Quick Little Gems on Dealing with Men Thread

[dr. pill biden]

Most of your time dealing with a man will be catering to his ego. Not just catering in the cooking cleaning sense, cause let these new knuckleheads tell it, that's all there is to it. Men are prideful creatures, and they are as fragile and irrational with their ego as women are said to be with their emotions.

A lotta conflict goes on these days because men want their emotions to be catered to and women their ego, instead of the other way around which is the natural order of things.

That being said, you gotta be cautious in choosing your words and actions so as not to harm the delicate ego of a man. Make him feel like he's the man and cheerlead him on incessantly no matter how asinine you might think it is (within reason). Don't fight dirty, and keep it respectful because a man with a bruised ego...well just take a look around the Coli for examples

Semi-relatedly, avoid men who grew up with all sisters or all women in the house and no father, especially if you did grow up with a good father. He's not used to seeing how a man and woman should talk to each other in an discussion or argument. He will get inappropriately confrontational or overly argumentative with you and yap too fukking much in the manner that women will often confront each other. Some heterosexual men are out here walking around with the subconscious attitudes and mannerisms of women and if you too are naturally a very feminine person, the whole balance of energy is off and both of ya'll will end up with constant headaches.

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

Guys, get THE fukk OUT. I went through all of that shyt pruning the men's thread and you all are up in here doing the same shyt. If you're not going to be constructive or serious move around and let them live.

 

[malbaker86]

Listen to the ladies who say "yall get tested before sexin". Heck ask him when the last time he got tested and i bet yall will be shocked at how long ago it was.

Also, when you become serious w/a guy, throw em a curve ball and ask him when the last time he checked his credit and seen his credit report. THAT shows how much he manages his money and debt. When me and my wife first got serious, we were discussing finances immediately

 

[Amy Traphouse]

If you're serious with a guy, don't waste time to discuss future plans such as marriage, kids, long term goals etc and make sure those plans are being put into motion. No point in wasting years with a person who all talk and no action.

Don't get strung along! If a guy is leading you on with no clear direction, LEAVE!

If he doesn't have a bank acct, red flag. It more than likely means he's bad with his money, has forced closed accts, and bad credit with no intention of repairing it.

Don't bother if he makes a point to do things to impress other men (i.e. buying rims, cars, clothes, etc to show out for his friends or stunt at the club)

 

[So-Chi]

If we as ladies want to be treated like queens, we have to learn to treat our men like kings. For instance:
- Cook his favorite meal
- Work on our sex game (there can always be room for improvement)
- Keep up your appearance

I am not saying that you have to worship a man and spend all your time catering to his every need, but there is nothing wrong making a man feel good. With that being said, we should also set standards for ourselves. Find a guy who also cares enough to do little things that will make you happy…Remember, it’s a partnership and both parties have to give and take.

Ladies, I have to agree with the fella’s, there is nothing wrong with paying for a date (once in a while). This shows that you are:
-Independent
-Interested in him and not just the gifts that you receive

Ladies get to know a guy before jumping into bed with him. Go on a few dates and find out his interests. If he is only focused on having sex, while you are looking for something more meaningful, then keep it moving.

I expected "single, lonely woman foolishness", but this here?

 

[HelgaPataki]

background checks are necessary. i saved myself from some horrible things with these.

 

[PartyHeart]

Don't let any men (or women for that matter) shame you into thinking you are some type of gold digger or bad person for seeking a man who can be a good provider. Thats normal.

 

[malbaker86]

background checks are necessary. i saved myself from some horrible things with these.

Fn who background DO check out, do you inform them that you did a background check on them?

 

[HelgaPataki]

Fn who background DO check out, do you inform them that you did a background check on them?

men don't need to know everything. i'd have nothing to gain from telling him. for the guy whose info comes back kinda shady, he will be informed

 

[innocentdevil]

-Don't stoop to low blows in a argument...unless you are ready to receive what you gave out.

-When arguing learn how to admit when you were wrong, and apologize. Even if you think you were right...apologize for hurting his feelings.

- Learn to talk about your problems up front instead of making side comments, and don't bring up past problems in an argument to "one up" on him.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

If we as ladies want to be treated like queens, we have to learn to treat our men like kings. For instance:
- Cook his favorite meal
- Work on our sex game (there can always be room for improvement)
- Keep up your appearance

I am not saying that you have to worship a man and spend all your time catering to his every need, but there is nothing wrong making a man feel good. With that being said, we should also set standards for ourselves. Find a guy who also cares enough to do little things that will make you happy…Remember, it’s a partnership and both parties have to give and take.

Ladies, I have to agree with the fella’s, there is nothing wrong with paying for a date (once in a while). This shows that you are:
-Independent
-Interested in him and not just the gifts that you receive

Ladies get to know a guy before jumping into bed with him. Go on a few dates and find out his interests. If he is only focused on having sex, while you are looking for something more meaningful, then keep it moving.

if only this happened in real life

 

[colicolicoli]

-Don't stoop to low blows in a argument...unless you are ready to receive what you gave out.

-When arguing learn how to admit when you were wrong, and apologize. Even if you think you were right...apologize for hurting his feelings.

It's like you wrote this post specifically for me. I'm working on it though...I've started doing #2...but #1 I'm still ridiculous on. I'm the Queen of Low Blows.

I've got a lot of growing up to do.

 

[Anothergirl]

if only this happened in real life

i basically said the same thing(and more) in #7 of my post. i guess the rest of the science i spit hurt to many feeling for ya'll to dap me up tho.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

i basically said the same thing(and more) in #7 of my post. i guess the rest of the science i spit hurt to many feeling for ya'll to dap me up tho.




i was too busy filling in my daily posting quota

 

[Anothergirl]

Most of your time dealing with a man will be catering to his ego. Not just catering in the cooking cleaning sense, cause let these new knuckleheads tell it, that's all there is to it. Men are prideful creatures, and they are as fragile and irrational with their ego as women are said to be with their emotions.

A lotta conflict goes on these days because men want their emotions to be catered to and women their ego, instead of the other way around which is the natural order of things.

That being said, you gotta be cautious in choosing your words and actions so as not to harm the delicate ego of a man. Make him feel like he's the man and cheerlead him on incessantly no matter how asinine you might think it is (within reason). Don't fight dirty, and keep it respectful because a man with a bruised ego...well just take a look around the Coli for examples

Semi-relatedly, avoid men who grew up with all sisters or all women in the house and no father, especially if you did grow up with a good father. He's not used to seeing how a man and woman should talk to each other in an discussion or argument. He will get inappropriately confrontational or overly argumentative with you and yap too fukking much in the manner that women will often confront each other. Some heterosexual men are out here walking around with the subconscious attitudes and mannerisms of women and if you too are naturally a very feminine person, the whole balance of energy is off and both of ya'll will end up with constant headaches.

DON'T SLEEP! some of the soundest advice dropped in this thread so far. Quoted for emphasis.