
- Cook his favorite meal
- Work on our sex game (there can always be room for improvement)
- Keep up your appearance

I am not saying that you have to worship a man and spend all your time catering to his every need, but there is nothing wrong making a man feel good. With that being said, we should also set standards for ourselves. Find a guy who also cares enough to do little things that will make you happy…Remember, it’s a partnership and both parties have to give and take.

Ladies, I have to agree with the fella’s, there is nothing wrong with paying for a date (once in a while). This shows that you are:
-Independent
-Interested in him and not just the gifts that you receive

Ladies get to know a guy before jumping into bed with him. Go on a few dates and find out his interests. If he is only focused on having sex, while you are looking for something more meaningful, then keep it moving.

 

[marcuz]

-Watch how he talks to/treats his mother

- It is your right as a woman to expect that a man will pay for dinner or whatever else in exchange for your time

-A man always wants something..ALWAYS.
A) If you are willing to sleep with him
B) what will it take for you to sleep with him

-never give in easily..set standards and requirements from the moment you open your mouth

- If his conversation is always superficial and never goes beyond the surface, he's not interested

a better indicator is a mans relationship with his father

his relationship with his mother doesn't mean shyt unless he has obvious abandonment issues. most men love their mothers, as they only have one. other women come a dime a dozen, might want to remember that

 

[thoushallhustle]

why are men in here when they threw a fit women were in thei thread?

 

[yeahisaidit]

real men want clingy women.

cheater swag nikkaz don't want clingy women.

this is the first reason, why women fukk up.

they let a fake cheater swag nikka dictate, what they think real men are.

a real guy wants that wakeup call every morning from a female.

if they are courting,....all that aloof/non-attentive/unaffectionate reeks of past baggage damage, play hard to get shyt.

makes real men put you in the possible fukk'em like slick rick told'em to.

prostitute/golddigger swag label bag.

don't be the prostitute lay, cause you will be throwaway.


art barr

I've been corrected...

 

[twan83]

hey i know its your thread but if yall want some opinions ill give you my take from my personal view but im be real blunt about it and wont pull no punches though so you know whats up

i dont want to sugar coat things for you. but anyways just hit me up thru PM or if you dont mind in your own thread and ill get back too with some INSIGHT

Oh thoushallhustle not all of us guys have problems with a female in a thread cuz i dont but thats just me

A female's point of view is very important too just as a man's point of view is on opposite sex question

 

[Art Barr]

thanks babe. *daps* hey what can i say...i've been with the same guy for over 11 years..and happily married for 4. i figure i must have done something right.

well i salute you and your guy.

he got a catch,...
as you know exactly what's to it.


art barr

 

[Art Barr]

Realize that when it comes to infidelity, it doesn't matter how fine, smart, sexy etc you think you are or how fine, smart, sexy etc you may be, if a man wants to cheat...he will.

that is a cheater, or p*ssy hoarder who cheats.

men do not p*ssy hoard in committed relationships.
cheaters p*ssy hoard in committed relationships.

label all males accurrately,....
all adult males are not men...
get your labeling system together, to recognize who and waht is what.

male labels:

non-committal types:

p*ssy hoarder
cheater
roster builder
simp
bytch-nikka
faker
player
chauvinist
pimp
gigolo
periodical
provider
switch sider
gay or bi

commital types

grown man
loyalist
protector


art barr

 

[Libra Lady]

My "labeling" system is just fine, and my point still stands but um thanks anyway.

 

[Art Barr]

My "labeling" system is just fine, and my point still stands but um thanks anyway.

cheaters are cheaters,...they are not men.

that is what you are not getting.

art barr

 

[Libra Lady]

No! what you are not getting is that this thread is titled 'Quick Little Gems on Dealing with Men Thread'. I can easily go into who is who and what is what, but I made the initial comment pretty clear, concise and pertaining to what the thread is about.