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Shugg84
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1) stay away from men who didn't grow up with two active LOVING parents in their lives....men from single parent homes = no go.
2) if you ever hear him say shyt like "well i respect my mom and the women in my family" RUN! don't walk RUN! he's basically lowkey saying "fukk the rest of you...you're not even worth my basic human respect initially until you jump thru hoops to prove yourself". do not think you can change or conform this type of guy that doesn't initially give everyone the same fair shot regardless of gender. it's best to just run like Usain Bolt from guys that even hint at that mentality.
3) only mess with highly ambitious and "driven" men. ask what profession his parent are in first date!!! if his parents are engineers..lawyers ...doctors etc ....chances are they've passed down an elite work ethic ...the importance of academia and instilled a hardcore will to succeed in him.
4) Stay away from the "dreamers" always talking about what they're "gonna do". these types may initially deceive you into believing they are "Driven and Ambitious" with all their talk and delusions of grandeur....but ACTIONS speak louder than words. if he's claims he's an "artist" ask for PROOF. say "i'd like to see some of some of your work" and ask questions like "have you been featured in any galleries ...editorials" etc. if he's not actively and fervently trying to achieve the goals he's talking about.....nip it in the bud ASAP! deadbeat alert.
5) stay away from men who don't like animals. if he's likewhen he hears about animal abuse or sees a stray puppy on the road and doesn't even bat an eyelash...it's a NO GO! (just trust me on this one....it sounds petty but it's actually an IMPORTANT character\ethics and empathy level assessment test ;))
6) Never be with a guy who loves you or admires you less than you love and admire him. it should be equal admiration from him...or he should be feeling you MORE (or at least more than you let on initially). unfortunately in most relationships one person is always the 'chaser' and one person is being "chased". that's just the way it is...it's the nature of relationships. the way i see most dating going nowadays...the odds error highly in mens favor as far as who has more to lose esp. in the beginning stages. it's just better that he's the one chasing you and not the other way around. (just trust me on this one as well) which leads me to my next point....
7) if you DO manage to find a great guy. one that's driven...respectful...from a good family....openminded and appreciative of you. BE ATTENTIVE! go out of your way to show him that he means the world to you by putting him first when at all possible. consider his needs when doing everyday things. for instance - shopping? call him and ask him he needs you to pick up anything for him. buy HIM gifts when ever possible...shows that your not just sitting around waiting for handouts and that are actually willing to reciprocate, match and EXCEED anything he does for you (yes even financially). try to get into the things he likes .....even if you don't necessarily like said thing or suck at it. just by trying to put him first and making the effort shows where your heart is concerning him. Cook for him. you know what they say about a mans\heart stomach correlation? it's true.
stay in shape by keeping a gym membership ...dress nicely ..wear nice perfumes and keep yourself up for him. let him know you take pride in keeping yourself looking good FOR HIM and that it's not for anyone else. BE LOYAL to him and take on the aire of other dudes not existing to you. that means cutting excessive male "friends" from your social circle...purging numbers out of your phone and falling back on all that excessive social networking.
the key is doing so much for him that he'd genuinely feel like he were LOSING the best thing he's ever had if he were to fukk things up with you. (this advice is only for super LOYAL dudes tho. so becareful and choose wisely.)
8) and finally the best piece of advice i've ever gotten about men (from a MALE friend of mine ironically):
if you ever meet a guy and something about his eyes scares you or just gives you weird feeling in your gut...even if you're not exactly sure why....RUN. don't walk. run. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS when it comes to men. our instincts is the biggest protection we have as women and the eyes say so much more than you can imagine. it may just save you from heartbreak or even more importantly save your LIFE.
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I'm going to disagree with whoever said the thing about always expecting a man to pay for dinner, I bet that kind of shyt has the suffragettes rolling in their graves 
. If he wants to pay then that's cool but always be prepared to pay your own way. I'm going to go even further by saying that you should completely pay for some nights out; now I know some guys might not allow this but trust me, they'll appreciate the thought.
Don't go into a relationship expecting a guy to change for you or consider him a fixer upper. If you're not accepting and happy with the man that he is when you first meet him then move on.
If you think something is bothering your guy, no matter how positive you are, leave him alone once he says he's fine. He might actually have something on his mind but nagging him to talk to you about it isn't going to help, you have to let him come to you when he's ready.
I know when something is bothering you it's natural to want to vent to your friends but the person you should really be talking to is your man. With that said, if you find yourself really heated during a discussion take some time to calm down. You might say something in anger that you'll regret later on.
If you find yourself snooping through your man's shyt all the time just end things. Regardless of whether he is or is not messing around on you your relationship has no trust so you might as well move on.
Playing games is for kids. If you want an adult relationship then treat your man with respect and keep things 100%, if he's not giving you the same then move on.
. If he wants to pay then that's cool but always be prepared to pay your own way. I'm going to go even further by saying that you should completely pay for some nights out; now I know some guys might not allow this but trust me, they'll appreciate the thought.Don't go into a relationship expecting a guy to change for you or consider him a fixer upper. If you're not accepting and happy with the man that he is when you first meet him then move on.
If you think something is bothering your guy, no matter how positive you are, leave him alone once he says he's fine. He might actually have something on his mind but nagging him to talk to you about it isn't going to help, you have to let him come to you when he's ready.
I know when something is bothering you it's natural to want to vent to your friends but the person you should really be talking to is your man. With that said, if you find yourself really heated during a discussion take some time to calm down. You might say something in anger that you'll regret later on.
If you find yourself snooping through your man's shyt all the time just end things. Regardless of whether he is or is not messing around on you your relationship has no trust so you might as well move on.
Playing games is for kids. If you want an adult relationship then treat your man with respect and keep things 100%, if he's not giving you the same then move on.
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
1) stay away from men who didn't grow up with two active LOVING parents in their lives....men from single parent homes = no go.
2) if you ever hear him say shyt like "well i respect my mom and the women in my family
3) only mess with highly ambitious and "driven" men. ask what profession his parent are in first date!!! if his parents are engineers..lawyers ...doctors etc ....chances are they've passed down an elite work ethic ...the importance of academia and instilled a hardcore will to succeed in him.
4) Stay away from the "dreamers" always talking about what they're "gonna do". these types may initially deceive you into believing they are "Driven and Ambitious" with all their talk and delusions of grandeur....but ACTIONS speak louder than words. if he's claims he's an "artist" ask for PROOF. say "i'd like to see some of some of your work" and ask questions like "have you been featured in any galleries ...editorials" etc. if he's not actively and fervently trying to achieve the goals he's talking about.....nip it in the bud ASAP! deadbeat alert.
5) stay away from men who don't like animals. if he's like
6) Never be with a guy who loves you or admires you less than you love and admire him. it should be equal admiration from him...or he should be feeling you MORE (or at least more than you let on initially). unfortunately in most relationships one person is always the 'chaser' and one person is being "chased". that's just the way it is...it's the nature of relationships. the way i see most dating going nowadays...the odds error highly in mens favor as far as who has more to lose esp. in the beginning stages. it's just better that he's the one chasing you and not the other way around. (just trust me on this one as well) which leads me to my next point....
7) if you DO manage to find a great guy. one that's driven...respectful...from a good family....openminded and appreciative of you. BE ATTENTIVE! go out of your way to show him that he means the world to you by putting him first when at all possible. consider his needs when doing everyday things. for instance - shopping? call him and ask him he needs you to pick up anything for him. buy HIM gifts when ever possible...shows that your not just sitting around waiting for handouts and that are actually willing to reciprocate, match and EXCEED anything he does for you (yes even financially). try to get into the things he likes .....even if you don't necessarily like said thing or suck at it. just by trying to put him first and making the effort shows where your heart is concerning him. Cook for him. you know what they say about a mans\heart stomach correlation? it's true.
stay in shape by keeping a gym membership ...dress nicely ..wear nice perfumes and keep yourself up for him. let him know you take pride in keeping yourself looking good FOR HIM and that it's not for anyone else. BE LOYAL to him and take on the aire of other dudes not existing to you. that means cutting excessive male "friends" from your social circle...purging numbers out of your phone and falling back on all that excessive social networking.
the key is doing so much for him that he'd genuinely feel like he were LOSING the best thing he's ever had if he were to fukk things up with you. (this advice is only for super LOYAL dudes tho. so becareful and choose wisely.)
8) and finally the best piece of advice i've ever gotten about men (from a MALE friend of mine ironically):
if you ever meet a guy and something about his eyes scares you or just gives you weird feeling in your gut...even if you're not exactly sure why
damn,..
anothergirl,....
is not just other random girl.........
wow,....you know what's up!!!
prolific posting!!
art barr
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
yeahisaidit said:
real men want clingy women.
cheater swag nikkaz don't want clingy women.
this is the first reason, why women fukk up.
they let a fake cheater swag nikka dictate, what they think real men are.
a real guy wants that wakeup call every morning from a female.
if they are courting,....all that aloof/non-attentive/unaffectionate reeks of past baggage damage, play hard to get shyt.
makes real men put you in the possible fukk'em like slick rick told'em to.
prostitute/golddigger swag label bag.
don't be the prostitute lay, cause you will be throwaway.
art barr
malbaker86
Gators
That's the same thing us men look for in a female tho lol
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
first are you black or white?
second,..you can not use roster builder swag to get in a committed relationship.
as roster builder's only committ via settling sam syndrome.
when they are so burned out from lying so muchZ
they need to cheat on the guy they settled on to get theor swag back.
do not follow that bullshyt advice.
art barr
Anothergirl
Goat ™
thanks babe. *daps* hey what can i say...i've been with the same guy for over 11 years..and happily married for 4. i figure i must have done something right.
*Takes Notes*
run like usain bolt?
This is the best you can come up with?
on a second note....my dad is a Senior Project Manager for SNC Lavalin (Civil Engineer). Reasearch the firm's standing and come fukk with a nikka
This is the best you can come up with?
on a second note....my dad is a Senior Project Manager for SNC Lavalin (Civil Engineer). Reasearch the firm's standing and come fukk with a nikka
Some things you said are...hit and miss, in my humble opinion. Mainly #3 and #5.
I'll elaborate if there's a need, but for now I'll just say both are wildly speculative and in need of some revision.
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